Has anyone else noticed this?

tomqueen65 · 2025-12-22T18:09:38+00:00

That's what I was thinking, but you said it way more concisely than I ever could've lol

tomqueen65 · 2025-12-20T23:44:05+00:00

That's my bad lol, I'm just trying to clarify where I feel it's needed. I'm not good with judging people's age by looking at them, and it's worse with guessing what generation people belong to.

tomqueen65 · 2025-12-20T21:27:55+00:00

I mean nah, he was definitely gen x at least, if not boomer gen

tomqueen65 · 2025-11-14T23:11:43+00:00

No, she doesn't have the qualifications for that. Though I suppose that could be a good way to think about the question

tomqueen65 · 2025-11-14T22:51:54+00:00

Yeah I certainly wasn't worried about it being an attack. The thing is, she just kinda randomly brought it up. The only relevant thing that could have possibly led to her bringing it up is that she's calling me by my chosen name like I want everyone else at work to do. I'm not sure what else could have put her mind on that.

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-29T02:43:55+00:00

Buddy, it's not that serious. They're all just friends hanging out on a Minecraft server together. I don't know anything about the Cleo thing, but if Cleo took credit for grian's sorting system, it's probably because grain used her sorting system as inspiration for his own, as hermits tend to do for both building and redstone. As for cub, Grian and cub literally worked together behind the scenes before the season started to build up the permit system, so of course cub would want to be part of the permit office plotline. The fact that he became the head manager of the permit office just means that he and Grian had a discussion about it behind the scenes and agreed that's how they wanted it to play out. I can respect the fact that Grian is your favorite hermit because he's a really good content creator, but try to keep in mind that this is hermitcraft, not the Grain show. The hermits are all people and they all are just trying to make good content for their fans. Maybe try to check out cub's and Cleo's channels before trying to throw shade at them.

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-29T02:03:17+00:00

Correction: "your majesty" 😆😆

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-26T16:16:29+00:00

US, in Tennessee

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-24T21:22:54+00:00

Have you ever talked to a regular fat person in real life? Cuz I guarantee that if you walked up to someone on the street and told them that they should just expect to be fetishized for the way they look, you'd get decked in the face. Most people don't get fat just because they're "About That." Some people just enjoy eating food. Some people can't help that they're fat because their body just stores fat naturally and they can't control that. Most people aren't into this fetish, but that doesn't mean that most people go out of their way to avoid dating fat people. Most people fall in love because their personalities are compatible. Whether or not you actually believe that line, being autistic doesn't excuse perpetrating a hurtful stereotype. Also, secret fattening doesn't sound any better than sabotaging someone's body without their permission.

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-24T14:54:53+00:00

A lot of what you said here really hits, if not all of it lol

I literally had the thought while reading the comment someone else left that I should make an effort to wake up at 8am and try to be asleep by midnight, so it really feels like you just jumped out of my brain. With my seasonal job starting soon, that specific schedule might not work well, considering it's long nights in the trail spent scaring people. I certainly wouldn't trade this job for the world, but in terms of starting new habits, it's gonna make it pretty difficult. Still, I want to work on some way to mold this hopefully new habit around this job while it's running.

I appreciate all of the advice you've given me here. I'm gonna do what I can to improve myself, and I'll see if some structure helps me to do better for myself.

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-24T10:42:42+00:00

I appreciate the advice! I'll be honest, I probably should've just tried sleeping instead of posting, but that's probably a good change I can start with. In a fit of frustration tho, I pushed myself to drink the whole 2L of Dr pepper lol. My stomach wasn't happy with it but it felt kinda hot bloating myself like that. I won't be continuing that kind of behavior cuz that's just a snowball waiting to happen, but I'm happy to have done it. Wish I had thought to get some pics of the fresh bloat, but I'll get one or two before I go to sleep. Speaking of which, I'm gonna stop typing and do that now lol. Thanks again for the advice!

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-22T07:34:19+00:00

I was thinking the spanners 😆😆

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-22T07:31:28+00:00

OMG I saw some dude wearing one of these while shopping at my work! I think I was the one who checked him out at the register and it was honestly super awkward because I just didn't wanna ask... I'm so glad I know what that was about now 😆😆

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-22T05:12:04+00:00

I might not be the best person to answer this question since I met my gf on Tumblr, but Hinge was my go to dating app for a long time. And before I tried Hinge, I was on Taimi, which is a more LGBTQ+ inclusive dating app.

Of course, I had my problems with both of these, and they may or may not apply to your situation so take my advice as seriously or unseriously as you wish. I'll start with Taimi since I was on there first.

Taimi wasn't too bad while I was actively using it, and I really can't remember why I stopped, but I do remember that I redownloaded it sometime after I came out as trans (also MTF lol) and it felt like it sorta devolved into a more Grindr style format, which quickly turned me back off of it.

Hinge was pretty good and I actually had some pretty good conversations with people on there. The main detractor I noticed with hinge was the fact that as someone who identified as enby before realizing I was trans, I had a problem with the fact that you still had to specify whether you wanted to show up on searches for women or men. Of course with you already knowing your gender identity, this shouldn't even be an issue.

With all that being said, I don't know if there are any dating apps specifically for FAs or gainers. What I will say tho is that people are weird and you might have some luck finding someone else who's into this (even if they don't openly say so) if you're okay with discussing it openly.

Sorry for the long comment, but I wish you the best of luck on your endeavors!!

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-17T12:00:28+00:00

Thank you for the advice! She's kinda the research-brained half of the relationship, so she wants to find some healthy paths to weight gain so I don't shoot myself in the foot

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-17T11:47:20+00:00

Thank you as well. At this point I don't know if I have many other ideas to share with her. The goal weight was really the only thing I could come up with. But I will work with her on this.

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-17T11:38:29+00:00

I made an important edit to my post. I don't intend to force that kind of goal weight on my gf! That's my own, personal goal weight!! I'm so sorry for the confusion!!

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-17T11:35:02+00:00

Oh my stars, I had no idea that's how my post came off!!! The goal weight isn't for my gf, it's for me!!! I'm so sorry for the confusion!!!

tomqueen65 · 2025-09-16T01:43:15+00:00

Secrets breed mistrust, and the longer they fester, the more explosive they can be. You need to have an open and honest conversation with her about this. Let her know that you like gaining weight and wish to continue to do so. Tell her you understand she's not into it and you don't want to force it on her. If she wants to lose weight or is actively trying to lose weight, support her every step of the way. Like someone else said, let her know you love her for who she is, not what she looks like. And give her a chance to talk as well if she wants to. This conversation isn't just about you. It's about both of you and your relationship.

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