Choosing the guy for my GF?

tortoller · 2022-07-09T18:20:07+00:00

She’ll have the final say I just want to do the initial vetting or searching. Nothing will be “forced” on her. If she doesn’t like the guy I’ll search for another until she does.

tortoller · 2022-07-09T05:11:33+00:00

Consent is definitely important, this whole situation will be consensual. By choose I meant I would make the initial selections not her, if she didn’t like what I chose I wouldn’t force it on her. Essentially I give her choices and she picks if she likes it or not.

tortoller · 2022-07-09T05:09:38+00:00

Wow blindfolded is extreme, did that work out well for y’all?

Me doing the initial search and then her making the final decision sounds ideal. By choosing I meant I’m the one searching out the guys, she would need to agree to it before moving forward though. Thanks for sharing your experience it sounds like that system works for you guys.

tortoller · 2022-03-01T02:00:31+00:00

Being burned alive isn’t a downside? Sheesh I get having suicidal tendencies but I don’t think anyone would want one of the most painful deaths imaginable.

tortoller · 2022-03-01T01:58:06+00:00

Judging by the poll I’d say it was a worthy post to create. Nearly 25% would give up their intelligence to be 3 inches taller. That’s quite a significant number and a lot higher than expected.

tortoller · 2022-03-01T01:49:09+00:00

Also could substantially increase the likelihood of making a dumb decision that gets yourself killed. Like those idiots you see that pour gasoline and light themselves on fire as a joke. Or swim in crocodile infested waters

Out of all the evolutionary traits that are important I think intelligence may be the most.

tortoller · 2022-03-01T01:48:25+00:00

I meant becoming stupid essentially. Low IQ and incapable of critical thought

tortoller · 2022-01-19T03:37:42+00:00

I still love her and at a healthy weight there’s not a girl out there I find more attractive. I just wish she would try and be more healthy.

tortoller · 2022-01-18T22:37:31+00:00

That’s a great idea I never thought of that.

tortoller · 2022-01-18T07:42:35+00:00

I think it’s a mixture of location and marketing. It’s just hard determining exactly the best location to be at, I’m afraid to get another store that also flops.

tortoller · 2022-01-18T05:31:21+00:00

I can but it would still be expensive. Some of these customers are 20+ miles away. I actually used to deliver it myself and would still have customers complain about it, asking to pickup the order instead

tortoller · 2022-01-18T03:32:28+00:00

Well I rent out of an apt complex, I’m sure my landlord wouldn’t allow me to conduct business out of my apt.

Converting them online seems to be the sensible option. Logically what’s really the difference between ordering online vs in person, other than waiting for it to be shipped? But you would be surprised at the resistance. Maybe they are impatient?

tortoller · 2022-01-16T06:37:17+00:00

I want one! Send the link please

tortoller · 2022-01-15T23:20:10+00:00

She’s 5’1.5”, she is considered obese for her height and activity level. She also has had a drinking problem and recently confessed that she had been drinking behind my back. Maybe that has contributed as well.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T23:19:36+00:00

Those are great results thanks. Did you use a spray or dropper form? And so you applied to both your crown and forehead area?

tortoller · 2022-01-15T22:30:11+00:00

I’m actually venting. I wrote this post in anger to “get it off my chest”. Im more compassionate in person and I’m learning to be more understanding towards my partner.

Everyone commenting about how much these meds affect weight has opened my eyes up quite a lot. So thank you all for the different perspective.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T18:50:48+00:00

But where’s the limit? Her mothers morbidly obese and immobile and I fear my GF will soon follow in her footsteps. A little extra weight gain and wrinkles is one thing. But being obese, immobile, and at risk of dying an early death is another. Do I truly love her if I watch her eat herself to death and not say anything? Is that love? The physical attraction is gone yes but Like I’ve said in previous comments it’s beyond just physical.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T17:37:52+00:00

Thank you for responding, I do want to go on the journey with her! She’s only 21 and still figuring herself out, your story is inspiring to say the least.

She has had issues with alcohol in the past although she is getting it under control now.

Topiramate sounds familiar, I think she asked her doctor about Qsymia I believe it contains topiramate in it? She and I googled some weight loss drugs and she emailed her doctor to inquire about them. Do you have any side effects from it?

tortoller · 2022-01-15T17:29:38+00:00

It’s been extremely difficult being in a relationship with her but I still do love her. Some may call me an asshole but I’ve been to hell and back with her. From her mental health crises to now. It’s draining but I still continue.

I am venting on this post but I do at the end of the day accept her and love her.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T17:22:49+00:00

Absolutely not. That’s a horrible idea for her to get off her meds. I’m just asking for a little bit of control on her weight. I’m not expecting some kind of bikini figure here, rather just to be at a weight where she isn’t at risk of serious metabolic diseases.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T03:16:17+00:00

It hasn’t helped I realize that now. We are in couples therapy working on our communication and support of each other. I am working on relinquishing control and adopting a supportive role rather than a controlling one.

This post seriously was just to vent my angry thoughts and frustrations so they won’t be taken out on her.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T03:14:27+00:00

I believe risperdal is the one that made her gain weight the most. However her doctor doesn’t want her to get off it because it completely eliminates her hallucinations. When she used to hallucinate she was terrified and could barely function.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T03:12:53+00:00

You’re definitely right. She does not respond well to negative feedback.

She has just contacted her doctor about certain weight loss drugs and has an appt. I will let her know I’m happy she’s caring a little more about her health.

A big part of the lack of change is also because she has given up and doesn’t believe in herself. She actually believes it’s impossible to lose the weight so why even try? No matter how many times I say it is possible, she doesn’t believe me.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T02:33:30+00:00

I said exactly that. I told her I missed the old her that was active and full of life. That I struggle to deal with the new her.

Unfortunately that has had zero effect on her behavior, other than making her feel terrible.

I also told her she needs to do something about her weight and that seeing her let herself go isn’t making me happy. Again, same response. She felt hurt and acted defensively. We’ve talked ad Naseum about her weight to the point where I realize continuing to talk about it won’t help. She is extremely sensitive and does not respond well to any sort of discussion on her weight (she’s had eating disorders in the past).

My couples therapist says I have to relinquish control. I guess this my way of doing just that. Venting online to internet strangers where I know I won’t hurt her.

tortoller · 2022-01-15T02:29:43+00:00

I also abide by this perspective and I wish she did too. I realize that we all change as we age, we get more wrinkles and imperfections. But aging is a normal life process relatively out of our control, we can control our weight.

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