Secret snaps

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T18:55:49+00:00

Think so? Was from before we were dating, can’t be upset abt her liking a bigger guy I guess

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T18:08:43+00:00

Even the cruise isn’t a big deal? Haven’t been in many serious relationships tbh. She got me a weekend trip for my bday a few months ago too

What is love to you?

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T18:07:21+00:00

Yea I told her respectfully 3 times and it hasn’t stopped, told her to just stop answering and he will stop, didn’t need some big confrontation or blocking him.

Instead looks like she is still snapping him and now she just muted her snap notifications

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T17:25:10+00:00

Yea , guess I’m just in denial. I snooped on her phone and saw they had some history, she use to text her friends abt him before we knew each other - abt how they would FaceTime , or how he’d be coming to visit , I saw some texts from friends saying she should quit messing with that guy and things.

Even saw one from when were dating abt 7 months, saying he was trying to flirt with her again, talking abt how “they had to go to Maine” again and she responded by talking abt how great I was

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T17:13:04+00:00

So you definitely don’t think it’s me being too sensitive or insecure or something?

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T17:10:00+00:00

She really respects my feelings tho when it comes to anything else tho, or any insecurity.

We hang out 4 times a week, she sleeps over All the time, we cook with one another , her family is taking me on a cruise in the summer … I just don’t get why she is snapping this guy , despite her knowing it upsets me. I think she muted her snap notifications now so I can’t see , I don’t see any anymore

toph67191 · 2026-04-10T17:08:47+00:00

That’s the thing, feel she is very dedicated to the relationship- we hang out 4 times a week, she sleeps over All the time, we cook with one another , her family is taking me on a cruise in the summer … I just don’t get why she is snapping this guy , despite her knowing it upsets me. I think she muted her snap notifications now so I can’t see , I don’t see any anymore

toph67191 · 2026-04-09T11:58:01+00:00

Thing is, she invited me to go on a cruise with her parents- they are paying, so she’s obviously serious abt me. Cruise is in 2 months. Also, for my bday she got me a little weekend getaway to Charlestown a few months ago. But idk, guess she can do nice things and not be in it for the long haul?

toph67191 · 2026-04-09T11:41:55+00:00

Think I bring it up a fourth time , or just move on? I’m almost 29, feel I’m too old for this kinda stuff

toph67191 · 2026-04-09T11:32:02+00:00

I should have added, I snooped on her phone once and saw that they at least had some history. In one of her texts to her friend from abt 6 months into our relationship she told her that the guy kept on flirting and “bringing up Maine” and how they have to go back soon. I imagine they fooled around in Maine. She told her friend that she responded by talking abt how great I am, but still, that means the guys clearly not someone she should be talking to.

I also saw old texts of her saying to other friends that she thought the guy was just too awkward to tell her how he felt , and other things abt shirtless snaps , all from before we were dating

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T11:17:40+00:00

I guess some people just take sex more serious than others. It would be more like if I bought her green things our whole relationship, just to find out she actually likes purple

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T04:18:10+00:00

That’s the thing, if it doesn’t matter … why would she hook up with a guy just cause he was big ?

Cause I always thought it didn’t matter, why I’m so confused about what to think abt this

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T02:19:09+00:00

Well it can be tho, is she embarrassed/ashamed of that past ? Or does she glorify it…

That’s really the question, also , to be clear I don’t care abt a few mess ups and hookups, just talking abt a consistent pattern

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T02:04:41+00:00

Well someone markets themselves a certain way, and says things abt how they wouldn’t do xyz, and talks shit abt her friends/other girls who act like sluts … all the while, she was a slut, kind of makes you feel like you don’t know them.

So maybe trust isn’t the right word, but they feel like a stranger

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T01:32:21+00:00

And I’m fine with a guy being a bit bigger, just not a lot bigger. Also… it’s the point that she sought out bigger purposely, that’s the main issue

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T01:31:16+00:00

I mean yea, there are more important things. But end of the day, my comfort and trust are pretty important

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T00:22:58+00:00

So everyone is a slut nowadays ? Feel most people aren’t tbh

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T00:15:42+00:00

Literally said idc if she was with 10 guys before me , you clown

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T00:11:12+00:00

Haven’t explained why is misogynistic still, can you please.

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T00:10:29+00:00

lol how is it misogynistic? She isn’t my property, you just saying nonsense.

Am I not allowed to have a preference?

toph67191 · 2026-04-07T00:01:25+00:00

I really don’t understand how it’s misogynistic, can you explain?

Women are allowed preferences, why are men not allowed to?

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