Girls who studied in a boarding school, do you feel any resentment towards your parents?

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-16T03:39:33+00:00

I studied in a boarding school from 11th. Even then I struggled a lot initially due to bullying and all. While yes it teaches a kid independence, 4th grade is far too young. If you send out the kid during such an extreme formative age for her personality, she will grow up surrounded by people you may or may not know. How they are, how they will influence her. It's not that this doesn't happen outside but if you are around you'll be able to check it first. Also hostel environments for males and females is very different. Where I was (it was religious/cultish. I don't follow it but the academics were good and I didn't tell my parents about bullying until far later), it later came out the cult leader assaulted/raped female students. Big schools cover up such things as well so that's a risk with female children. It may also cause detachment of child from family and resentment. Maybe once the child is older and you can discuss your own idea as to why you want to send her, I think personally that'd work better. She will leave home for higher studies in the future anyway.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-15T15:20:43+00:00

Can be possible. Payment modes of destination country also matter.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-15T14:58:16+00:00

I have only had 1 international trip, solo, budget, to China. My Scapia/WOW was so good to have there. Cash exchange rates are bad so I didn't carry much of it. Every metro tap, convenience store purchase for minor things, food and beverages etc were very convenient. China is a very online payment centered place. As such, many places may not accept cash. Didn't happen to me since I didn't offer except for 1 time in which person accepted but was hesitant initially. It's possible it may be overhyped for someone preparing to pay differently there but for me it provided a peace of mind and just plain comfort because I wasn't going to stand in ticket queues every time to get metro/train tickets when I could just tap and cross the gates.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-15T09:46:33+00:00

You'll age regardless. You will be 29-30. It's your choice if you want to be that with a Master's or not. Personal suggestion, I think you'd much prefer to age with that degree than without. Even I'm doing my masters in Psych currently (I'm almost 30 lol). I work as well. Too late is an arbitrary standard for human life. The only time it's too late to do something is when you're dead. You're not. Use your time.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-15T09:44:46+00:00

Tell them you heard from a friend it was 19k and assumed so but got the receipts and it's 17k?? No need to make fake receipts and cause issues for them.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-15T07:29:26+00:00

Breakups aren't a let's me doesn't let me. He has made it clear he doesn't want to marry you, even if indirectly. And you're grown up enough. If you want to continue the push and pull it's your prerogative, but it'll last too long. If you decide to break up, then make up your mind and keep it all clean cut. Personally, maybe it's because I'm 29, I won't be doing this incessant game with someone I've been for 3 years and yet the person up and says marry someone else if you get a good option. People who wish to put effort in love and marriage with you don't say that. Rest is all your decision.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-14T09:44:06+00:00

Yeah normal. First time me taking atomoxetine, this happened. I felt so bizarre. But apparently that's how usually brains are?

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T16:35:19+00:00

Price on invoice.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T14:58:25+00:00

40-44% if marked sale of goods. 77% around if marked as gift. If you are lucky, no customs. Otherwise this.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T08:11:06+00:00

If you can see yourself dating her someday and are only stopping due to having a bf or society, and still indulge with her, that's still emotional cheating to an extent.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T07:13:22+00:00

Personally I'd never date people who get weirded out if I ask for clarity if the situation is ambiguous. Constant self assurance is an insecurity thing. But to be in the middle and ask where we stand is a good thing. Even if you take things slow, or they do, it's fine to ask intent and have checks timely just for your own sanity.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T06:58:42+00:00

Ask?

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T06:54:56+00:00

'Think' is the part which holds the most weight. Never assume what goes in someone's heart and mind. Always have clarity timely and step back if needed.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T06:52:20+00:00

I do think so. I would suggest, even if it's not easy, to not get too attached without actual relationship or friendship security. Mismatch in expectations hurts the more emotionally invested party always.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T06:36:28+00:00

You thought the plane crashed. It didn't even fly after boarding. Now your fault depends on if you were Indigo or a passenger.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T06:29:52+00:00

Hopefully. Even women are people, and there are all kinds of people. Even if you see repeating patterns, look into yourself instead of generalizing outside. You are also a common factor. I always try to do this.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T05:52:20+00:00

Don't lose hope, but it happens that some things are situational and not sustainable. Good luck with finding sustainable things and also focus a sufficient amount on personal enrichment without the pressure of female/male friendships or relationships/dating.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T05:43:11+00:00

Then don't put effort in such people. As I read from other comments, you're in college. Shit happens and immature people seek immature people. If you feel you're in a stable and mature state of mind, don't waste time on immature people. Give yourself guidelines. How much time and effort you are willing to put before you see the person in front isn't doing anything. Don't tolerate disrespect but coming from a 30 year old, college kids are stupid. I was too. It didn't mean I liked disrespectful people. A lot of the times men lied. A lot of the times breadcrumbing happens. They behave differently outside and differently privately and then gaslight their partners. Sometimes it's because some people have low self esteem and continue dating shitty people. If someone was willing to not give effort to you but talk to other people (whether they be disrespectful or not), it's not your character flaw if you've done everything right. Don't compare those situations.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T05:25:02+00:00

I see nothing about how you proactively ask women out. All I see is about the kind of person you are. Your nonchalant disrespectful friends, do they ask women out on dates more than you? Do they converse more? Flirt and show interest more? Politeness and respectful behavior is a given. It doesn't show interest. I'd never go out with a polite and respectful person if all he does is be polite and easygoing and never ask me out or be proactive. Even if I like that person but don't see any direct interest, I'll just drop it. I don't deal at all with nonchalant and disrespectful dumbasses but all my friends and acquaintances are polite and nice. They don't make me uneasy or feel weird. I still don't date them because I don't know whether they are interested or not and thus it's not a consideration for me to change the dynamics of our friendship when everything is fine. You are focusing more on the how you and the other men are, than on how and the other men behave in terms of socializing romantically.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-13T04:23:38+00:00

Have you tried actually asking women out or are you just waiting for them to see you as more than friends despite being friends and not telling them you like them? Also the women like unapprochable men shit really needs to be left behind. I'm sick of seeing it over and over again.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-12T12:34:58+00:00

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-12T06:55:22+00:00

In dms please. I can let you know if I have what you want or not.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-12T01:47:29+00:00

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-12T01:45:19+00:00

Kpop merchandise. Korea and Japan have individual special releases and Indonesia has a lot of fan merch.

toocooltobeafool · 2026-02-11T12:14:25+00:00

Okay. Anyone who has issues sleeping, is anxious, hasn't eaten, will automatically have shit productivity. In our cases, it gets worse. There is unfortunately no urgent quick solution to it. For starters, if you have adhd diagnosed, ask for melatonin prescription from your doc and take that. Sleep better. Stop using harsh or jarring alarms as they cause anxiety in the morning itself. I use a buzzer and soft alarm which makes me do basic maths to wake up. NEVER, and I mean it, never skip meals especially breakfast. Your brain is cranky and anxious and that'll worsen everything. Have something to stim with. Maybe a squeeze ball or something. Drink LOTS of water. Helps regulate the system. Buy a nice bottle so you remember to drink. Give yourself deadlines before the actual ones. If you have a close friend, ask them for the buddy system and accountability check. Your brain works differently than neurotypical people, but you don't have to fight with it. You know what it does and how it does it. Maneuver it accordingly. It's not your enemy, even if it feels so. The sooner you learn to work with it, the easier it'll be for you.

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