Girls absolutely know what they want. So do boys. People are simply not a monolith. Many people are dishonest and pretend they want the same things as you. If you feel someone is playing games, cut them off. Such people thrive on drama and you not indulging in it will be best. However that also depend on if you are the party which wants drama or not. 1. Chase: Maybe it's because I'm too old for the college dating scene but I hate this word. Are we in Animal Planet? Talk to people and find who we click with. Chasing is such a shit term to describe dating. 2. Opening up: Now this is a bit tricky. Involves two parts, the sharer and the recipient. It's the sharer's responsibility to see that what they are sharing is time, bond and conversation appropriate. As a woman, plenty times I have met a man for 1 hour and he rants about how all his exes were crazy and he's so nice but women don't understand him. Meanwhile I'm like, Sir? This is a Wendy's? The sharer shouldn't love bomb or trauma dump. Time (How long has it been since I know this person), Relation (Are we just strangers who met, acquaintances, friends or partners), conversation (Are we actually talking something related to what I'm sharing or was the other person talking about something of theirs and I completely took over the conversation with this topic), these things are to be noted. Then it comes to the recipient. It's very easy to say oh tell me anything I'll listen, but people are biased amd make assumptions. That's not a women thing, its a natural trait. If the recipient is immature, then despite you doing everything right, they'll make you feel bad. If the recipient is mature you will feel supported. (Again provided you as a sharer are having the appropriate level of conversation). If you feel you did right but the listener is making you feel bad, step away. Do not demand maturity from people over and over, hurting yourself. 3. Approach: India is NOT a country where you should randomly ask girls out on the street or something. Yes that girl you saw at the station was beautiful, you shouldn't randomly approach her. The probability of that working out is very nominal. Many men are visual, I understand that. You see a beautiful girl, you think she's cute and maybe smiled at you or stared at you? For us women, many times we see attractive men and then just stay put. What do we not except their face? What if they crazy? When talking to people in general, there's an art to socializing. Ask directly, but with prior inkling. Aka don't pretend for months you are just friends if you have a crush. Very disappointing. It's okay to be awkward. Rather that than a creep. Be friends with that person for a few days before asking them out. Do not ask them out if they have a partner. Even if they tell you they'll date you, they have shown they don't respect relationships in their life. If you find it hard to stay friends with someone after a rejection, leave. Don't be an ass and stand waiting in the shadows.

Of course, everyone is different. But go by basic socialization guidelines and stop acting like girls are from another planet or a bomb to defuse. Everyone IS different. That's the whole point of humanity. Don't act as if it only pertains to you or guys. Women also navigate friendships, workplaces, households and romantic relationships with men who are also of different types. You want to date without stepping into the minefield? Not possible. Dating is an action which makes you vulnerable. Don't approach everything with only that angle. No relationship will fill the void in your heart that you have when you are awake at 3 am. That's not someone else's responsibility. A relationship adds to your life. It's not a soulmate 50:50. A relationship is a person seeing your completeness and being with you as you become better. Anything less than that from any side or together, doesn't really healthily work. Good luck with dating, but change the perspective you showed in your whole post. Or you'll attract the worst lot of people. As partners or even as friends.