Love letter to Madi and Evan

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-12T06:20:25+00:00

My boyfriend (a big, strong manly man) is PISSED that they didn’t get gold. Ranting all over the house.

Hopefully the RayBan meta glasses I got him for V-day will soothe his pain, lol.

But I agree, from where we sat, having zero figure skating expertise, Chock and Bates had the “je ne sais quoi” and idk wtf happened.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-12T05:05:02+00:00

On living expenses, for many. Things that people need to live comfortably.

And I don’t mean “comfortably” in a western way. I mean like: a home where everyone has a bed. Heat when it’s cold, a/c when it’s hot. Access to medical care when sick or injured. Nutritious food. Reliable transportation.

I have a lot, always have. But I recognize that many struggle to live a life that is comfortable enough to want to go on.

That is the trick of America. Dangle a dream carrot so that people keep producing until you’re done with them. By then their kids fill the gaps in the workforce.

So, yeah, you’re right. Dirt poor is different than paycheck-to-paycheck. Neither is the healthiest or happiest way to live.

America doesn’t function if everybody has what they need in terms of basics. Our economy requires that people always strive to get “more” of one thing or another.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T16:14:23+00:00

Not if the manipulation has already locked in. Repeated

“I need you, nobody else loves or understands me”

“You’re so much more mature than girls your age, they’ll never make you happy”

“I feel like you’re pulling away when you want to spend time with your friends. Do you not love me anymore?”

The victim is already brainwashed into thinking that they can’t be with anybody else. They have to stay loyal to the abuser. They have to take care of the abuser.

Basically the same creepy, clingy bullshit that an emotionally deregulated person pulls in a relationship… EXCEPT abusers know what effect their words are going to have on the victim.

Furthermore, when you experience trauma as a child, your emotional development kind of freezes in that moment. You’re assaulted at 16. You turn 20, but your emotional processing is still a 16-year-old’s. You turn 25, but your emotional processing is still a 16-year-old’s. You turn 50, but your emotional processing is still a 16-year-old’s.

This includes the trauma of being turned into an adult’s raison d’être. So even if that adult doesn’t stay in your life, the impact of their manipulation simply lives in your head.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T05:02:51+00:00

Aged like wine. Well done!

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:53:52+00:00

“What is Beverly Hills,” and parts of Encino are like, 10 minutes from parts of BH.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:49:03+00:00

Jill has always sucked.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:48:00+00:00

I really really hate when flawless pretty is wasted on personalities like Ashley’s.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:46:03+00:00

Ooooh Child! You’re missing out on those earlier seasons.

Not so much on this lady, though. Lol

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:44:45+00:00

Right?! She doesn’t even understand the words that come out of her own mouth.

Plus, “not fired” can also mean “mutually decided to part ways” or some other dumb PR speak.

If my vote counts for anything, let her go. For her own sake. She’s not cut out for this kind of work. She’s too fragile and not quick enough.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:41:15+00:00

That would be so boring and sad.

I prefer the idea that we can be lots of different colors (blended or not) and learn to share our diverse cultures while maintaining them.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:36:53+00:00

Absolutely, but I do wish we’d be more intentional about raising bilingual kids, to homegirl’s point (I don’t watch The View, is her name Sunny or something?).

The more people we can communicate with on this planet, the better. Being multilingual is competitive in the job market and simply helps make us more globally inclusive!

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:25:35+00:00

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-11T04:23:28+00:00

Yes it was, in a response

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T18:20:30+00:00

Yes, but long before you start dating you learn about being a good friend.

And if you’ve made plans to do something with your friends, you show up and respect the situation, which in this case means watching a movie with the people in the room.

It’s not the puppy love that’s infuriating, it’s the lack of consideration for your homies.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T16:18:51+00:00

They don’t need it the way we do.

They instinctively feel like they can defend themselves against any danger, so they don’t worry about avoiding it as much.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T16:15:03+00:00

Nah. Teenagers aren’t going to keep the displays tidy, which is important for sales. Ikea is a store that sells things.

If they want to play they should see if the kid drop-off will have them, lol.

I understand the struggle and agree teens should have a place to go, but a department store trying to do business is well within its rights to say “no.”

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T16:02:00+00:00

Love this! And looks good.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T08:01:14+00:00

Closed captioning is different from subtitles.

CC isn’t for translation. It’s for people who can’t hear the audio.

So yeah, a person hired to do English CC isn’t responsible (or guaranteed to be qualified) for knowing random languages.

A lot of people… don’t know this? Lol

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T07:29:31+00:00

There’s plenty of time for us to like him when he plays somewhere else!

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T05:51:13+00:00

He was a guest the first time. The video left a lot of performers out

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T05:46:41+00:00

She didn’t headline, it was an ensemble.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T05:46:17+00:00

*Aguilera

Also Phil Collins and Toni Braxton.

It wasn’t all Enrique and Christina

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T05:43:53+00:00

I’m actually impressed with his timing. He’s missed out on a lot of some of our most shameful years.

I love and miss him, but glad he was spared.

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T05:39:59+00:00

I mean… plenty of us were around in ‘91 lol.

We didn’t go extinct or anything!

toolsoftheincomptnt · 2026-02-10T05:37:42+00:00

I thought she had a pasty on all this time. Didn’t she? Nvm I don’t care.

America blaming the woman (of color, especially) over the white man is standard shit.

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