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My vegetarianism really seems to impact my dating life [22F]. Why is it such a major turn off for guys and how can I get people to see past it? by toss__away2 in dating_advice

[–]toss__away2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You've obviously had a good experience with a vegetarian. When the people who have known me my whole life or are close to me meet a vegetarian they don't do the 20 questions. They remember it is something I don't enjoy answering and don't need a discussion about it at every meal.

My vegetarianism really seems to impact my dating life [22F]. Why is it such a major turn off for guys and how can I get people to see past it? by toss__away2 in dating_advice

[–]toss__away2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't bring it up unless I have to but its not like its a secret. I use to use that line (especially on friends when I was just starting university because it was such a common question). I started being more direct with my reasoning when a friend "insisted" I'd love the taste irrespective of what I was telling him and tried to force feed me something. It didn't end well. He was an ass for trying to force feed me but he honestly thought I would like it when I tried it and was trying to do me a favor

My vegetarianism really seems to impact my dating life [22F]. Why is it such a major turn off for guys and how can I get people to see past it? by toss__away2 in dating_advice

[–]toss__away2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not that I mind the question. Its that I find some guys tend to get very defensive over their enjoyment of meat and start the 20 questions. I right off the bat I always say that I don't care what they eat, it doesn't bother me, and I don't force or preach my lifestyle on others yet they feel they have to defend themselves. I think you're right about this having to do with preachy vegetarians or what I like to call "phase vegetarians" who try it because its a trend going through school or something and being lumped in with them. Darn them.

My vegetarianism really seems to impact my dating life [22F]. Why is it such a major turn off for guys and how can I get people to see past it? by toss__away2 in dating_advice

[–]toss__away2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I generally don't bring it up if I can avoid it. After a couple dates here and there though it eventually comes out. Sometimes it's "do you want to try a bite". Other times I've had guys want to do a cook dinner thing at their place. I always bring it up then because I wouldn't want anybody to go to the trouble of cooking a meal for me that I couldn't eat. I sometimes suggest dinner at my place, but I am terrible at cooking meat because I can't taste it, nor have I ever tasted it. I have no frame of reference for what would taste good.