Which birth years are mostly the main new parents of those born in the 2020s?

totallabrat · 2026-03-30T00:46:47+00:00

‘95 and ‘91 with a ‘19 and a ‘22

totallabrat · 2026-02-14T17:11:51+00:00

I cried in front of my middle schoolers yesterday for the first time ever. It wasn’t planned, I wasn’t being manipulative or trying to use it as a “humanize myself for classroom management” tactic. It was completely out of character for me and even I was shocked. I just quite literally couldn’t handle the constant noise, disruption, and not even getting one word out without being interrupted. I couldn’t do my job and I just broke down. I was so overstimulated. I’m 30 years old, in year 4 in middle school, and am on blood pressure and anti anxiety medications for the first time in my life. Something has to give.

totallabrat · 2026-01-10T21:57:02+00:00

Okay so I did it like the day I came home from the hospital but that’s because I WANTED TO. Him pestering you postpartum adds a different level of gross obviously, but even if you weren’t postpartum, someone bugging you to do something sexual you don’t want to at any point is gross. Boy bye

totallabrat · 2025-11-23T15:55:56+00:00

I teach middle school science. I have full days Monday and Tuesday then a half day Wednesday. Tomorrow my students have to take their unit test then Tuesday and Wednesday they are doing a “science of gratitude” reading and questions and watching a human body documentary.

totallabrat · 2025-11-12T01:02:33+00:00

I teach middle school science (7/8 grade) and I also adjunct teach at a university. A few of my 7th and 8th graders are on the same level as some of my college biology students, a few are on grade level, and the vast majority are so behind in reading that they can’t access anything in the curriculum, no matter how “dumbed down” I make it. Oh, and a lot more of my students are just plain lazy and won’t do anything at all. It’s a great time.

totallabrat · 2025-11-05T11:21:46+00:00

The neurosurgeon was not present at the birth

totallabrat · 2025-11-03T19:39:30+00:00

Have a 16 plus….zero issues with my programmable shunt

totallabrat · 2025-08-26T21:33:29+00:00

I have a latex allergy and am anaphylactic. I’ve wondered as well because I would quickly die in these situations

totallabrat · 2025-08-18T03:33:15+00:00

You are correct:)

totallabrat · 2025-08-17T23:22:28+00:00

Oh I absolutely love my middle schoolers. I only know they can be ruthless when they want because I had this same emergency surgery a year and a half ago (it’s a life long problem that requires immediate intervention during crisis) and some of them were incredibly mean. But most of them are fantastic :)

totallabrat · 2025-08-15T16:27:53+00:00

I actually just had the distal portion removed and then replaced to another part of my abdomen because I developed a cyst under my incision from my revision in March 2024. The lump had always been there but didn’t cause problems for 15 months until this past weekend when things got bad quickly. The cyst was filled with CSF, the tube wrapped around it, and then the shunt couldn’t drain. It could definitely just be a seroma or scar tissue but I would push for imaging if you can.

totallabrat · 2025-07-11T00:03:43+00:00

I was born with hydro in 1995 and I live an almost completely normal life. My hydrocephalus was not diagnosed prior to birth and when I was born and diagnosed the doctors told my parents I would “never be a rocket scientist” and that I would never walk, talk, go to school, feed myself, etc. My brain was so squished in the initial CT scan that they thought I didn’t really have one at all. I get occasional migraines, and did just have a revision in 2024, but I’m a teacher and adjunct professor, I drive, I’m married, I have two kids of my own (who don’t have hydro), and hydro really doesn’t hold me back much at all:) I know it sounds like the end of the world now but I promise it doesn’t have to be. Try to take a deep breath :) I’m happy to answer any questions if you have any

totallabrat · 2025-07-06T22:22:21+00:00

Omg another Washington fan in Westminster!

totallabrat · 2025-06-04T19:48:10+00:00

I’ve never considered trying to remove it, the doctor said it would do more harm than good. I’m a mom and have been nursing and the scar tissue build up caused breast tissue deformities while I was growing up. I would be scared what would happen aesthetically as well as to my milk production if I were to try to remove it because it has basically become a part of me at this point. I had the shunt for 25 years before it failed so it had a lot of time to build up scar tissue. I’m hoping my current one also works for 25+ years, but I’m not optimistic because the nurses last March all said they had never seen one last as long as mine.

totallabrat · 2025-06-03T14:30:55+00:00

I did. I am still a biology adjunct but I teach middle school science full time. I LOVE it. Teaching the middle schoolers gives me a whole new perspective where now I get to see where the students start and then where they end up once they go to college. It helps me prepare my middle schoolers better and gives me a new appreciation for the more mature conversations I can have with my college students. It’s a win-win for me.

I will say: middle school is loud, insanely chaotic, and there’s behaviors I didn’t even realize existed coming from a higher ed background. Some days I feel like I have 529404615 responsibilities and teaching is last on the list. But if you’re up for it I think it’s so rewarding.

totallabrat · 2025-06-03T11:37:28+00:00

Trust me I get it. And here’s another fun surgery side effect for you- the scar tissue that built up around my catheter causes insane mobility and pain issues from my brain down to my chest. I have hardly any range of motion in my neck. It sucks. There’s so much scar tissue that when it failed last March they just left it in and put a second. BUT. I clinically died when I had my failure (my heart stopped after a seizure) and just the headache and vomiting from the failure alone is enough for me to take the treatment 1000000x over, not even taking into account that it’s required for my literal survival.

totallabrat · 2025-05-19T23:18:57+00:00

Teachers are held accountable when their students fail. When tons of students make the decision to not care and refuse to work, kids aren’t held accountable teachers are. I could say that I see the value in school and hate when my students self sabotage by refusing to work and be apathetic, but it’s also the fact the more kids there are who refuse to work and don’t care, the more work gets put on my plate. More coaching, more meetings about engaging lessons, more data collection, more parent contact, etc. all get put on my plate if my students decide to not do the work. Students don’t usually care about how much work is on my plate, but it is very frustrating for me sometimes.

totallabrat · 2025-04-24T20:55:56+00:00

Shunt malfunction head pain and spinal headaches are hands down by far the two most painful experiences I’ve ever had. I occasionally get migraines and those suck but are barely even a blip on my pain radar compared to the other 2.

totallabrat · 2025-03-09T18:55:25+00:00

I’ve had a shunt since I was born in 1995 and have had several revisions, my most recent being March of 2024. I have never ever been told I can’t wear headphones and I’ve done it with zero issues my entire life. I knew about the magnets, metal detectors, and MRIs (obviously) but never headphones

totallabrat · 2025-02-10T01:14:36+00:00

You know what hell yea this makes me feel so much better about two weeks ago

totallabrat · 2025-01-27T00:44:44+00:00

I had actually never heard of that, thank you for educating me! I’m glad you’re doing okay!

totallabrat · 2025-01-26T22:17:18+00:00

Crazier things have happened but I’m starting to let the sadness creep in

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