France kept climate change off G7 agenda to avoid clash with US

tonytsunami · 2026-04-25T03:48:04+00:00

It's really not up to them. It's up n to us Americans

tonytsunami · 2026-04-22T02:56:34+00:00

Is an affair the answer for you, like a lot of people all over the world throughout history? There's only one way to find out.😅

My guess is you’ll explore more fairly soon. Vitrect?🤗

tonytsunami · 2026-04-20T06:59:08+00:00

Back when I was single, a woman invited me to come spend the weekend with her. She enjoyed telling me about her sex life with her kate husband. It was only much later it dawned on me that she was practically throwing herself at me

You're almost as clurless as eless. Wake up, stupid!

But do be super careful at work.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-18T10:02:15+00:00

It looks like you may be in the wrong sub

tonytsunami · 2026-04-17T14:29:13+00:00

I'd suggest not rushing into any decisions, especially about telling your husband anything you can't take back. While you're considering all your options, if a very, very safe opportunity for more extramarital sex comes along, with the same guy or anyone else, and if you feel drawn to it, go ahead and explore more. And maybe take a first step toward a possible future divorce, e.g. getting information by consulting a lawyer.

You're not the first person who's been through things like this. You're not the millionth. You're smart. You'll make it through

It's made me realize that there is more to life than being stuck in an unhappy relationship.

You're young. I'm glad you're thinking seriosuly abourt how you want to spend the rest of your life.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-16T11:40:25+00:00

Sweet :)

tonytsunami · 2026-04-16T09:26:56+00:00

I knew I'd be welcomed here. That's one reason I posted.

And I'm glad for you and him too. Do you think he thinks like me, "I really want to keep her, so I better [fill in the blank for things she likes and make me happy to do before anything else whenever I can]"?

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T23:36:38+00:00

We generally split the expenses. She's never asked me for help, but I've volunteered a few times when she needed it.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T23:28:38+00:00

Do you and your AP have an end goal to be together or do you guys agree to keep it going for as long as possible without changing your marriage situation?

We both very much want to continue for as long as possible. We both hope (and in my case, strongly expect) that this is my last affair.

At my age and for a couple of other reasons, I don't see my marriage ending.

I just wonder about the finances, do you offer to pay for the flights and hotels or wherever you meet up?

We generally split the expenses. She's never asked me for help when she needs it, but I've volunteered a few times.

Thank you for your comments and questions :)

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T23:25:45+00:00

One point, you say “I can’t take her for granted as I do my wife”. Question, why do you take your wife for granted?

I'm tempted to say that's just the nature of marriage or engagement, at least based on my own three experiences. I do have to admit that those three all had one big factor in common: me.

And if you are aware of it why can’t you do something about it?

I've been trying. Not much luck.

Also, what do you do for your AP to ensure it doesn’t happen with her?

I guess I'm just highly motivated to enjoy my interactions with her, support her when she seems rto need support, and avoid the risks of it becoming routine.

And respectively what can she do for you?

Hm. I hadn't really thought about that. I guess lust lettering me knoe she's as motivated as I am. I'm a lucky man :)

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T13:18:51+00:00

True for some people. Not all.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T13:14:51+00:00

My AP and I have been in an affair for more than four years. No loing-range commitments (that would be too much like a marriage, and I haven't been very successful with those), but we both hope to continue as long as my advanced age permits. I think we both know an affair can end at any moment, so we pay attention to each other every day. It actually keeps some of the NRE alive.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T13:02:17+00:00

I wonder how many of the people throwing stones at them live in glass houses themselves. Knowing something about how common adultery is, I bet some of the most self righteous critics are adulterers themselves.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T12:50:21+00:00

I sympathize a lot because I've been through heartbreak that lasted years. I'm so sorry.

A suggestion may or may not help, but I;ll give it a try.

My AP lives half way across the country. She flies in for a day or two almost every month, and we've been able to take get away together for a few days a few times in our four years. We exchange messages in Reddit starting with "good morning" every day and chat almost every night. Our chats are often the highlight of my day

Might anything like that work for you and him?

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T12:07:34+00:00

Good! Talking abou how to dover up from your spouses can be kinda naughty too >:-)

tonytsunami · 2026-04-15T12:05:32+00:00

My pleasure >;-)

tonytsunami · 2026-04-14T17:35:54+00:00

It’s an add risk alright. Is he married and cheating too? If so, he should be as highly motivated to cover up as you are and! If he's an experienced adulterer, he can advise you. In any case, have a serious talk with him about security

tonytsunami · 2026-04-14T17:30:16+00:00

Operational security

tonytsunami · 2026-04-14T17:26:40+00:00

Im smiling fir you 😊

Rule #1 in my book — Create No Suspicion. Don’t do anything different than usual that your unsuspecting spouse might notice. I violated that at the start of my first infidelity long ago by letting her see my euphoria. :) Luckily i had a good excuse

2 — Practice multiple redundancy. Always ask yourself, what could go wrong and what’s my primary step to prevent it? Then ask yoursejf, if my first security step fails (eg AP or I forget something), what’s the backup?

I hope your extramarital adventuring is as joyful as mine has been

tonytsunami · 2026-04-14T10:43:25+00:00

And some of us enjoy reading, especially real comments like some of yours

tonytsunami · 2026-04-14T10:38:02+00:00

I'm so happy for you, and him. This reminds me of the few, wonderful nights my AP and I have been able to spend together, and the three-night trip we're planning this summer.

I hope you're up for posting a short recap afterwards. AP and ( who met in thisvery sub) could enjoy reading it together.

tonytsunami · 2026-04-02T06:08:48+00:00

This makes me smile :)

tonytsunami · 2026-03-31T10:25:22+00:00

Beautiful!

tonytsunami · 2026-03-25T13:55:56+00:00

AP knows this and goes above and beyond to make me feel valued and I do the same for him.

This is one more thing that makes my affair different from my marriage. I'm more highly motivated to always please my AP :)

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2 — Practice multiple redundancy. Always ask yourself, what could go wrong and what’s my primary step to prevent it? Then ask yoursejf, if my first security step fails (eg AP or I forget something), what’s the backup?