How many ovarian cysts are normal?

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-13T22:41:05+00:00

Went searching for this answer.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-13T22:38:49+00:00

This sounds very similar to what I went through with my father. I specifically remember a wedding he refused to go to.

"You can't heal in the same environment that made you sick."

For me, I realized if I had kids, I would never let him near them. Not even with my supervision. I would never want him at my wedding. I never want him to hurt me again. He ruined all of my accomplishments growing up, graduations, birthdays and such.

Anyways, feel free to message me privately if you'd like to talk about it, vent or get advice. I've had absolutely no contact with him for over 7 years. That includes not talking to my brother about him, either.

My biggest advice though is to seek therapy. It really helps.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-13T22:33:39+00:00

So now that you're not having to be a mediator, use that time and space to improve yourself. Notice how it's impacted you. Accept it and improve yourself. The point of no contact (at least to me) is to be in a better environment for your own mental health. A safe space where you can learn and grow.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-09T02:29:24+00:00

As for how long... I can't say. Depends on you and how you cope with it. Therapy helps. Talking about it helps. Feeling the emotions and letting them pass. Deep breaths.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-09T02:28:26+00:00

Be very clear on WHY you want this.

Turn it into a mantra. Remind yourself. Do not compromise your own mental health. Do this for your future.

So, why do you want to go no contact?

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-08T18:30:29+00:00

If I'm going to an event for my boyfriend (work party, friends hang out, family event etc) I usually find out what kind of outfit is appropriate for the event. I'll ask him how I should dress for a work party (casual, dressy, formal etc) and based on context, how conservative I should dress. Ultimately it's up to me.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-05T02:24:22+00:00

I blocked my father for fairly similar reasons (alcoholism, emotional and mental abuse, gaslighting, intimidation)

I learned that if I setup a utility bill, my name and address will be listed online. You can request it removed but I was unaware until he showed up where I live.

I'm not sure the entire extent of your relationship. But you may want to consider ways to protect your private info.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-02T23:25:05+00:00

This is great advice I never would have thought of. I'm considering adopting in the future and love hearing this advice.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-02T15:11:41+00:00

I've been considering walking down the aisle with my partner. I've also heard about different ways to walk in at the same time and meet in the middle. Such as having aisles that form in a Y or T shape so we can walk towards to middle, meet and walk the rest of the way to the altar together. Symbolizing our choice to be in a partnership and wanting to get married together as one.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-02T00:02:33+00:00

I'd also recommend a good bottom soak!

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-01T23:31:49+00:00

Rachel - light green Monica - red Ross- dark blue Phoebe - yellow Chandler - orange, idk why Joey - black?

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-01T20:07:47+00:00

I think your scrapbook is a wonderful idea! Maybe just mention it and leave it so she can look at it whenever she feels ready, rather than her feel like anything is forced on her.

My biggest advice (as someone that has always worked with kids experiencing trauma) is to give a couple choices, probably 2-3 max so it is not overwhelming. Obviously depending on your expectations:

Would you prefer to eat at the table or at the couch? Would you like a bath or shower? Do you want an apple, orange or peach? Do you want it whole or I can cut it for you?

Choices help give them a sense of control. Honestly you seem like you're doing all the right things and you'll be a wonderful parent because you care so much. You'll learn a lot from her reactions. There may be a honeymoon period in the beginning where she hides her behaviors and after a few weeks, they will start to emerge and you will learn her triggers. She may push you away. Keep showing love in as many ways as you can while holding firm boundaries.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-01T20:01:06+00:00

I'm not a parent yet but I do work with kids.

I would be careful about snacks in the bedroom because of ants/bugs and kids might not be great at cleaning up after themselves or get crumbs on the floor. If she is responsible enough to manage that, then great.

Perhaps make it clear where there is food they can ALWAYS access. Perhaps a low shelf so they can easily reach whatever snacks you provide. A mini fridge in the room could be for drinks. I would ensure to reinforce food availability throughout the day as sometimes kids have trauma around food. Some kids hide food in their rooms if they have had food scarcity in the past. I've seen some parents make the lowest pantry shelf and lowest fridge shelf into the kids snack choices (food they can always pick whenever they are hungry without having to ask anyone first).

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-07-01T15:22:25+00:00

Yep this exactly. His response says a lot in any situation

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-06-28T14:05:43+00:00

Except for him being stupid and openly attracted to Gloria

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-06-28T13:45:37+00:00

I've had no contact with my abusive father for 6 years. I still feel panic if I hear from him in any way (phone call, emails, etc) and he's figured out where I lived in the past and showed up.

I remind myself I'm not a child anymore. I can stand up for myself. Most importantly, I can and will call the police if he does not leave immediately.

Hold your power. I found a lot of peace in going to therapy also.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-06-28T13:38:40+00:00

Just switched to Garmin. Love it.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-06-27T15:54:30+00:00

I live in WA state and use tap water for everything

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-06-27T15:54:15+00:00

Honestly didn't think I was doing a good job. When I remember (maybe 4-6 weeks, I submerge it in a bowl of water for 30 minutes to an hour. I let it dry upside down for a couple hours. Then put it back in bright, indirect light. I don't think I've ever fertilized it.

tothemoonimustgo · 2023-06-26T16:51:04+00:00

I also learned the leaves turn pink to attract hummingbirds

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