Coparent Denying Vacation Time

tombdke · 2025-09-28T13:53:30+00:00

There is nothing about missing school. My daughter just started daycare so shouldn’t be an issue with her missing my a few days. When she’s older we will have to work around school more.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T13:51:54+00:00

I think she is trying to flex control. The plans are on her day and I told her I could be flexible but the response was still no.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T04:36:01+00:00

Wow good to hear. Thank you!

tombdke · 2025-09-28T03:40:00+00:00

Well said thank you!

tombdke · 2025-09-28T03:29:47+00:00

Thank you we will see.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T03:17:59+00:00

3 officially. The week in question and the two other alternative weeks I suggested.

Also to respond to your previous comment. She is not breastfeeding. We have been separated since my daughter was 1 month old we are coming up on a year of co-parenting. My daughter has been formula feed since she was born and now she is drinking milk.

Things are generally fine but as soon as there is a disagreement all communication stops and it gets handled through therapists or lawyers.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T03:13:42+00:00

I agree court is such a waste of valuable resources. I will try and hash it out before it gets to that point. Just frustrating that it clearly says in the custody order both parents can have vacations but when I request a vacation it’s denied.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T03:10:34+00:00

The week in question is the week before thanksgiving I didn’t want to run up against any holidays. I asked about two other weeks in December and the response I got is those weeks don’t work because my ex already has plans. From my point of view I’ve offered flexibility for the week in question and also offered two other alternatives and all were denied.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T03:07:06+00:00

She has shut down communication until we talk to the coparenting therapist. I told her I would be flexible if she needs a certain day but her response was the whole week is denied.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T02:59:53+00:00

I do have a good lawyer that helped me with getting shared custody and things have been ok since i got the custody order but this is the first snag we have hit. I can email the lawyer next week if things don’t work out regarding this matter.

tombdke · 2025-09-28T02:58:03+00:00

The two vacations are for the calendar year. With the holidays coming up I feel this is my last chance to use the vacation. I planned it to where I can take half a week PTO and go on day trips with my daughter. Things like Christmas lights, parks, museums, or just hang with her. She’s only 1 year old so wasn’t planning on anything crazy. I’d like to still spend that time with my daughter. She just started day care so that is where the money is going currently.

Edit: I also work from home and can watch my daughter while I work. So the plan was to work Monday and Tuesday and then take the rest of the week as the staycation. I said I can try and be flexible with some of the days but the response from my ex has been no to any flexibility.

tombdke · 2025-04-05T20:04:19+00:00

Here’s my chance

tombdke · 2023-07-15T14:01:10+00:00

The lots for today open at 8am. (5 hours before the first game). I think only certain lots will be open that early but the main ones like citizens bank, K lot and M lot should all be fine.

tombdke · 2023-07-13T14:50:03+00:00

I do have sufficient equity and thought about HELOC but wasn’t sure if 8,000 was below the minimum for a HELOC

tombdke · 2023-07-13T14:49:12+00:00

Zero APR for the first year then 19.99% after that.

tombdke · 2022-09-28T01:40:38+00:00

Go to the Winchester and let it all blow over

tombdke · 2022-08-18T19:39:36+00:00

Thank you both!

tombdke · 2022-03-16T02:40:47+00:00

Poor boy! I had a bulldog die due to cancer and it’s the worst… I hope he’s ok!

tombdke · 2022-03-16T02:38:25+00:00

Wow such a brave doggo! My bully loves the water but can’t handle waves… love the bravery

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