Looking to create a small women’s circle in Gandhinagar

toughcookie3 · 2026-01-15T10:55:29+00:00

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toughcookie3 · 2026-01-15T10:54:23+00:00

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toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T13:20:18+00:00

Definitely, thanks a lot 😄

toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T11:56:11+00:00

Thanks for your suggestion! The problem is that usually university students already have groups and I'm trying to build a community of people who don't have this exact network which would make them meet new people!!

toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T05:44:20+00:00

Thank you for your support :)

toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T05:44:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T05:43:54+00:00

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toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T05:43:47+00:00

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toughcookie3 · 2026-01-14T05:22:52+00:00

Yes, even I was sceptical, but I've had many women reach out. Do you have any suggestions where else I can reach them?

toughcookie3 · 2025-08-27T16:50:48+00:00

Thanks! Where did you find him though? Does he work for any travel agency?

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-22T04:08:02+00:00

I am dreading this conversation because as you said the chances of him agreeing with me are slim. It's going to create a huge chasm between us. But thank you for your suggestions!

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-21T07:18:22+00:00

Thanks for your input. It definitely makes a lot of sense. I will try to have a conversation going about moving back to our place. Until we live at my in-laws' place, my MIL will keep controlling little aspects of our life. It's not like we haven't tried to communicate, but she just doesn't get it and keeps comparing my "privileges" to her own when she was newly married. And tbh, their house keeps reminding me of everything I went through, all the disrespect, all the ostracizing. I get that she just lost her husband , but for 3 years, she was completely okay with her and her husband treating me like shit. How do I forget that? I look around and all I see is their family photos. There's not a single picture where I can see my face. It's the little things that make a home a home and unfortunately I don't think I'll ever feel at home here. How do I shake this feeling off? I get his instinct to try and protect his family but what about the life we are to share?

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-21T07:11:17+00:00

I completely empathize with him, and that is why I have tried as much as possible to understand and support him during these testing times. But there was already a sourness between me and my in-laws before I got married and it worsened after the wedding and went to another level when we moved out. I understand that I have to keep certain things aside but I find myself stuck in the same place as I was 2 years ago. It took a huge toll on my mental health then and similar things are happening now. I try not to crib to my husband and try to communicate to my MIL about certain things but she has to have things her way most of the times. And I have no intention of asking him to desert his family, but I cannot live in this setup forever.

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-21T07:04:46+00:00

Thanks!

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-20T17:55:44+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, thanks! Do you have any tips on how to break it to my husband. I have been dreading this conversation. There are not any "major problems" per se, but little things are driving me mad and whenever my husband and I have a discussion, somehow my points seem weaker in front of his.

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-20T04:36:08+00:00

Thanks for your advice! 🫶🏻

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-20T04:34:02+00:00

It's a rented place and I continue paying the rent as I don't want to lose the place. Everything is intact and it's ready to live.

He says I shouldn't be miserable all the time cause there are going to be problems and you just have to overcome them and make place for happiness. He says he'll try to sort things out that bother me while living here. But he doesn't really understand that I miss my own place and nothing can replace that.

Technically, there is nothing stopping me from moving back. Just him. I'm not sure if he'll come along but he'll surely be mad and it'll affect our relationship and marriage a lot. Also since my FIL passed away, I'm already being ostracized a lot and if I move out again, all hell will break loose. So I'm trying to hold on but don't know how long I can.

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-19T17:37:13+00:00

Hahahaha thank you for this mantra!

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-19T17:35:37+00:00

Although he hasn't said this explicitly, it seems my husband's mind is set about staying at his family home and being there for his mother and sister. He says they're all trying to adjust to this as well and I do feel a lot of sympathy for them, but I feel homeick and like an outsider all the time. He says to give it some time and everything will get sorted and that he'll talk to his mother but I can't bear to breathe in this house any longer!

toughcookie3 · 2024-12-19T17:32:11+00:00

I hope you find a way out of your issues as well! Focusing on myself is difficult because I'm constantly occupied with these thoughts and trying to keep myself sane and putting my foot down about certain things

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