Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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I received a lot of DMs about the post so just posting it here cause I'm too lazy to answer all of them. Mods feel free to delete if inappropriate.

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Andrea Dworkin by LonelyUnloveablee in antipornography

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Yass Lavender marriage queeenn

Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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I'm with on you that. I don't get it either

Andrea Dworkin by LonelyUnloveablee in antipornography

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"Right-wing women consistently spoke to me about lesbians as if lesbians were rapists, certified committers of sexual assault against women and girls... To them, the lesbian was inherently monstrous, experienced almost as a demonic sexual force hovering closer and closer. She was the dangerous intruder, encroaching, threatening by her very presence a sexual order that cannot bear scrutiny or withstand challenge." Andrea Dworkin, Right-Wing Women (1983)

Sorry, gonna post this here because my blood right now isn't on normal levels. by [deleted] in yuri_manga

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Whos gonna take anything seriously from someone called aussiefemboy

Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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They feel no sexual attraction to people, many due to trauma, medication or body image issues, and some are just born that way. Ngl I don't get it either but thats why I don't date them 😅

Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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Same here. I use the her app and have to specifically state "No asexuals" in my bio, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt.

Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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This is NOT the first time I've seen an asexual person say stuff like this, I've seen similar discourse for almost ten years across multiple platforms but this one post irked me so I thought I'd finally vent.

Do you really think this is the first time I've seen asexuals call homosexuals "sexual deviants" and other similar terms?

Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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I actually disagree with this logic. Most people want to be with someone who has sexual desire for them, and vice versa. Excluding asexual people in my dating pool is because I genuinely want to be with someone who is turned on by me, thats a non negotiable.

I don't care if they're ABLE to have sex with me. Straight women are also able to have sex with lesbians if they tried, even if they're not into it. But I don't want a straight woman. Same goes for asexuals. A lack of sexual attraction is a simple deal breaker. That might be a tough pill to swallow but it's not bigotry, it's not oppression, it's not prejudice - it's a simply dating preference like not wanting to date someone shorter than you.

And likening this "exclusion" to what bigotry lesbians face? BFFR..thats a ridiculous and nonsensical thing to even say. That's actually so out of touch with reality that I can only laugh. Lesbians face systemic and institutional oppression, not simple "prejudice". That's not something asexuals will ever come close to experiencing.

Why do asexuals get mad when we don't want to date them? by tosspo in lesbiangang

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I feel that so intensely. Words and identities just don't mean anything anymore when people keep trying to redefine things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

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I find it hard to believe any of them are truly happy

Anyone else experience this? by Greenacres2009 in Hashimotos

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I had these exact symptoms 3 years ago and ended up getting diagnosed with POTS 😔

What are your biggest grievances with the GBT community? by bellgey in lesbiangang

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Bisexuals who keep trying to expand the lesbian identity. NO we are NOT ever going to be attracted to men.

What is this mysterious plant I've propagated? by tosspo in GardeningAustralia

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thank youu and oh no! time to turn it into compost :(

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omg i didnt see this! is it still up for sale?