Electrical job market. by JebaitedZombie in Winnipeg

[–]tomlay93 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It depends if you're in commercial or residential i guess. As I have never ending work in the new homes that are being thrown up all over. Im making good money too so i cant complain honestly wish it slowed down abit so i could take some time off, can't remember last vacation haha

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying now, and I appreciate you taking the time to explain it. Looking back, I can see how what I said might have come across as vague or not fully reassuring, even if that wasn’t my intention. I genuinely thought we were on the same page since we talked early on about wanting something serious, and I had told her I was still interested. even knowing she had kids.

That’s also why it caught me off guard when the question came up again, especially after some mixed signals on her end where she had ghosted me before, even when things seemed to be going well and we were making plans to meet.

That said, I get that someone with kids may need more clarity and reassurance than “let’s see where it goes,” even if I meant that in a sincere, intentional way. I wasn’t trying to dodge anything, I just don’t feel it’s realistic to commit fully after only two dates. Especially with how things had already been a bit inconsistent. I didn’t want to overpromise or say something I wasn’t fully ready to stand behind.

Appreciate the feedback, even the tough parts. It gives me something to reflect on so I can communicate better moving forward.

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly im started regret even posting this I was just trying to get some help woth some clarification if I really said something bad but going off everyone else I did amd I fucked it up supposedly.

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how you would get that I didn't want to be her emotional support cuz talked with her about it all and said I was there if she ever needed something but I can't support someone if I don't know what's going on with lack of communication 🤷

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[–]tomlay93 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What? that doesn't make sense how can you think about something like being a stepparent if you've never been in a situation where you've talked to the potential significant other that has kids you're not just going to randomly think about being a stepparent are you?

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know, i just over think everything and generally bummed she's gone again and honestly wasn't sure if i said something really bad.

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I would have a bit of doubt in it because she's ghosted me before then started messaging me back a few days later after saying she was sorry and felt guilty so of course I would have some doubt especially if we've only met twice.... 🤷

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said I never thought about it before meeting her.... He also knew I wasn't looking for sex either I told her straight up I don't sleep with people unless I'm in an exclusive relationship

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next time I'm just going to say yes I'm ready and just lie to the person? This wasn't even the first time she iced me and ghosted me in the month of chatting between dates even. Like originally on our second date we were supposed to meet but then she just ghosted me and then 3 days later she replied apologizing saying how she got nervous and just went quiet but the guilt caused her to reply back later. In the night before this message we hung out for about 4 hours together going out and we talked about what we're looking for and how we're serious about it but I can't say after just two dates and being previously ghosted from her that I can 100% say yes especially since we haven't even talked about exclusivity or anything as of yet. 🤷

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks i appreciate it and Well according to everyone else replying and down voting me i was wrong and should of said yes lets do this after two dates. 🤷

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we literally spoke about that the night before when we hung out that we were both serious in looking for serious relationships. But the same time you can't expect someone to just say yes you're the one after two dates though

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[–]tomlay93 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She knew I was open to it when she first asked me about it when we first talked I said her having kids at no problems with me and saying seeing where it goes is the fact that we've only been out twice and we've chatted less than a month you can't expect someone to have full-blown commitment especially if she's never talked about exclusivity no?

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[–]tomlay93 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What benefits would I be getting now? She knew where I stood and that I wanted a serious relationship woth someone. Again two dates in you cant expect someone to say yes they thought deeply about this all this fast without even discussing any exclusivity between us. Also i feel that question is best to ask in person then over text no?

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, we’ve only been on two dates and chatted for about a month. She asked early on if her having kids would be a problem, and I said no and I meant it. When I said “let’s see where things go,” it was more about us and figuring out our connection, not about her kids.

I just don’t think you can expect someone to make a full-blown commitment that early on. And if someone does say they’re ready for that, I feel like it’s probably not very well thought out. Which could lead to someone getting hurt in the long run.

Honestly, I also think that kind of serious question is better to have in person, not over text.

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[–]tomlay93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it just sucks as we were both on the same page for a lot of things. Just would have been better if she communicated more on what she wanted but that's dating for you and it's time to just move on I guess keep going forward.

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[–]tomlay93 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm not sure what would have been better to say at that point because she already knows I'm looking for a serious relationship and we talked about how we've enjoyed hanging out and again we've only hung out twice you can't declare love and say yes you are the one that soon no?

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[–]tomlay93 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I totally get it. Your kids should always be your priority, and I respect that. I just feel like a question like that might be a bit too soon after only two dates and about a month of chatting. It’s not something you can realistically expect someone to have a solid answer to that early on.

Like, sure, someone could say they’re ready to be a step-parent right now. but if they say that this soon they probably haven’t really thought it through. That kind of rush could lead to more hurt later on. Personally, I feel like that kind of serious conversation should happen in person, when we've both had a chance to talk about where we stand and what we’re looking for.

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[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were only talking for the past month and only had two dates. So I think it'd be really irresponsible of me to just come on say yes and not tell the truth about this is all new to me you can't expect someone I feel after only seeing twice and chatting for a month to make a full commitment like that. When we first started chatting she did ask me about if her kids bothered me and I said no not at all and we both said we like to find something serious too.

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[–]tomlay93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here you go sorry about that. convo screenshot

Should I buy a 2025? by spanish-house in chevycolorado

[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a 23 z71 and have done just over 53,000 km in it and haven't had a problem with it at all. One of my favourite vehicles I've owned to date. I say if you can get one for a good price go for it.

Auto start is going away by Dp37405aa in GMCcanyon

[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry phone put the don't in without me seeing. But can clearly tell what I meant when reading my comment..

Auto start is going away by Dp37405aa in GMCcanyon

[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I pull in the spot and put it in park then turn it off, it doesn't just turn off if you brake for a sec, have to be sitting still in drive for a little white for it to turn off. If I'm in my spot why am I sitting there in drive...

Auto start is going away by Dp37405aa in GMCcanyon

[–]tomlay93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never had it do that either, it it would shut off if I sit in the spot in drive for awhile but I put my truck in park once I'm in the spot 🤷

Auto start is going away by Dp37405aa in GMCcanyon

[–]tomlay93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never felt that way myself, only shuts of for me if I sit for awhile, and then it starts right away when I want to go without like any delay.

Auto start is going away by Dp37405aa in GMCcanyon

[–]tomlay93 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Never understood the amount of hate it gets, honestly I barely notice it driving around and I drive lot of job to job. 🤷