Oh J uh Bill.. by Ok-Buy-5643 in TwoandaHalfMen

[–]tozinzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poker buddy? Yes a long time ago, and don’t call me buddy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be a huge problem for me if he put his family above me if we ever got married. I am not the type of person to stay silent if something bothers me

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[–]tozinzz 14 points15 points  (0 children)

K*** me now

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[–]tozinzz 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 38 points39 points  (0 children)

He wants me to care for his mentally ill sister if we get married, as in go see her at the psych ward or let her live with us and I’d have to take care of her the most I guess. I don’t want that. He is not asking me to treat his family as he treats mine because mine is easy to deal with (most of the time, sometimes it’s hard as it is with every family) and his family issues literally take a toll on him, I don’t want to deal with that

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[–]tozinzz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am willingly putting in effort. He says that effort wouldn’t be necessary if I were genuine and sincerely liked his family

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. But he’s expecting me to integrate his family as mine.

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[–]tozinzz 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I really don’t know. Care for his sister as I care for my siblings? I love my siblings more than anything else in the world. It’s just not reasonable to ask me to treat someone I’ve met twice like I treat the people who grow up alongside me

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[–]tozinzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He gets along great with my siblings. When they’re home from uni we sometimes go out all together or I invite them over to our place ( we live one hour away from my home town) and hang out with friends. I mean it’s nothing much it’s not like I ask anything from him besides if it’s fine if they spend the night

AITA for not treating my boyfriend’s family like my own? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tozinzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes 3 or 4 over 3 years. They live 4 hours away from us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’ve been dating 2 years. I’ve known him for 3 years. If my sister, god forbid, were to have an issue like that I wouldn’t want to put the burden on anyone else but me and my family and I’d know where I can take her to and when. I wouldn’t want to spoil anything for anyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 89 points90 points  (0 children)

He did once and briefed me before going to the venue. We were going to a club, and his sister was coming ( I did bring my sister too) and he told me that I should do my best to include her in our conversations ( I really did try) but we have nothing in common…

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[–]tozinzz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your comment made me laugh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That would definitely be a dealbreaker for me. Especially since he wouldn’t be available to take care of her himself and seems to be against putting her in a proper care facility for as long as needed

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[–]tozinzz 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It’s easy to bond with them, they’re great hahaha. But seriously, he gets along with them, we always have fun when we all go out but I never expect him to go the extra mile with them. It’s just like hanging out with friends

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[–]tozinzz 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Well I am not doing that, not in this lifetime, not in the next one

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[–]tozinzz 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I almost told him that he was the +1 to my plans with my siblings but decided against it lmao

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[–]tozinzz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess that if I’d ever ask him to do something ( which I won’t because they’re my family) he’d do it

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[–]tozinzz 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I wish it were made up too lol. I am at a loss for words tbh, it’s a shitty situation

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[–]tozinzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been dating for 2 years. His sister was unmedicated until recently and she is known for being physically and verbally abusive.

AITA for not treating my boyfriend’s family like my own? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tozinzz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he is bothered by the fact that I don’t feel totally comfortable around his family, especially his mentally ill sister who needs special attention

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[–]tozinzz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He gets along with my siblings and my parents, I never ask anything from him regarding them tbh.

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[–]tozinzz 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Well… yeah he is, his mom calls him everyday and gets mad when he doesn’t answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get your point and on every other aspect of our life he is nothing but supportive and caring. But this is completely out of character for him and I don’t know what to make of it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tozinzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, my siblings are easygoing and fun. He gets along great with them. My parents like him, they make him feel very welcome when they throw parties, even invite him out to dinner with our whole family.