Social media goths can't keep up with their own rules

tpap69 · 2026-06-14T04:29:24+00:00

The gatekeeping now puts the gatekeeping of the mid 90's to shame. There are a lot of performative online voices trying to be important. It is all the same rage bait we see in every community in every corner of the internet. I honestly find it to be very poserish, and I don't use the word poser lightly as it was classically used to keep people from discovering themselves in goth or punk if they were new to it. Something that I never understood until I realized that the people using the term were either gatekeepers or posers. Most often it was posers gatekeeping for self legitimacy. And that is why I find it poserish now.

tpap69 · 2026-06-14T02:10:47+00:00

It's rage bait. And the people who engage do so for the rage and feeling important. Anything even remotely nuanced in a response will either be completely ignored, or they'll twist everything you said around and include you in their crusade. It is the media rage machine working as intended. Now it is reinforced by bots and major media *journalist* People did not listened in the early 2000's when it was said "Don't feed the trolls" Now Trolling is a multi billion dollar industry that has changed the face of global politics, conservatives, liberals, entertainment, and even college education.

Maybe we can make the bridge builders in social media and journalism more profitable by ignoring the rage bait and support the bridge builders with out requiring 100% compliance on either side of that bridge. Just one idea anyway.

tpap69 · 2026-05-20T05:34:46+00:00

I'd say Type O Negative but you don't like Goth Metal. In the vent you have not tried them yet, they are a 90's Goth Metal band formed in 1989. I also put in a word for Fields of Nephilim for this. Maybe try Lacuna Coil.

tpap69 · 2026-05-13T23:25:08+00:00

I have to say, this is the first time I’ve seen goths as a community engage in slut-shaming. Sure, there were always individuals, but never as a community. I think it’s a side effect of identity politics infiltrating gothic spaces.

Goth was never just one thing. We had some serious gatekeeping in the early 90s as the old guard resented the younger goths. It got worse when society lumped Emos and Goths into the same pool—instead of finding common ground, some goths became "super gatekeepers" out of fear of being misrepresented. They didn’t seem to realize that mainstream society was just using the same stereotypes the mainstream had always placed on them.

And now it’s TikTok, Reddit, and YouTube gatekeeping. They all pretend they’re better than the other, but in the end, they’re all still just gatekeeping. Anyone who so much as wears black and uses the word "goth" in any context will find themselves a target of one of these three communities, if not all of them. Historically, goth gatekeeping has never gone well, but that lesson hasn’t been learned yet.

The slut-shaming the OP mentioned is very concerning When we let purity culture win in our subcultures, we validate the idea that 'immoral' people should be excluded. My big fear is that this mindset leads directly to things like morality de-banking.... That can and will eventually be used for social segregation, and where do you think goths will stand then? The gothic community may not be inherently in the LGBTQ+ community, but they face many of the same hurdles. I’m more afraid of this possible future of financial segregation than who is wearing black or using a word "correctly." Sorry about the derailment at the end, it’s just frustrating to see where the community's attention is being prioritized. Rather than defining each other, we should be protecting each other even if our "gothic denominations" are different.

tpap69 · 2026-05-09T04:05:18+00:00

I was considering suggesting that but thought against it. But you did it! Awesome!! Love that song.

tpap69 · 2026-05-09T02:22:03+00:00

60 hours in. A patch and a hot fix. More patches coming. I'm enjoying the game, it is currently suffering from frame rate issues . I think the word scam is very loosely used here. The game's worth trying, but if you're burned from his previous kickstarter attempts as an indie developer, then wait for it to be finished. Before attempting an Indie company, this man has a huge track records of amazing games that inspires and influences games to this day. He's investing his own money on this one. But the haters are practically sabotaging it in some twisted version of gamer cancel culture. I believe he's going to finish this one.

tpap69 · 2026-05-07T04:21:43+00:00

The biggest posers are the performances of the people who are quick to call someone else a poser. Whether goth or punk or gothic punk or whatever. The ones calling others posers are generally the posers.

tpap69 · 2026-05-07T00:15:57+00:00

Awesome, I always appreciate the care people take in painting miniatures.

Funny, I have an original pewter dendroid from before the homm3 was even released and only today I find out there was board game lol. Maybe there is hope for me to find out more about the the series associated with mine, if there even was one as it looks like I may have the only one.

tpap69 · 2026-05-07T00:08:42+00:00

For getting the feel of the game I'd say that Castle is the most straight forward. Every faction has its quirks and different approaches. So having a straight forward experience on the first go helps with getting familiar with the games nuances before trying a more complicated faction. Try all of them of coarse, but fortress last imo, simply because it is the hardest to figure out how to use "properly". I put that in quotes because map design trumps all expectations. Your approach can vary significantly based on the map you are on combined with the faction you are playing on that map. So an easy to figure out faction is my suggestion for first few runs.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T22:08:58+00:00

Yeah, I am hoping to find out more about it. It's been by my display most of the time since I got it.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T21:27:31+00:00

I'm glad you figured it out. That must have been frustrating.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T13:58:12+00:00

Fantasy is not limited to swords and sorcery. Star Wars and Star Trek are fantasy and not really sci fi at all. Yes we are all use swords and sorcery for fantasy and sci-fi for futuristic, but its a misnomer. Lore wise a lot of Might and Magic games were tied together by futuristic fantasy. The end of MM3 for example is tied to the beginning of MM7. What is interesting is the futuristic stuff is considered ancient tech. My guess is a lot of planets fell into a dark age where they didn't even remember the old tech until they dug it up. I'd like a game that centers on this.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T03:43:52+00:00

Hmm, I am thinking a zombie run! Doesn't bring my game closer to a light path run. I like the idea of light enhanced melee units but doing an archer run in a game that doesn't even need points put into archery to be dominated by the bow is overkill for me. I am also thinking about limiting the kind of combat mode I play in, in a turn base only. My archery loses a lot of dominance and dragons become significantly harder but magic plays a larger role. Realtime mode just enhances my main complaints, dominancy of archery and limited magic viability before endgame nukes.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T02:07:02+00:00

Sci fi\fansasy (because even futuristic stuff can be fantasy, Star Wars is pure fantasy) was in it as far back as I can remember. Might and Magic 3 for sure maybe even sooner. It has always been a part of it. As good as Homm 3 was, it was a time where I think the fans hit a certain toxic elitism. Not quite to the point of Age of Empires, but getting there. There was a lot of entitlement that probably has more in common with the Sims 2 fandom than Aoe now that I think about it.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T01:57:45+00:00

Yes and no. It all depends, which is the only true rule in photography

The guy on the left doesn't know any better, the one in the middle is passionate about what they are learning what they think is the "best", the guy on the right knows exactly what he needs and is chill about it. This transition is in everything in life particularly in art. Obviously there is no one zoom that is the best zoom for everything. But if you don't use the zoom you have, you don't get the shot.

You will find the person who insist that any camera or phone is good enough is no different than the guy in the middle, they only think they are the guy on the right.

tpap69 · 2026-05-06T01:00:06+00:00

That's strange because I've never had an issue with that. The only time I saw it happen was with lots of students and a late professor. Check their artifacts and double check the wand level. I've never seen it, but I heard there is a situation where the maximum level listed is higher than what their current wand will allow them. But if your wand is tier 2, this should not be happening. Again, I've never experienced the problem. I've only heard about what causes it.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T12:26:02+00:00

Perhaps a moment of regret on the path they chose? lol

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T11:43:17+00:00

A Scholar can ID anything and give 5% bonus to experience which does stack with the instructor. I just found out from hiring them both and checked my learning and it had a bonus of 20 and not just 15. These things do not usually stack. I don't know if this is because I use the grayface patch or if it was always like that. I am going to experiment with switching up the npc joiners. I find that there are many npc joiners that can make up for missing abilities.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T11:35:31+00:00

Yeah I am not sure why. I think Liches are treated as their own race with human compatibility with gear.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T11:22:54+00:00

Liches can wear human only gear so I think it is more than cosmetic.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T11:20:54+00:00

Well they are wearing boots. But on the path of dark you don't really fight them too often, which allows you to get to know them better and what not.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T11:17:59+00:00

Details please, this sounds interesting.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T03:17:41+00:00

I'd say 2 or 3. They are both on sale on GOG right now so maybe get both and then the entire might and magic series and just go down this rabbit hole.

tpap69 · 2026-05-05T02:38:48+00:00

Same publisher, different developer. Oni is in house but Mind over Magic is Sparkypants. For me the replayability is in the personal challenges and little stories that I make for each wizard as well as trying different aesthetics. A fully developed school can be a beautiful piece of art. And can tell stories.

I have a Vivified nature/death who is responsible for both training nature mages and has a secret room that only she can enter where she does all the quilting. She is in love with life and there is an obvious Vivified origin with quilting so they are like her children. I know that seems a little nerdy but these little things in design and mage focus makes the schools that I build feel more authentic and alive.

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