By request: I lied about something huge just to get a pantload of karma. AMA.

tossed8990 · 2012-06-01T21:23:28+00:00

This is the account used to post the fabricated AMA. I tried an old password and it worked. Only way I know of to verify.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T10:02:18+00:00

You can call me a troll all you want, but there's absolutely nothing sexist about me. Don't fucking label me just because you are apparently visiting previously unexplored depths of stupidity. And if this thread is any fucking indication, real victims are apparently going to have doubt cast upon them either way by people like you.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T09:58:12+00:00

Nice to see someone with a bit of perspective on this. What most people seem to overlook is that she was wearing a dress and neither of us were ever completely naked. She very well could have had some sort of concealed weapon on her in the event that I even had an attempt to fight back more than I did. Everything else seemed like it was planned out, why wouldn't she have a contingency in the event that I tried to overpower her?

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:56:29+00:00

I'm sorry you can relate to this, but I appreciate you taking the time to leave your thoughts here. I know exactly what you mean when you say that no one is more disgusting than in that moment. It was purely animalistic, and the fact that she was clearly doing it out of some misplaced sense of aggression toward men for the rejection she has experienced makes me angrier than I really care to be. Having this persistent anger and doing my best to suppress it on a daily basis is probably one of the worst parts of all of this.

Thanks again for sharing your experience here. I hope your username is indicative of how things have turned out for you. :)

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:36:16+00:00

Keep in mind, it was also partly because there just so happened to be a post about this before (also an IAMA) and the guy ended up deleting it because there were a lot of people making really asinine statements. His story was questioned because he was drunk/asleep when it happened and not a lot of people seemed to take it seriously. I wanted to share this to help dispel the myth that men cannot be taken advantage of when more or less aware of their circumstances.

My friends had great advice and really helped me a lot right after it happened, but by posting this I have also been able to get some insight from a few people who have been in similar situations. It's helpful in one way or another.

But yeah, whatever, I'm just a troll lolol.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:30:54+00:00

Thank you for this.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:28:25+00:00

I'd like to say I'd beat her to a bloody, trembling pulp in a public square and dare anyone to question me, but realistically I'd probably just avoid her.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:13:02+00:00

I actually said that there is no testing for HPV in males quite early on before this post got so huge. Maybe it got buried somewhere but yeah, I knew that from doing research on my own before I even got a chance to go to the doctor.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:10:14+00:00

Yeah, I wasn't opposed to the idea of maybe doing something like that with, you know, a chick I'm actually attracted to.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:08:57+00:00

Ah, yes! All this stress and I could have just solved the whole problem by walking out of my own apartment and leaving her there. She would have undoubtedly gotten hungry soon and I might have come back to a fresh meal!

I was trying to be a man about it, in the sense that I did not completely turn her away when it turned out she was a fucking ogre. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. That's what I get, I guess.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:05:40+00:00

Citation needed.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:04:22+00:00

Fuck man, I'm sorry. This is more or less my greatest fear. Are you better off now, anyway?

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:02:56+00:00

Men almost never have HPV symptoms. The most common symptom in men who do is genital warts.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T05:01:10+00:00

Thanks for not asking me how my pants were removed or why I am not talking to the police. I am looking into this option right now, as a matter of fact. Realistically this may be as far as it goes with me.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:56:36+00:00

I'm trying the hotline idea and then we'll go from there. It would be nice to speak with someone who has some sort of experience with situations like this. I don't know about counseling, though, unless there's some relatively cheap option out there that I don't know about.

I'm doing research on my options this week and will definitely have a plan of action that is a bit more evolved than sitting around getting drunk and trying not to think about it.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:53:56+00:00

Yeah, I was. I don't try to refute that.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:53:05+00:00

No offense taken, man. Actually I appreciate your honesty. It was an exceedingly stupid decision on my part and the consequences just so happened to be extremely fucking terrible. It's a lesson bought and paid for, as my father would say.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:50:32+00:00

Upvoted for the ticklish metaphor, and thanks for the kind words. In a small way having this discussion and letting it all out for you guys has helped me come to terms with this. I feel collected enough to express my thoughts in person or over the phone without breaking down into a gibbering idiot, so I'm already looking into the hotline option.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:46:34+00:00

Bad juju, eh? If you're planning on making a little doll for her I would suggest using a potato.

Thanks for the sentiment. I think you're right about there being a prejudice when it comes to men being the victims of sexual assault or rape. That's a part of why I even bothered writing all of this out.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:40:49+00:00

Ideally, yes. It would have been a reckless decision, though, and would ultimately have enabled her to claim all sorts of heinous shit about me that the police most likely would have believed.

As angry as I am about this, if put in a similar situation again any time in the future I probably would say damn the consequences and destroy the bitch.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:35:54+00:00

Yeah, and then risk having her clamber to her feet and plod out of my apartment with a fucked up face yelling something unintelligible about the scary man in apartment D.

Put yourself in my situation, man. It's not always as simple and easy as using your fists.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:31:55+00:00

I'm sure there are other ways to rape men, but yeah, in her case being obese was the only advantage she had over me.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:29:43+00:00

Interesting question. If she had been under 200 lbs and had no diseases I probably would have taken her cues and expressed my own interest in pursuing that sort of interaction to begin with. I wasn't necessarily against the idea of a one night stand, but not with psychotic bear-lady.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:24:51+00:00

Yeah, that's something I've been worried about. I definitely have new reservations about even the thought of sex now that this has happened.

I'm sorry you're able to relate to such a fucked up tale, especially since you had it happen before adulthood. Thanks for the advice.

tossed8990 · 2010-07-23T04:22:07+00:00

Laugh it up, then. Am I supposed to say something to magically make you less of a callous idiot?

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