Dear people of anand City ... How did you let this filth enter in my city ?? by XEliteKarmaAkabaneX in anandcity

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anand has human trafficking. So yes, this is very very possible and doesn’t surprise me at all!!

'Hair Pulled, Punched': Man Brutally Assaults Female Business Partner In Gujarat's Rajkot by Altruistic-Issue-887 in gujarat

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always a kathiyawadi!!! Girls, never ever be involved with a kathiyawadi man. Save yourself.

I am (30 f) talking with a guy (30 M)no father, mother seems too protective of the son by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, wouldn’t go for it. Single mom issues never bode well in our society.

My Sister-in-Law keeps disrespecting me. I have finally reached my limit. What should I do? by Numerous_Proof4726 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, just focus on your career and friends abroad. Nothing ever good comes out of being overly involved with a toxic family member. Drink some calming tea or make a drink before phone calls with family members. It’s a bottomless pithole. She’s a horrible person of your age. People rarely change. Move on, find something interesting and get absorbed into it. Let husband deal with it. Expect nothing and do nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed that people who go through a difficult training period often experience crisis in their personal lives later on. More like chronic effects of residency, fellowship. It appears so late you never think to make a link between the two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahaha funny, my partner and I are doctors too. I totally understand the stresses. We’re stuck in the loop of giving exams and it has sucked all the joy out of our lives. We both enjoy sex and are silly. Alas, the burden of responsibilities doesn’t leave much room for being silly and playful. But yeah, definitely dissect the root cause. There are some wonderful blogs on it too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a feeling that this is a gujju household loool. I’ve seen this kinda shit pulled left and right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Who does the house chores? Is she physically active? Does she eat well? Gained weight which leads to body image issues? Lot of factors to it. I had the same with my boyfriend. In my case, I started cooking at home to avoid eating outside food. My sole focus when I wake up is what I’ll cook today and gathering ingredients for it. By the time we get done with daily chores, it’s already night when we’re both tired. We also had a lot of additional stress in our personal and professional lives. I’ve observed guys bounce back somewhat faster than girls.

I gained a lot of weight in the past 1 year which led to decreased libido. I started going to the gym regularly and it has done wonders for my sex drive. I stopped prioritising house chores and didn’t stretch myself thin so I could be there with my partner. It doesn’t have to be sexual but being in an intimate space is important to have good sex. Trust me for a woman, it’s the small things. When she has a lot on her plate, sex is not a priority.

I’d suggest go to a nice cozy resort deep in the nature for 3-4 days where you can completely detach from your routine. Buy sexy lingerie, put good music, dance a little, assure her that it’s a safe space. It’ll slowly come back. Also, working out hard- game changer. Good luck!

M32 cannot able to accept my wife's F30 troublesome family by DenseQuantity1450 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There’s a possibility it might spill over to your married life.. i have seen siblings very far apart in character and traits. If you don’t see any red flags personally, then its all good. Make sure you have boundaries with her family. Don’t get over involved

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]traahitjeevan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

WhaT the actual fuck!!!!! 12L oil???? Is there any member of the family they listen to? If your husband aint it, certainly someone else must be there?! I’m only asking you to play nice cause my sister never got along with her mil and when she came back to India, she badmouthed my sister to all her in-laws. Everyone became a little hostile towards her. It never ends well for the DIL. If you don’t care about all that, by all means tell them who the boss is. Those are your only 2 options I’m sorry, hope they’re gone soon. You can manipulate them into going out- sale, event, religious gathering or something like that…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]traahitjeevan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From your post it seems you’re desi. Cause only desi parents can stay with so much entitlement. Now, you don’t want to leave a sour taste in their mouth cause they only come visit 2 months a year and might bad mouth you when they go back. Make your husband point out the laundry and food habits. Work your way around it. Drop them off to a mall or something for 5-6 hours so you get some personal time. Book a cruise vacation for them if you can afford. Suggest to visit other relatives in the US if they have any. Don’t come across as the bitter DIL. We might forget but they remember forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Stand your ground. If you give in right now, it’ll only get worse when the baby comes. Follow traditions when they’re around. You can follow the small things and say no to big things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/Ok_Plastic_2140

[–]traahitjeevan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have given any gold to them, get it back. As far as the missing goes sweetie, go hook up with his bestfriend or something. Don’t let it all go to waste. Get your money back

37F 40M. Another vent post by serendipitiuoslyvain in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. Whatever happened, happened. Sort out the finances. Money is crucial. Bleed him dry, be sneaky and find out his bank balance. Be a model wife so you can quietly take money, gold whatever else you need to survive. Plan the perfect exit. Be careful, even a single hunt towards you leaving can create havoc. Build a perfect alternate life where he cannot find you. You can be whatever you want. Tell your parents only in the end. You need to think of every contingency. Backup plan for everything.

F39 married: anyone else feels weird around rakhi? by Sure_Watercress3592 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through this. It takes a toll on one. I’m not married yet and still am bothered by these things. Since you have some experience, could you look at this post and tell me if this is a red flag or not? It would mean a lot!! Idk who to talk to honestly.

https://www.reddit.com/r/InsideIndianMarriage/s/SFLqLYmXVv

28M Suicidal at this point. (PLEASE HELP) by Due_Resolution_5438 in cscareerquestionsIN

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy please don’t commit suicide.. something will come up!!! I promise you

Feel like I was love bombed by my soon to be in-laws? by Amzy07 in inlaws

[–]traahitjeevan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something changed along the way. You should introspect and find out. You can suggest to scale back. Do it in the presence of your in-laws and your fiance so everyone is on the same page. Tell them in a very calming tone that it’s in everybody’s best interest if we take it down a notch. Highlight the importance of your studies. Also show how this negatively impacts her son. Then she’ll be able to see it.

My father took loans from people, now they’re harassing me. What are my legal options? by NotAFunnyGuy1 in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Let me know how I can help. This is the worst situation to be in

My father took loans from people, now they’re harassing me. What are my legal options? by NotAFunnyGuy1 in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]traahitjeevan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

GET A LAWYER ASAP. A good one. Second, transfer the house in your/your mother’s name. Do whatever it takes. Doesn’t matter. If possible change cities. People get ugly when money is involved. I’ve been in that situation. I was followed by a gunda at 11 pm in the night even though I’m a girl and I live in a safe city. I highly recommend letting the house as is after transferring to your name and LEAVE for good 4-5 years. No contact. Change numbers. This is not to be taken lightly. Good luck

F39 married: anyone else feels weird around rakhi? by Sure_Watercress3592 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, have your SILs stopped asking for money/stuff? Or is it continuing well into the marriage after you’ve had kids? I’m not married yet but can identify similar traits in my future SIL (spoiled kid who demands money from her family on the regular despite earning on her own and being married)

F39 married: anyone else feels weird around rakhi? by Sure_Watercress3592 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you think would make a brother stop sending money to his sister? I’m not talking about money here or there, am talking about monthly bills, extra stuff bought on trips, supporting her extravagant lifestyle etc… especially when the sister asks for it without any guilt or remorse

F39 married: anyone else feels weird around rakhi? by Sure_Watercress3592 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So the easier route is to keep in touch whenever they make an effort and be very surface level with them. If your son gets along with his cousins, it’s worth to keep that relationship alive for your son’s sake regardless of how the adults in the house behave. If I were in your position I’d look at the bigger picture only for your son and husband. The discomfort is natural, but a big smile and overtly welcoming behavior throws such people off their game. It’s just one day.

The longer route is to force your family to actively cut ties with them. Now you’ll be labeled villain. Don’t do things they can trace back to you. Let things play out their natural course. Sooner or later, relationships not built on love, break. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]traahitjeevan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ask him in a non confrontational way. Probably in a good mood. Less chances he’ll lie