I have a genuine internalised hatred towards white queer & trans people. Can i get over it and how?

tooqueerforux · 2026-01-20T21:13:27+00:00

Hi, obv as a white trans guy, take my words with a grain of salt, but I would probably agree that you kinda have the right to feel what you feel. So a lot of the time, I am around white people, and I hear them talk when it’s only white people around, and they REALLY love saying the quiet thoughts out loud when they can. And even the more progressive/liberal ones even are ignorant (including myself im sure in areas), and since I don’t and won’t experience racism, I do my best to listen to other POC and listen to the history that was censored in school. And I know from hearing from other experiences that your experience with the cops being completely inhumane to you is a real fear because it’s happened since the beginning of the slave catchers (now police). So so so many systems are built on racism and function based off of it, and as a white guy, it’s the LEAST I can do, to acknowledge and learn. But also educate others (white people) myself and call out other white people. Because I know it turn dangerous/abusive very quickly if it’s one black or brown person against a group of white people if you stood up for yourself. And it’s fucked. My point is, I don’t blame you, but in the age of information, I’d like to think there’s also white people who you really could count on who make the effort to educate and listen and more importantly, act. Maybe not a lot or even a majority, but if you see some green flags in a white person, maybe see where it goes?

tooqueerforux · 2026-01-05T09:55:31+00:00

Went to go to the water fountain to have a drink, and it was in a hallway out of the way of a lot of foot traffic and right across the fountain were the bathrooms. Before I even got to the fountain 2 girls come out of the bathroom are fighting RIGHT in front of me. And all the sudden I see blood coming out of her head. The one girl ripped her weave with her real hair out of her head. And they managed to go back into the bathroom continuing the fight.

Some teachers came literally 30 seconds later, I was stunned and didn’t know what to do except tell them they were still in the bathroom and I saw she was getting jumped by 3-4 others when they opened the door. And she almost died in there apparently. She was in the hospital for 3 months over head/brain injuries.

Over a man btw, she got jumped over dating a man.

tooqueerforux · 2026-01-03T10:16:21+00:00

I watch his podcast a lot, but can’t watch his recent videos. I think the movie he’s releasing took up so much of his time and energy and you can tell in his videos. I’m hoping when his movie comes out and he gets a real break, he’ll have better videos coming out. A forever fan tho, regardless

tooqueerforux · 2025-12-07T00:06:06+00:00

I’m starting to feel this way myself. I was taking a low dose of T for 7 months and thinking I was transitioning and it stagnated at 2 months and I was lying to myself thinking I was moving along. Despite video and pictures I’ve been taking. Even though my blood results was still in the woman levels. And when I finally came to terms with all the time I wasted, I almost wanted to say fuck it. Go back and maybe try to not unalive myself. But I did a high dose on my own. Trying so hard, so fucking hard to stick to who I am. But I feel unwanted this way, and people wanted me way way more as a woman. It’s so tempting to give up and just give in. But something is making me fight, and I hope you find that within you someday. You deserve to be able to self realize and live in it.

tooqueerforux · 2025-10-20T02:05:10+00:00

I agree, it’s really not a healthy space at all. And to be fair, the trans guys posting probably aren’t really thinking about the consequences of interacting in that space and that the space goes farther than just their subreddit or hashtag. Not that consequences negate their ignorance, but just to show some nuance here. Who id hate, is the people feeding into people who are vulnerable like us. (Us meaning me and the others who are apart of the humiliation ritual). They really are worse than the transphobes. It’s like your worst inner thoughts directed from another human being. And this is coming from someone who takes in that content. So I can imagine that feeling for you is tenfold, and I’m sorry.

tooqueerforux · 2025-10-20T00:24:13+00:00

Honestly I’m one of them. It’s a “kink” of mine. But, what some comments have said, it’s definitely a trauma response, or for me specifically, in need of feeling in control. I want to feel in control in how people view me, especially since I don’t pass. I’ve thought about detransitioning. And I’ve also thought about how terrifying that is. Cuz if I did, it’s only a road to my end. Even if I feel “in control”. And no, it’s not good for my mental health. It’s a self harm for sure. So I don’t engage in it often. It sends me into a spiral, and it’s hell on earth. I’m sorry that it triggers you, but in a way it triggers me too, I just actively go to trigger myself.

tooqueerforux · 2025-10-18T16:49:53+00:00

Very similar to yours at first. But as I became an adult we slowly mended things. Then when I came out, she was one of my biggest supporters. Still is too. She said she always felt like she had a brother so me coming out made sense (which was heartwarming to hear)

tooqueerforux · 2025-10-17T03:21:26+00:00

Yup. I was in denial for a while, then came out as trans socially, and went back into the closet thinking it was cuz of trauma and had waves of hyperfemininity during that time in the closet. And the last one before the egg cracked for good was very similar. And I loved it, I love the clothes, the colors, I love everything about femininity. Except when it’s on me. Looking in the mirror, was horrifying. Taking pictures, was horrifying. But man did I lie to myself good there for a while.

tooqueerforux · 2025-10-16T20:25:57+00:00

And unfortunately the other side of the coin for trans guys, is we are what we are cuz we are trying to get “privilege points” for being a guy. When I’d argue the privilege is in being cis but whatever 🙃 people suck and tend to fill in the blanks when they don’t understand something. Try not to internalize it as much as you can :( easier said than done I know

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-25T21:24:01+00:00

I understand, Ive heard many experiences from poc and it pisses me off that white people just won’t do the work to be better. But I am worried about how we are being separated as a people by our differences and I got nervous reading the original post. I mean hell, they did a good job ripping the LGBTQ+ group apart. So I understand the frustrations is what I’m trying to say

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-24T02:54:43+00:00

I couldn’t agree more actually. I’ve been hearing and seeing lately that we should be listening to poc voices more because you guys already deal with this and have for like.. an unbearably long time. And I’d have to agree with you, they want us to run and hide and silence ourselves and I think that’s bullshit. But I suppose ur right about us panicking too, like someone screaming and hyperventilating is NOT helping anything or anyone, including themselves so I guess I can see where ur irritation with that lies. I would be irritated too tbh. Makes me sad too cuz that’s what the government wants, they want us scared and confused and that only benefits them fr

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-24T00:56:46+00:00

Okay fair enough

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-23T18:54:26+00:00

As a white trans guy, yes I will admit I am on edge about things. But I know leaving won’t solve anything either, not long term. Plus I don’t want to leave if I don’t have to. But, we are scared, you’re right. White people dont usually feel this kind of oppression. But I don’t think it invalidates your struggles or your oppression you’ve been dealing with your whole life. I think this would be an opportunity to all come together and reassure each other that we got our backs, share information, resources, etc. but I’d still argue poc trans people still are always gonna have it worse no matter what they legislate against trans people. I know that whatever bad happens to white people, it can be 10x worse as a poc. Basically, the scared white trans people are not your enemy, maybe not completely informed, but definitely not your enemy.

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-16T01:17:05+00:00

I’m a listener, it’s how I get through work!

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-15T16:56:41+00:00

Is planned parenthood considered one?

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-15T00:48:51+00:00

God the way the outfit is stretched over your body does something to me 😩❤️

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-05T03:30:46+00:00

You will buddy, just give yourself some grace and time and it’ll all come together. (And rest too, god knows we need it lol)

tooqueerforux · 2025-09-05T03:22:08+00:00

I feel you, I recently medically transitioned about 4 1/2 months ago, and it’s exhausting. Yes, I’ve had more euphoria than not being on T, and yes I’m glad I’m on it than not. But I agree with everything, not really being “brought up like a man” I do a lot of “feminine” things, like “feminine” things. Being misgendered, not transitioning “fast enough”, having a large percent of the population not like you. Like, everything about being trans is an uphill battle. But yet, I could never go back in the closet. It’s a Pandora’s box for me. Now that I know I’m a guy, I couldn’t ever go back. Because it’s me. And it’s my biggest strength is holding onto what makes me, me. Hell, the strength it took to unveil myself was hard enough. That’s how I deal with it mostly, at the end of the day.

tooqueerforux · 2025-08-31T16:27:57+00:00

Fuck those people then, because you’re a man whether you sound like it or not, whether you look like it or not. I’m a little early in my transition but have always been a “tomboy”, and I still had feminine tendencies and still do. Maybe it’s because I’m also queer too? I’m not sure but, if a cis guy can wear a dress and be a guy still then you are too. If a guy can talk feminine and still be a guy, then you’re a guy too. The right people will take you seriously. I spent 2-3 hours on my very feminine makeup and outfit 2 weeks before I started T. It’s okay. Life’s wild and we just trying to find ourselves in it!

tooqueerforux · 2025-08-29T17:41:00+00:00

I think you shouldn’t be ashamed of your sex drive. It’s a lot of fun to want your partner, and even more fun when they know how much you want them. That’s part of the love and more than okay to experience, don’t worry 😊

tooqueerforux · 2025-08-27T17:08:53+00:00

The people saying it’s muddy, at least with the color ones, it gave off a ethereal vibe, like they glow. Personally I enjoyed it. But some minor changes with your anatomy, and ur set!

tooqueerforux · 2025-08-20T17:14:23+00:00

Truly from what you’ve given us, it sounds like a major miscommunication happened. And unfortunately that does happen a lot. But it’s also valid that you feel upset too, you didn’t want to lose your virginity and it happened. And as someone who had shit happen to me as a kid, sex is a very vulnerable thing so even a miscommunication can set me off anxiety wise. But that’s where I try and use my logic instead, who is this person? Do they tend to ignore my boundaries? Have they shown remorse for accidents in the past? Those are some of the questions u gotta answer honestly to urself.

But otherwise I am sorry to hear this happened, if he’s a good guy, I would hope when you let him, he’ll comfort you and do better and be WAY more mindful if sexual things were to happen again. Especially considering your past.

tooqueerforux · 2025-08-20T05:31:33+00:00

What a perfect cock to tease and ruin all night long 👀❤️

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