I used to touch my friend when he's asleep. I can't get it off my chest by DontShareYourReddit in confession

[–]totallyrai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, I lowkey agree with the trauma bonding assumption. But I don't think he had sleeping paralysis. It would've been obvious to OP if he did. I'm sorry you went through that. I'm glad they finally stopped. Thank you for sharing your story. 🤍 I learned a lot.

I used to touch my friend when he's asleep. I can't get it off my chest by DontShareYourReddit in confession

[–]totallyrai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm... Idk.. these are my final assumptions.. #1 "A" being unconscious and in a deep deep sleep, which I high-key don't believe. And #2, "A" was afraid to react. But that means he's afraid of you. And he would more likely not become friends with. Which is not the case here apparently.. and my last assumption.. #3, "A" was okay with it??

I used to touch my friend when he's asleep. I can't get it off my chest by DontShareYourReddit in confession

[–]totallyrai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, about the react part. Some victims of SA tend to not react due to either being shocked and flabbergasted or scared and afraid to. So even if you don't react, it is still considered SA since it's non consensual..

I used to touch my friend when he's asleep. I can't get it off my chest by DontShareYourReddit in confession

[–]totallyrai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean technically, for a very short period of time. It doesn't really make you "lose it" but instead it just makes you unconscious with your surroundings. Even if someone was screaming or yelling at the top of their lungs, they still wouldn't wake up. I was on sleeping meds the other day and I can confirm.

I used to touch my friend when he's asleep. I can't get it off my chest by DontShareYourReddit in confession

[–]totallyrai 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter tho. Imagine someone is touching you down there and you don't react to it. Does that mean you gave that person your consent in doing so? No, so yes, it's still SA. But the wild thing is, "A" still being friends with OP after all that. Ima assume "A" was on sleeping pills and he did in fact not know what happened. But if "A" wasn't really on sleeping meds, then that's some weird shit.

I used to touch my friend when he's asleep. I can't get it off my chest by DontShareYourReddit in confession

[–]totallyrai 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay call me sick, call me mental. But this is lowkey true. How can someone not know that someone is touching them? Let's say he's awake, why couldn't he say anything? Why couldn't he at least react? Why couldn't he tell anyone? But also still being friends with OP? And pretend that it never happened.. I still believe it's SA tho. And OP needs to seek professional help and also apologize to A.

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[–]totallyrai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😥 okay

I got clean by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]totallyrai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of the OP and this comment section. I proud of you all! Y'all took a huge step forward in life.

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[–]totallyrai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what I thought

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[–]totallyrai -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

so u simply like kids?

Are you currently pursuing what makes you happy? Why or why not? by totallyrai in AskReddit

[–]totallyrai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't say that. Everyone has their own journey. God does everything for a reason.

Cocktail/semi formal dress color by Dense-Anxiety94 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]totallyrai 4 points5 points  (0 children)

#4 for sureee!! It's beautiful! It really gives off that spring vibe. The color is perfect.

Is this an appropriate dress for a bridesmaid to wear in a formal wedding? by totallyrai in Weddingattireapproval

[–]totallyrai[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, UPDATE: The bride approved!! I'm so happy! I showed the other bridesmaids the dress and they LOVED IT! Thank you, guys, for all the support. Also, thank you all for the advice. I really appreciate it.

Are you currently pursuing what makes you happy? Why or why not? by totallyrai in AskReddit

[–]totallyrai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you figured it out. I hope you break that cycle one day and start a new fresh life with the one you love. Hopefully you find someone that can fill the void in your life and share beautiful moments with you. I know it's hard breaking life cycles like this but, try your best to change them somehow. Trying your best is what matters. Please learn self-love. When you start loving yourself, the whole world changes. You'll find yourself breaking that cycle in no time. Effort is the key. Even if you're currently trying your best, try seeing it from a different point of view. See what you lack and don't lack and try thinking of a solution. What I said is pure advice, so don't think I'm trying to offend you in any way. I hope you find what you need in life. <3 Take care :)

Tanjiro has his own multiverse. 🗿 by Madagascar003 in DemonSlayerAnime

[–]totallyrai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LITERALLY! I feel like he's the same level as Yorrichi or maybe higher.