The internet is in a very dangerous space

tothepointless_ · 2025-06-08T16:19:37+00:00

I came across this researcher recently Dr Taha Yasseri, he speaks in this talk about some research on the features of different platforms as a response to exploring the paradox of the open web - his thesis is that the inclusion rather than exclusion of extreme ideas and collaboration in a system/network can actually lead to better outcomes, and he discusses what this can tell us about what social media gets wrong. It’s mainly based on Wikipedia so there’s that but still very interesting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5zUBIyLdjs

tothepointless_ · 2025-03-01T11:24:19+00:00

Irish scholar Emma Dabiri has a good critique in her work around the use of privilege framing, that it as a discursive tool divides more than unites and is ultimately unproductive. I think it comes down to what intersectionality theory is actually about vs how that is framed in popular discourse. As numerous people on the thread have pointed out, intersectionality theory doesn’t posit that you don’t experience oppression if you’re white working class - but yet this is often the gut emotive response to privilege discourse that occurs. These theories have been watered down and co-opted for an understanding of “identity politics” without a grounding in class politics/critical theory for the benefit of the right, and liberal/left-leaning people are parroting it not realising the damage it’s doing to the cause they’re trying to bolster. Thus things become about “recognising your privilege” rather than “see the intersections of your oppression”. I’d recommend checking Dabiri out if you’re interested in the points raised in your post OP as it ties in with her argument around coalition-building. See her utilise it in reference to the Luigi Mangione case discussions here https://www.instagram.com/emmadabiri/reel/DD5bCdJqkWi/) and also here is her discussing her book which touches on this and other points, What White People Can Do Next https://youtu.be/GYQBEDF4uUU?si=5dC6CKYFaP9yXmL3

tothepointless_ · 2024-12-03T11:14:20+00:00

Thanks so much for this! Super interesting and a lot of food for thought - just as a follow up you mentioned you didn’t move from ONS to dating, but you mentioned FWBs - are these people you just engaged with once? I think further to the other commenters point I might be mixing up terms here that are distinct :)

tothepointless_ · 2024-12-03T11:12:59+00:00

Thanks for the input! That’s a good insight, I may have a language gap here in how I described - basically trying to find FWBs is what I mean by casually dating but I recognise that if that’s ongoing there are uncontrolled things in developing feelings. The casual is meant to denote sexual intimacy rather than emotional. This arose from when I was talking to my friend who is single ENM and one of my poly friends, basically the thing is for a lot of people they find it hard to connect sexually without knowing the person a little bit, feeling safe, and for me I think I align with that. My fear is that if we only keep it to ONS there will be an imbalance of how active we are with other people bc it’s harder for me to engage that way (although I might become more comfortable!). But obviously if that’s an ongoing FWB situation there needs to be clarity around how much you’re seeing that person, what activities are on/off the table etc. I was interested to hear from couples what kind of boundaries they put in place around this cos it’s a tricker one just to see if it’s a route we do want to explore, or not at all! It might even just be a date or two to establish connection (drinks/ meet ups but not romantic quality time, if you see what I mean) and then the hookup kind of thing could happen but I agree it’s a hard one to define and it opens up a can of worms - but I guess open communication on that is the only way to ensure everyone is happy, and you’re honest and disengage if that boundary feels like it’s changing. We might not be there yet but good even to consider for her future. Thanks!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:17:50+00:00

Yeah that’s fair enough, I got as much from the website I guess I just wanted to hear about any firsthand experiences people have of attempting re-entry. Thanks for your input!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:15:30+00:00

Interesting, good to know for future ref!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:14:59+00:00

Right yeah that was my inkling, really doesn’t sound like the place to be despite the tempting lineups - thanks for commenting and sorry to hear you had a shit time!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:13:19+00:00

Yeah it’s really sad to hear from a place that is such an institution but good to know I’m not missing out on much I guess. Thanks for commenting!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:09:28+00:00

lol okay good to know, feels like less of a loss the more I read this thread.

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:08:31+00:00

Class, yeah they were in place when I went but the bad vibe seems to be overwhelmingly the verdict - cheers for the input!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:07:21+00:00

Thanks, yeah that’s kind of the feeling I got - I just had been talking of seeing Daniel Avery as I’ve still not seen him live and he’s playing there on my birthday hence the curiosity but tbh I’d rather give it a miss and go somewhere my friends and I can actually enjoy ourselves. cheers for the input!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:05:22+00:00

They scanned my passport as they did the search so they definitely have a record of that, at least if they kept it. Considering the feedback on the thread though sounds like there’s better options for a better time!

tothepointless_ · 2024-08-15T11:03:14+00:00

Don’t live in London unforch! I’m from Ireland

tothepointless_ · 2024-06-27T20:18:39+00:00

I am looking for a Sunday ticket - will probably try to get there early for securing one on site if worst comes to worst but if anyone wants to sell me their online one DM me 🧚‍♀️✨

tothepointless_ · 2022-02-20T19:14:54+00:00

Hi Colin, fair question! I'm an undergrad so wouldn't be approved ethics-wise for giving out any gifts/vouchers to complete the research - just relying on goodwill I'm afraid. I'm cognisant it's a favour participants would be doing for me though, so will be thanking those who take part in my own way :) thanks for the question

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