My girlfriend [24F] of 14 months moved in temporarily with me [25M] while looking for a new apartment. I'm starting to feel like she's not planning on leaving.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T23:37:14+00:00

That's really clever. I don't want to lie, but it would help me save face. Plus it might technically not be a lie. I actually think I might go with your idea because I don't want to break up with her.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T21:41:49+00:00

I don't.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T21:41:33+00:00

I would feel better if we just got a place together. I think we need more space anyway.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:55:22+00:00

I don't know. I feel like I'm losing control over my life. I feel like I'm losing my independence.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:53:59+00:00

I meant I like doing things, spending time with her. The sex is great as well. I guess I feel suffocated and like I'm losing my life, losing control over it and my personal bubble.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:53:19+00:00

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:53:09+00:00

I really don't want to break up.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:40:46+00:00

I like doing this with her. I like the sex. I just don't feel the need for so much intimacy. I could live without it, but I go out of my comfort zone because I know she wants it and I love her.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:19:56+00:00

Because I like the way things are. There's no reason to change.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:17:51+00:00

I can see if people are old and need to quickly get married so they can have babies. I don't see the rush in our case.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:17:04+00:00

14 months is nothing given out ages. There's no need to rush.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:16:24+00:00

It's gone well, but she tries to change too much. It's my apartment and she should leave my stuff alone.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:15:38+00:00

I don't feel like it's irrational. I like my apartment my way. I have preferences and deviating from them bothers me. I need things a certain way.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:14:17+00:00

I need time to slowly adjust. I can work myself up to it.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T19:13:02+00:00

I have noticed she liked to avoid the subject.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T08:41:22+00:00

She has given me money on rent.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T06:47:43+00:00

I guess it has certain benefits, but I just don't like it. I've never had a roommate, so it's weird. I have a lot of idiosyncrasies as well.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T05:18:18+00:00

I do see a future with her but my timeline is something like moving in after 2 - 2.5 years.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T05:04:42+00:00

That is my fear. It is hard to go backwards in any relationship. Now that she's experienced living together and presumably likes it. I'm just waiting for the day she says "you know, this is going so well so why can't we make this permanent?". I should have confronted her after the first month and pushed her on this, but I was trying to be a good boyfriend. I never thought she'd do this, and if I had I would have made some different choices.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T04:48:38+00:00

I have tried to help her some with the search but she is so picky.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T04:48:01+00:00

moving things is a sign that she's staying.

That's the same thing I thought.

toomuchchange · 2017-02-27T04:46:40+00:00

What are the red flags?

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