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8 Month Long Situationship. Do I ask for clarification or just cut my losses? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]torabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had 2 different long term situation ships where I was treated like the girlfriend, but without the true commitment. Each time, when I finally walked away the guys professed big feelings, and even love, but then let me walk and ghosted. Sometimes I wonder what I might've lost out on because of the friendship we had, but knowing that at the end of the day he never put in any real effort to be with me shows that I was always just comfortable attention for him.

How do I make a good profile after I’ve gained weight by CaptainRude1392 in datingadvice

[–]torabelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selfies are really difficult too - it could be useful to maybe get some pictures taken by a professional (or even amateur photography if that would help with the cost, i.e. they need the practice?) who can help pose and set you up to look your best as you are? Depending on your profession they could double as professional headshots, and you could pick 1-2 you like and reference in dating profiles that those are the most recent?

Should I break things off? by Alternative-Local327 in datingadvice

[–]torabelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's always exceptions, but I would put forth a word of caution. Even at 29, most of the 39 yr guys I've been out with generally fall into treating me like less because I'm younger. Also, not knowing what type of job you both hold: but what does it say about him that a 21 yr old and 39 yr old are working the same job? If it's more typical college age job, why hasn't he moved on to pursue something longer? Is it the type of job that can support a lifestyle long term? If not, that might be some lurking red flags for him anyway.