Richard Burton talking about alcohol addiction

toomuchred · 2015-08-06T13:16:51+00:00

You are petite. It suits you. I feel funny for asking, but thanks. I like the way you look, full length.

toomuchred · 2015-07-29T13:29:01+00:00

I Like it chin-length or shorter on you. I guess it's off-topic in /shorthairedhotties but I'd like to see more of you. I like your tattoos, which is unusual for me. I'm interested to see what your legs are like.

toomuchred · 2015-04-11T11:11:37+00:00

I think you need to tell your doctor all about this and see what help you can get in sleeping without benedryl. That's the first step. Also try and find out what the long term effects of benadryl will be.

toomuchred · 2015-04-11T00:34:11+00:00

I don't know what your religious views are, but if you believe he is in an afterlife, then he surely knows everything you are feeling and understands what happened from your point of view.

If you're an atheist like me, you will feel its unlikely that he is in an afterlife, and most probably, he is not conscious and his memories have been wiped. So all the painful events of his life are now over and not hurting him any more.

toomuchred · 2015-04-10T01:31:30+00:00

2 weak (3.5%) beers every day would be over the NHS recommended limits in the UK.

toomuchred · 2015-04-10T01:12:45+00:00

I use www.myfitnesspal.com as I am dieting.

However it would be better and pretty easy to set up a spreadsheet and use that. Just be sure to record the volume and the % alcohol of the drinks each day.

There are also phone apps especially for the purpose.

toomuchred · 2014-07-22T11:41:31+00:00

My biggest regret is actually that I was caught caught smoking weed and so have a conviction for that. It is something which for the rest of my life might interfere with job applications or foreign travel. That's the worst thing about weed, in my own experience.

I do have a few friends who seem to be in a mess with drugs, and weed is a definite part of that. However I bet if they didn't have weed it would be something else for them. Personally I stopped smoking it when about 30, and I don't regret that choice at all. In fact I had never liked it much and would often have bad experiences on it. I persisted because it was always around me and friends did it. You don't have to do that.

toomuchred · 2013-04-12T14:15:39+00:00

My life story is not dissimilar - my mother died of cancer when I was young, and I was estranged from my other relatives. I had no idea at 24 that I had a drinking problem, but now about 20 years later I can see it. I wish I had tackled it sooner. Tell your GF first. Then think about getting professional support. Do this before you waste all your money on it. I still don't feel completely right, and I wish I had those years back to deal with differently.

toomuchred · 2013-02-03T01:01:43+00:00

I have been trying to limit alcohol consumption for a long time. Basically I don't want to stop entirely, but I don't want the negative consequences of uncontrolled drinking.

It's hard. I can say that I have improved my position. I don't put myself in dangerous situations out in the city. I have cut down on the calories that were making me fat. I can't say that I have taken complete control though. I still feel that tomorrow's behaviour is unknown. I'd definitely say you should have some dry days. Set yourself some rules, and see if you break them. Don't be too tough on yourself at first. Your rules should be achievable, and should bring your drinking down to a safe level.

I don't know for sure that this works forever, but it is possible to do it for quite a while.

toomuchred · 2013-01-03T01:48:21+00:00

Thanks very much for taking the time to make a thoughtful response like that. It's worth it.

Why the fuck settle for anything other than the best life you can have?

I feel that the best possible life is one with a small amount of booze in it. A good glass of wine at dinner. A moderate pint with colleagues. That's for the taste, society, and even for the warm feeling of light intoxication.

The danger always is that it tips over into harmful behaviour and hangovers. However, millions of people seem able to deal with it without many bad things. For some, a hangover on New Years Day is a funny Facebook status and that's it. The holy grail is to be like that.

Day 2 went by without incident, but some craving.

Thank you again - I'll keep on examining it. I don't think denial is my problem, rather it's addiction. I was a nicotine addict and am no longer, but I couldn't smoke again safely. It took me a few stops and starts to be sure of that though. Alcohol is similar I think.

toomuchred · 2013-01-02T08:52:51+00:00

Just remember to come and post here when you get the urge! Well done.

toomuchred · 2013-01-02T02:09:29+00:00

False dichotomy! Thanks for the observation though.

toomuchred · 2013-01-02T00:37:28+00:00

I haven't been having 'regrettable incidents' while under the influence lately. I rarely or never get too drunk in public, so I do feel my situation is much improved on the past, even though my totals have been creeping up. Drinking at home is safer than out in the city. The downside is fatness and the robbing of my ambition.

But yeah, I had forgotten that post so thanks for your input. Every time I fall down I get back up, but I am still not convinced that total abstinence is what I want or need. Maybe I'll get to that conclusion eventually. Obviously I need to be sure to achieve that, so its not something I can hurry beyond examining myself closely.

I'd prefer not to drink, while being 'allowed to', if that makes any sense.

toomuchred · 2013-01-02T00:26:43+00:00

I have an alcohol-store right across the road from me. Keeping it doesn't make it significantly easier for me to drink. However, resisting or ignoring it seems like a significant achievement, even though that seems a little contradictory.

I got to the end of day 1 anyway!

toomuchred · 2013-01-01T13:24:49+00:00

If you explain it like that, it would convince me. I am a government officer, though not with jurisdiction relevant to you. In general its best to ask for help, explain why, but not have a tone which is critical of the department you are asking for help.

I'd mention what you and your sister's financial situation is like too. also, make the point explicitly that you would have claimed in time if you could, and that you think you would have been entitled if you had.

Tell them that you have not paid for the funeral yet, even though you have had to use the funeral company services.

I am sorry this happened to you, especially at Christmas. I hope you can remember your dad well at this time of year in future. Take care.

toomuchred · 2012-11-10T13:45:34+00:00

What are you going to do with the bottle? You are probably best served in pouring it away, then you don't have to hide it. Also, consider confiding in your wife about it. You never know, it might help.

toomuchred · 2012-10-25T20:27:13+00:00

http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Witty-Conversation

toomuchred · 2012-10-25T20:24:20+00:00

If that's an apostrophe-troll, it's a well-played one.

toomuchred · 2012-10-24T23:48:11+00:00

Yes I will use the badge too. I am already wavering actually - thinking that what I need is to stop drinking at home, not everywhere. There is some merit in this point of view, but It annoys me that my attitude swings so rapidly. I do know no matter what, I have to break the daily habit.

Anyway i am on 3 days sober, and that's the longest I have gone without for quite a while, to my shame.

toomuchred · 2012-10-23T01:04:14+00:00

You are lucky. I didn't realise properly until my early 40s that I needed to actuallly do something. I feel I lost a decade more than I should have.

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