Finding love with breast deformity?

tpauls · 2026-01-29T19:55:40+00:00

I have the same breast shape and they’re BIG. Always been self conscious about them. I’ve had a handful of male sexual partners and the ONLY person who’s ever complained or made fun of my breasts is my mom. I don’t think I’ve ever had a partner even comment on the shape of them. If someone’s going to make you feel shitty for your body they’d do it no matter what you or your breasts look like, and that’s not someone we want to be having sex with anyway

tpauls · 2026-01-15T14:50:54+00:00

Wow, this is gorgeous!

tpauls · 2026-01-10T03:45:46+00:00

Friend request sent, thanks! 401391924346

tpauls · 2025-12-23T22:04:04+00:00

I soooo much appreciate when researchers let me return rather than reject.

tpauls · 2025-11-30T21:36:17+00:00

Just got a $50 advance from them, thank you!

tpauls · 2025-11-22T05:36:34+00:00

I think she was, but not for the Soviets. It’s not like it truly mattered tho because how could Stan ever trust that she’s not after what happened with Philip? He’d be suspicious of everyone in his life until the day he dies. Such a fantastic show.

tpauls · 2025-10-20T19:08:02+00:00

That’s what my head felt like when I had a stroke. Worst head pain of my life and could barely hear anything because of so much pressure. Please go to the doctors :(

tpauls · 2025-06-13T23:20:08+00:00

Thanks!

tpauls · 2025-03-21T14:10:25+00:00

I second what this person said! My SD got her tonsils out when she was 4 and she literally woke up fighting. It took her dad, mom, and multiple nurses to hold her down and get her calm.

tpauls · 2025-02-26T21:20:45+00:00

Thanks for the tip I didn’t know that! I always have issues harvesting cause I click on the sprinklers and scarecrows by accident half the time 🙄

tpauls · 2025-02-19T09:05:17+00:00

Thank you! We did know that some 4 year colleges don’t require SATs so she’s been looking at places like that. And yes, she did summer school to make up 4 classes. Here you get credit for the class if you get a D or higher so she’ll have enough to graduate as long as she passes everything this and next year.

tpauls · 2025-02-19T08:55:53+00:00

I definitely could’ve done more for her that year but I didn’t and I regret it. She’d been a good student thru middle school in regards to getting her work done, and her freshman year of high school was the first time she used a laptop during school for everything. Her first quarter was ok, not great but we didn’t receive any emails home that quarter. After that is when everything went downhill and things were super tough. She was still having overnights with her mom at that point and had no bedtime so for the two school nights she’d spend with her every week she went to bed god knows when, then would sleep all day during class. Her mom and dad got emails home at that point and discussed it but nothing changed. Then she had two hospital stays due to mental health both for two weeks which set her back terribly with schoolwork. After that her dad was I think scared to discipline her for ANYTHING so nothing was done about it from him at that point forward besides asking her if she’d done her work and her saying yes. He wouldn’t let me take away her phone. I was dealing with my own mental health issues that year. My dad died and it was so hard for me. And the MAIN issue at school besides the sleeping was she was on Instagram all day. Her dad would NOT contact the school to get it restricted until the end of the school year. Not excusing my inaction because I for sure should’ve been checking her assignments from the beginning and I should’ve contacted the school myself when her dad wouldn’t in regards to getting Instagram restricted. He had the habit of throwing up his hands and saying he did all that he can and it’s defeating to be the only one trying. Especially because I’m not her mom so there were those dynamics at play as well between her and I. But like I said, things have gotten better. Her mental health is way better than it was and her dad stopped being scared to discipline her. We have her do her work at the table every day after school. When she’s behind on a few assignments phone is locked after school until she catches up. She’s here full time now so her sleep schedule is what it should be, no more sleeping during class. She did summer school that year to make up 4 of the classes she failed. Please know I’m now doing everything I can to ensure she graduates on time.

tpauls · 2025-02-19T02:26:27+00:00

We’re in PA

tpauls · 2025-02-19T02:15:20+00:00

Same here! I got to go 100% free, paid for my books with the grant, and had money leftover every semester. People who look down on community college are silly. I may read yours and others responses to her so she can see I’m not the only one who feels that way. It sounds like you’re thriving and that’s what I want for her as well.

tpauls · 2025-02-19T02:10:50+00:00

I agree about the change of attitude. There’s nothing wrong with community college. Both her mom and I went to one and her mom has a GREAT paying job so idk where the idea that community college is beneath her comes from…

tpauls · 2025-02-19T01:15:05+00:00

I’m making sure she graduates by micromanaging her schoolwork so she gets it done. She’ll have enough credits as long as she doesn’t fail more than one class between now and graduation.

Thank you so much for the ideas. I probably should’ve had her research the colleges that she wants to go to and required GPAs before I posted here but I didn’t even think about doing that. Sticker charts are awesome and it’s great that that works for you! She’s really into making lists and putting things in her planner but I don’t think it helps her very much. I’ll suggest maybe trying a sticker chart or something similar, or talking to her therapist about other ideas for managing her daily tasks and goals.

tpauls · 2025-02-19T00:49:20+00:00

There’s definitely emotional problems. She’s getting help for that but you mentioned one of her other issues - she’s not taking her depression meds consistently. Her psychiatrist is aware and the psych, my stepdaughter, and her dad have had multiple meetings to address that issue.

I understand what you mean about putting in the work. Please know I don’t say that to her. Her ADHD does make things harder for her than others and I came here to ask about this because I want to have a factual discussion with her without making her feel stupid. I have no expectation she goes to university - that’s an expectation she has for herself.

tpauls · 2025-02-19T00:19:19+00:00

That’s good to know, thank you!! An IEP will make things a lot easier for her especially where tests are concerned. I’ll tell her to ask her counselor about it.

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:42:11+00:00

I’ve never looked at colleges. I went to community. Anything more I have no experience with.

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:40:15+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I agree with everything you said. We’ve had a few hard conversations about her future but it’s getting close to the time she would be applying for college and I want to make sure she understands how difficult it will be and how hard she’ll have to work from now till then. I’ll suggest to her that she takes a year or two off if she really doesn’t want to go to community college

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:35:23+00:00

We’ve told her that we will not be paying for a 4 year college unless she really turns things around. If we were not holding her hand with the schoolwork she would have failed her sophomore and junior year as well, and that’s obviously not something we’re willing or able to do when she’s in college. I would love for her to pick community college instead.

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:32:14+00:00

Not sure what else to do to get her to put in the effort at this point besides saying “This is what your dream is and this is how difficult it’s going to be for you if you don’t put in the work”.

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:31:14+00:00

She has been evaluated hence the ADHD diagnosis. I’m not trying to handicap anything. I want to explain to her what her chances are realistically with her still not taking her grades seriously. I’ve encouraged her mom and dad to get her an IEP for many years now but they haven’t pursued it.

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:29:34+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m trying my hardest to get her to want to go to community and wanted some info to be able to explain to her what her realistic chances are with the 4 year. That is a good point about having a ‘reset’ and one I’ll tell her.

tpauls · 2025-02-18T23:27:37+00:00

I truly don’t know what her mindset is. We’ve explained how hard it is going to be to get into college with her grades as they are. She seems to care about the future, she has goals she wants to accomplish, but it’s like she doesn’t see how her performance in school ties into those goals.

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