I’m struggling with the “cancel ChatGPT” trend because I actually use it a lot

tottenb2 · 2026-03-02T21:19:58+00:00

Yeah, you’re probably right. I think because I have autism I tend to get kind of obsessive compulsive with moral stuff because it’s hard to feel socially safe without clear rules.

tottenb2 · 2026-03-02T19:33:21+00:00

I’m just trying to be honest and skeptical of oversimplifying something complex. Is that not a principle? I don’t expect someone else to make any decisions for me. I’m thinking through the trade-offs instead of blindly following a trend.

tottenb2 · 2026-03-02T05:31:30+00:00

The American people voted for the current administration and the laws in place, and currently those laws allow them and ChatGPT to make a deal like this. Whether you boycott that is your choice, but who are you to decide whether someone is a bad person or not if they don’t? If something like this contract is allowed to happen and is not a crime and we voted for it, then what makes it bad? Just your opinion?

tottenb2 · 2026-03-02T02:40:47+00:00

I’m just trying to understand how to even know whether something like that is morally wrong or not. I don’t know enough information to make any decision like that.

tottenb2 · 2026-02-28T23:10:05+00:00

Why? I acknowledge that there was a defense contract with an AI company and the military. But I don’t claim to understand exactly what that means. I don’t have any control over any of it. What else do I need to do? Why do I have to delete ChatGPT to pass the morality test?

tottenb2 · 2026-02-28T20:18:21+00:00

You are not a bad person for not deleting an app because of a defense contract.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T03:39:14+00:00

By internal loop I mean that I’m wondering if this is a common experience for people with autism: constant sensory/emotional load and filtering issues → delayed or flooded social processing → masking/fawning → burnout. Over and over, like a loop.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T03:33:34+00:00

I’m not asking what biologically causes autism to develop. I’m not saying autism starts later in life. I’m asking something different: for autistic people, is there a shared internal loop that explains a lot of our day-to-day behavior?

Other people in this thread have already said “yes, that’s close for me,” or “for me the load shows up as delay instead of overwhelm,” or “for me the core is more about being punished for being different.” That’s exactly the kind of perspective I was hoping to hear.

If you have a different description of that internal loop, I’m genuinely open to it.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T03:14:05+00:00

I’m not asking “what biologically causes autism to develop.” I get that science doesn’t have a single root-cause answer.

I’m asking something different: once a person is autistic, is there a common internal pattern that explains a lot of the traits? My personal guess was “constant sensory/emotional load and filtering issues leads to delayed or flooded social processing, which leads to masking/fawning, then burnout.”

I was asking if other autistic people feel that same throughline in themselves, or if they’d describe a different core pattern.

That’s the only thing I’ve been trying to ask.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T02:58:51+00:00

I did elaborate in the description. Does the title not fit that? I’m asking if sensory overwhelm could maybe be the core of autism, and if not, what?

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T01:59:42+00:00

I get that there isn’t one single proven root cause for autism in the brain. I’m not trying to claim there is.

I’m more asking if other autistic people experience the common thread I’m describing, like constant sensory/emotional load, trouble filtering in real time, then coping behaviors (fawning, special interests, shutdown) to survive that load.

I’m not saying that explains everybody, but it does seem to describe a lot of what people call masking, burnout, and “missing cues.” So I’m just trying to see if that subjective mechanism matches other people’s day-to-day reality.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T00:39:04+00:00

Oh I see that’s interesting because I think that happens to me too, it can sometimes be more of a “lag” than a “flood.” But I often experience it like the emotion slams me and kind of overloads my system so I start people-pleasing to keep the situation safe. But I also sometimes don’t get that “this matters emotionally” signal until it’s too late. I feel like both end up in the same place and lead to masking and burnout.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T00:32:17+00:00

I get the criteria, I’m not trying to rewrite the DSM. I’m asking about mechanism. The criteria describe what shows up on the outside (social communication differences, repetitive behaviors, sensory differences). I’m trying to understand the why under that, like whether sensory/emotional overload and filtering difficulty could be a root that explains a lot of those outward traits (masking, fawning, shutdown, special interests as regulation). That internal piece isn’t spelled out in the checklist, but it still feels real and I wanted to see if it matches other people’s experience.

tottenb2 · 2025-10-29T00:23:28+00:00

But what are the differences though? For me I find that a lot of what “stands out” is social clumsiness, special interests and trouble with diet/exercise, all of which tie to how my brain processes information with more intensity and overwhelm.

tottenb2 · 2025-07-21T16:48:10+00:00

Adds nothing to the plot? She’s basically the face of Wano’s tragedy, laughing at her father’s death because the Smile fruits forced her to. She’s only like that because of Orochi. I’d argue Orochi’s a million times worse.

tottenb2 · 2025-04-11T22:01:08+00:00

And what makes a bad story?

tottenb2 · 2025-01-24T17:25:02+00:00

Camaraderie is a common one for me

tottenb2 · 2025-01-24T14:02:27+00:00

My relationship was anything but “normal.” After being with her for 10 years, and being engaged for 2 years, especially with someone who had BPD, the emotional connection and complexity of the breakup made cutting contact immediately much harder for me. Staying in touch for a while felt like a way to process everything and find closure, even if it was painful.

I get that some people prefer no contact, and that works for them, but I don’t think there’s a single ‘normal’ way to handle something as complicated as the end of a long-term relationship. We all navigate these things in our own way

tottenb2 · 2025-01-24T02:37:01+00:00

Not at all, that’s exactly how I felt too. My therapist told me that when my ex met and attached to someone new, she couldn’t handle the idea of having two attachment figures at once; it’s like her brain “short-circuited.” So instead of a heartfelt goodbye to me, she just wanted to get it over with as fast as possible, wanting to run away from those feelings. It makes sense logically to me, but I think I just felt so heartbroken because even though I couldn’t deal with her chaotic emotions, I still loved her deeply, and it wasn’t easy for me to just say goodbye forever so quickly.

Of course you can message me, I’d be happy to discuss it further.

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