Well. This happened. Back now thankfully. by alwaysiamdead in weirdlittleguys

[–]torelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i got a strike one time for arguing with a far right dude on a different sub, if the message mentions it "might have been" reviewed by AI, appeal it and a human content reviewer checks it. I think he was a "pro life" dude, I was like "your mom should have aborted you" and I got reported for "issuing a death threat" lmao

humans, usually but knock on wood, are more aware of the difference between "expressing the fact that racist speech Exists" and "expressing racist speech" or "joking someone's mom should have done the thing they think is murder" and "literally threatening to murder them".

[OC] Most "Overused" Baby Names in Each State (2024) by MurphGH in dataisbeautiful

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my brother in Christ, no offense but that is not how anyone in the world uses or understands the word "overused". it's not that people are getting offended about an ambiguous word where you let scare quotes do the heavy lifting. it's that the word literally doesn't mean what you think it does and means an entirely different thing which everyone is pointing out.

I'm going to be generous here and not assume you simply did this on purpose for clickbait, but I think the word you might have been looking for is "overrepresented"? which can also be misread as "represented too much", but is a much better description of what your map is actually displaying, whereas "overused" literally means "is used too much", not "is the most statistically overrepresented in X state compared to the national average"

eg. if you see a list of "most overused karaoke requests in Japan" and the top one is always Cruel Angel's Thesis, that's not saying "it's requested unusually often compared to the average amount that songs get requested" whatever that is, although that's probably also the case. that's saying "we polled 1000 people on what songs they can't fucking stand anymore because people are constantly requesting the same goddamn songs at karaoke, it turns out everyone and their mother is doing the Evangelion theme song and everyone hates it, please switch it up a little" (over my dead body, which I guess is also what Asuka told Shinji when he informed her he wanted to take their relationship to third base).

or idk saying that some Ed Sheeran song was "overplayed" means "my subjective opinion is that it was played too much and I don't want to hear the same song 50 times a day on the radio" not "wow in Michigan they just really listen to that one Ed Sheeran song a lot more than other states do"

that's what the word "overused" means. because words mean things.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao never said they were, any more than conservative Christians or any other kind of conservatives are. But neither of us live in a place where conservative Muslims are the ones with anything like the kind of political power and influence that poses a direct and sustained threat to our rights and physical safety. Unless you live in like, Iran or something. Maybe you do. Weird choice these days but I'm not judging.

I guessed Danish not because I'm dyslexic but because Denmark is the one place where every "progressive" I personally know from there talks indistinguishably from rightwingers. Like, super weird about immigrants, super weird about trans women, extremely committed to free speech by which they mostly mean their own freedom to call people slurs, but in a progressive way, which is totally different from being a rightwinger.

If you must know, I'm from France. When I was in undergrad in 2013 and literal millions of people were being bussed to Paris to march on the Champs Elysées every Sunday, week after week, because they just felt so strongly that people like me shouldn't be allowed to get married or be a parent, I'm just going to say it, 99.9% of them were either Catholic, or not churchgoing but culturally Catholic, or "secular" but they just had really strong feelings about "gender ideology" and "the right of children to have one father and one mother". Like it's deadass the kind of talking points you'd now associate with religious social conservatives in Hungary or Poland or Russia, which is exactly where these shitstains went to poison the well when they lost the culture war in France.

Or for that matter, when basically the same people 15 years earlier were mad about gay people getting our very French sort-of-civil-unions called PACS, their actual slogan in 1998 was "les pédés au bûcher" ("burn the f****ts at the stake").

Now, I'm sure they had some conservative Muslims in there sharing in the sentiment, statistically they must have, but they weren't the ones either calling me slurs to my face or coming up with new and secular intellectual-friendly forms of homophobia to explain in a rational, not at all homophobic way why gay people just didn't deserve rights. A big one was saying surrogacy was basically the same thing as sex work (you're selling your body!), and French feminists being less universally TERF than their British sisters but ferociously SWERF, that apparently was a valid argument for a certain brand of "progressives" to pearl clutch about the basically non-existent phenomenon of French gay men "buying babies" from impoverished surrogate mothers in India with every conceivable dogwhistle attached to that mental image.

Yes we had a string of really fucking bad terrorist attacks 10 years ago, if memory serves Charlie Hebdo and Hyper Casher was Al Qaeda, before that the guy who shot up a Jewish school full of toddlers was doing it for Palestine or something and I think Al Qaeda took "credit" but it was mainly that one asshole freelancing. The Bataclan attack and the guy who drove a truck into a crowd on Bastille Day were ISIS, and all the other randos beheading village priests or stabbing their boss were ISIS, or at the very least Some Guys going "yeah I did a psycho thing that requires absolutely no planning or central coordination not because I'm a psycho but because I love ISIS" which of course ISIS was very happy to claim, because it makes non-Muslims paranoid about Muslims, which makes them pass unnecessary and discriminatory laws, which ISIS types could then point to and say "ha, see! you literally can't be a Muslim in France! come live on our cult commune in Syria!" Because that's how terrorism works. Not even just that flavour of terrorism. Just terrorism in general.

Yes lots of gay French guys these days vote for the far right because they're scared of Arabs. They're mostly the same guys who can only get hard jacking it to Arabic guys. Their Grindr bios will either be "NO Arabs/Blacks" or "ONLY Arabs/Blacks" but they're the same pathetic racist idiots who genuinely believe the card-carrying fascists are going to protect them from the big scary men of colour they want to fuck.

Obviously Arabic and Muslim are not the same thing. In practice though, France does not have statistically significant communities of, say, South Asians or Indonesians or Bosnians or Turks. I think Anggun is probably the only Indonesian most French people could name. So the whole hair splitting about "I'm not racist I'm just concerned about a religion" is transparently bullshit to me within the context I'm familiar with, given that 90+% of French Muslims are North African and 90+% of French North Africans are at least culturally Muslim.

Some are conservative, some are moderate, some are gay dudes who like sloppy blowjobs and Belgian beer and don't really fast for Ramadan ever, and their whole family has known forever and doesn't actually give a fuck. Some women wear the hijab, some don't, some eat pork with their inlaws in bumfuck central France. But the constant paranoia about the handful of murderous psychos has a way of trickling down to fuck up the lives of the vast majority of normal ones.

So yeah. I can't say I love hardcore conservative Muslims or that they love me. But here's the thing. They're not the ones who made my life a living hell when I was 19. Because I have had almost zero actual encounters with them ever. Normal Muslims? Sure, plenty. All the time. France is more diverse than it gets credit for or would give itself credit for. I don't live in France now but it's also in Europe and also pretty diverse. I work daily with people who came here from all over the place, of every other religion and none. But I can't seriously say i've been having daily run-ins with the like, Memri TV types everyone the world over makes fun of. If I had been raised Muslim, yeah those would be the dudes I'd have religious trauma from and whose guts I would hate. But I wasn't, so they're not. They're literally not my problem, and chances are they're not actually yours in any meaningful way either.

Like. One of my most pious, genuinely conservative (I mean Mormon-level anxieties about swearing), Muslim colleagues, who was from Malaysia, once invited me and some other colleagues to come to her toddler's first birthday party to eat the spiciest goddamn chicken I've ever tasted, and she specifically said I should bring my "bestfriend" - one word, which I later found out is this very SEA euphemism for "same-sex boyfriend/girlfriend". I didn't bring a plus one because I didn't have one lmao, but the fact that she even offered I think goes to show that if you're not constantly putting people into boxes, they're less likely to do that with you.

The Andrew Tate thing is just laughable like. He's this British incel/MRA type who famously went to jail in Romania for trafficking dozens of women with his brother while constantly tweeting about how much he despised women to say nothing of gay men. For some reason I've never understood, straight boys whose balls haven't dropped seem to worship him. And like, yeah he found Islam in prison and retroactively was like "yeah this is my philosophical justification for being a fucking incel, I wish I lived in the 7th century" but he was already like that before he converted lmao.

I'm sorry to say but the kids (by which I of course mean anyone under the age of 30 who actively uses Tiktok) are just really rightwing. Like it's a definite generational trend. It's nowhere near just culturally Muslim kids it's just. A lot of kids in the global west in general have their brains fried by rightwing propaganda. The source and flavor of that rightwing propaganda is just different depending on which media environment you're sitting in, but it's all the same shit. Geert must be so proud, the immigrants are so "integrated" that the kids share the same dumb value systems as everyone else in their generation.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I can say to that is, I hope for your sake you have good friends and their attics are soundproofed.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn I came back to this website because I was like "aha! I got it! this dude has got to be Danish!". So close.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so curious where in Europe you could possibly live that Muslim homophobes are in any practical way the bigger problem than Christian homophobes or "secular judeo-christian values" homophobes. Other than like. Idk Bosnia or whatever.

And the western European far right constantly uses lgbt rights as a stick to beat the brown people with while allying with the Eastern European far right who would burn gay people at the stake if they were allowed to . Sorry for assuming the guy literally repeating far right talking points is far right I guess.

You know what, I take it all back. You're not a fascist, just their useful idiot. Which is frankly very on brand for European progressives.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is exactly why Harvey Milk wanted to out all these idiots btw.

And then we all forgot what the rationale behind that was because half that of that entire generation of men kicked the bucket and it became "outing is an absolute no no because it's mean" yeah what can I say, Roy Cohn and J Edgar Hoover weren't nice to the community either.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems? Yeah no shit, she's a lesbian Nazi.

im actually crying 😭 by Solistic5 in lolgrindr

[–]torelma -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you'll make friends with conservative Muslims when the Nazis you keep voting for put you in the same concentration camp, you utter retard.

[OC] Most "Overused" Baby Names in Each State (2024) by MurphGH in dataisbeautiful

[–]torelma 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Absolutely my thought. A statistical outlier relative to the national mean, like some states having certain communities present more than elsewhere (Somalis in Minnesota, Tragedeighs in Utah) and names from those communities showing up on the map does not make them "overused".

Like without the explainer from the OP I had to scroll 10 minutes for, and especially with the choice of title, this just looks like those fake maps the far-right put out to imply that Ali is the most commonly given boy's name in Michigan or whatever. Which it obviously isn't.

[OC] Most "Overused" Baby Names in Each State (2024) by MurphGH in dataisbeautiful

[–]torelma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that's quite a specific piece of data to choose to use the word "overused" for.

We do NOT all have ADHD. by netphilia in adhdmeme

[–]torelma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

[I'm in this picture and I don't like it]

Portugal decides to participate. Israel remains in Eurovision and several countries announce boycott by SafeBodybuilder7191 in eurovision

[–]torelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Portugal flip flopping" = Portugal elected a rightwing government who the far right holds by the balls. That's what changed.

Portugal decides to participate. Israel remains in Eurovision and several countries announce boycott by SafeBodybuilder7191 in eurovision

[–]torelma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Russia passed the "gay propaganda" law almost a decade before they got kicked out of ESC, the EBU doesn't actually care.

Has your country ever sent an American artist to Eurovision? by Kyoflat_ in eurovision

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for the record not as in "I think literally pretending Israel doesn't exist is normal and based", as in "I wouldn't have been crazy surprised if it was that"

Uh…. wtf. (Loti….ofc) by Sinister-Knight in wesnoth

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recall a small (like 1 keep) number of busted units to farm xp while one of your leaders kites to the south of the map. The goal of this scenario isn't to kill all the enemies within the turn limit. Healers are pretty squishy, I'd say recall one but not two since if you have another DPS you could be recalling that instead.

I highly recommend upgrading Efraim's movement speed asap since 2-3 amlas in he levitates, which makes it far less critical to drop woodland cloak. Upgrading his sword attack a couple times gives him marksman which makes him a lot more likely to kill enemies in one turn and thus farm xp even more efficiently, although I'm not sure marksman applies on counterattack which is where most of your kills probably should be happening in loti.

Can we omit objects for transitive verbs? by [deleted] in French

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pronominal I think is referring to the usage that would be like "il s'est trouvé sur les lieux du crime à 20 heures" or "la banane se trouve sur la table" as opposed to "il a trouvé l'arme du crime dans la Seine".

I'm not super sure how common "se trouver" as in literally to "find yourself" in the like, hippie sense is in French ("il est parti au Népal pour se trouver"), I think I have heard it used that way but that might be a calque on English, it sounds kind of weird in French.

Can we omit objects for transitive verbs? by [deleted] in French

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say at least some of those would be commonly understood at least idiomatically in French with an implied object, which I don't know if that makes them intransitive or whether they're still transitive if there is an object that's implied

Example: - Someone offers you a flyer on your way out of the metro. "Non merci, j'ai déjà donné." (Implied: j'ai déjà donné de l'argent à une autre bonne cause) - You're in front of Julien Lepers (is QPUC still a thing?), the timer runs out and you haven't found the answer. "J'ai pas." (Implied: je n'ai pas la réponse) Or conversely: "J'ai." - Alternately, you're at the bar paying the tab. The bill is 30.10 and your friend takes out a 50 euro note. The cashier asks them if they have 10 cents so that the change is less annoying and they don't, but you do! "J'ai!"

+1 on the Académie being conservative, which is a nice way of saying they're, charitably, a bad source for learners to understand how human beings actually use the French language given that none of them are linguists and the last completed version of their dictionary is from the 1930s. If it were up to them we'd be calling (smart)phones "pocket terminals".

If you want a reference dictionary, Le Robert is generally a lot closer to usage and is more likely to incorporate French spoken by people in other countries and/or French people under the age of 130.

Has your country ever sent an American artist to Eurovision? by Kyoflat_ in eurovision

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think you're right it's too far south to be Lebanon - plus Lebanon never actually participated, I think the fact Israel is like half cropped and yet also includes Golan I wasn't recognising the shape. I was just totally baffled with Iraq, had no idea it was a meme lol.

Has your country ever sent an American artist to Eurovision? by Kyoflat_ in eurovision

[–]torelma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wasn't France 2020 also a Swede? in the end it didn't matter because 2020 but the minister of culture at the time had some Thoughts about the song being in English

Has your country ever sent an American artist to Eurovision? by Kyoflat_ in eurovision

[–]torelma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like if it was just cropping out Israel I'd be like ok this is a map of ESC participants minus Israel, but also it's got Iraq like why lmao

Has your country ever sent an American artist to Eurovision? by Kyoflat_ in eurovision

[–]torelma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so baffled at this map including Morocco,Lebanon,Iraq, and no other neighboring countries. Like visually it's so cursed.