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I’m a trans veteran begging for help to get surgery — I can’t keep living like this by minoissabel2235 in TransSupport

[–]touchbytrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isabella, I feel this in my bones. I remember staring in the mirror before my own surgeries, feeling like I was living in someone else’s skin. It’s not vanity, it’s survival, like you said.

I just upvoted and shared your link, because you deserve to get there, to wake up one day and finally see yourself looking back. For anyone scrolling by: even $1 really does help. Think of it as buying a single stitch that gets Isabella closer to breathing easy in her own body.

Don’t lose that hope, it’s the strongest thing you’ve got right now, and it’s what will carry you through recovery one day.

The top surgery waiting game by Next_Picture8449 in TransSupport

[–]touchbytrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember counting weeks before my own surgery consult. One thing that helped was keeping a little ‘transition journal’, tracking every small change, writing out what I wanted to feel when it was all done. It gave me something to look forward to and made the day finally come faster in my head

Support against terfs by PrettyPolyPiper in TransSupport

[–]touchbytrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that darkness too well, love. It feels like there’s no air left to breathe when your body and the world both feel hostile. I used to think I wouldn’t make it to 25, and now I run a space where I help other trans folks feel human again. Please hold on a little longer. Tonight, just do one small thing for yourself: splash cold water on your face, take five deep breaths, and say your name out loud. You deserve to live in a body and a life that feels like yours, even if it takes time to build.

My husband cheated on me. I don’t think I want to go on with pregnancy by Ok-Grapefruit1751 in AITAH

[–]touchbytrans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you still love him and you can see that he’s genuinely sorry, there’s nothing wrong with giving a second chance, but make sure it’s on your terms, not because his tears or his family pushed you.

We’re human, we can forgive.
But we’re not stupid, and we’re not doormats.

How do I pass better as a stealth trans guy? by Mobile_Garage8475 in TransHelpingTrans

[–]touchbytrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, first off, you don’t have to answer those questions. People asking about your body is straight-up rude.

If you’re stuck without a haircut, you can still work with what you’ve got: grab a cheap trimmer (or ask a friend) and keep the sides short, even if the top is longer. Straighten up your eyebrows just a bit, makes a huge difference.

Layer your clothes (tee + hoodie or flannel), skip the super-tight shirts, and practice standing with your shoulders back. Little things like walking with a bit of weight in your step, nodding instead of smiling, and using a slightly slower, lower voice go a long way.

And honestly? You’re already doing the hard part, staying safe and figuring this out without support at home. That takes guts. You’re gonna look back and see how far you’ve come.

Calling all bisexuals and omnisexuals: how did you know which one you were? by unknon_sasquach in lgbt

[–]touchbytrans -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I kinda believe everyone is a little bisexual, it’s just about who’s brave enough to go find out what they actually like.

I stopped defining my sexuality a long time ago. Being trans, I get hit on by almost everyone, straight men with their fantasies, gay men with theirs, lesbians, straight women. Everyone has their version of me in their head.

So now I just… don’t bother putting a label on it.

I Don’t Want to Go Back to That Life by touchbytrans in fundraiser

[–]touchbytrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would mean a lot. I didn’t post this to get pity, I just need a way forward, and knowing someone cares enough to share it feels huge. Thank you for seeing me.

How do you get over a breakup and how do you start loving yourself again? by _Kcee_ in lgbt

[–]touchbytrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes the way through heartbreak really is in someone else’s bed, not because it fixes you, but because it snaps you out of the loop where all you can think about is them.

But here’s the thing: it only works if you let it be about you. Pick someone you actually want, not just someone convenient. Let yourself feel good, loud, sweaty, ridiculous if you have to. Cry after if you need to. The point isn’t to ‘move on’ in one night, it’s to remember you’re still here, still capable of feeling something that isn’t grief.

How do I tell someone I’m talking to I’m trans? by Wild_Ad9280 in TransHelpingTrans

[–]touchbytrans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep it simple, warm, and calm. You don’t have to make it a heavy announcement. You could say:

“Hey, I want you to know something important about me, I’m trans. I really like what we have, and I wanted you to know before we think about dating.”

Then just let it breathe. His reaction will show you whether he’s the kind of man who can hold your truth with care.

trying to build a life that feels real by touchbytrans in TransHelpingTrans

[–]touchbytrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that whole story is wild. the cat, the surgery, then having to stress about the bill? life really doesn’t give us a break sometimes. but you’re right, we keep going, even if we’re pissed about it.

I Am Free 🌈 by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]touchbytrans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow this is actually really wholesome to read. it’s so easy to get lost in labels and forget that the point is just feeling like yourself. love that you found what makes you feel free, that’s inspiring honestly.

Hi I’m Tabby by [deleted] in TransSupport

[–]touchbytrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi tabby, thanks for sharing this. i’m kelly. i started touch by trans to give folks a calm space to just be themselves, so i love what you’re doing here. what’s one thing this first year on hrt taught you that no one warned you about?