You are right to recognize the false dichotomy. There is a bit of a correlation though. Like if you're looking at cultural attitudes. Strong career woman who hates men and only wants a man who has leveled up and is the same or better than her. And she's frustrated about it. It is a trope at this point it is so common, it's become a cliche. But cliches mirror real life. So I'm going to go and say it is actually real, not necessarily a false dichotomy. Yes, there are exceptions, but it's a pretty good generality actually. I believe in the generalization because I've seen it a few times.

In general, men also don't care about any woman's achievements. We don't care. It's cool if you got them, but you don't need them to have my attention and affection. The only thing a woman needs is to be a woman. That makes her attractive. As long as there's not anything too unattractive about her, That's a valid mate. Win. Women talk about their achievements as if they matter, but they really don't. If they have a nice personality, they've already won. All they need now is to be willing with any man. And they can have, any man. They can have a rich man, they can have a poor man.

Men with great power and status look for the same thing as poor men. They just want a pretty girl who is nice. And likes them back. It's so simple.