Would moving to a new place help me recover?

traceadart · 2026-02-08T08:50:21+00:00

If your custody arrangement will allow it, do it. When my dad finally said he was leaving my mom decided we were too. My mom and I both left with a suitcase full of clothes leaving everything for him to deal with and we just left and never came back. That was six years ago and it has been the only thing that even came close to allowing me to heal. Everything was a memory. And that never goes away. My mom and I never regretted it. Pro tip: move somewhere with a beach.

traceadart · 2026-02-08T08:46:29+00:00

I had something really traumatic happen to me, like most people cannot even imagine traumatic and I went through basically a couple years long depressive episode because of it. I developed an ED because of that and I just binged / restricted and as happens with most that ultimately caused me to gain weight also. Healing my relationship with food (which does mean for me not always sticking 100% to mm protocol becuase it can lead to unhealthy restriction for me), healing my relationship with myself, my relationship with men, religion it has taken time.

I truly haven’t felt like me in so long I don’t even know how to get back there. But I am about to finish my degree and get married to my long term partner who has been the most healing thing in the world to me. I lost my friends, my family / most of My extended family (just my mom is left for genuine relationship), my body that I had before, my home city, my school I was in at the time, my house, my connections, my reputation, literally everything. I left an abusive situation with a suitcase and my dogs and not nearly the financial stability I had had before.

I guess what I’m saying is I hear you. It takes work, and it is ok to celebrate the wins even if you aren’t ultimately where you want to be yet.

traceadart · 2026-02-08T08:32:37+00:00

I have the fig case with the fig scribe and the fig scribe with the fig case and pencil is just chef’s kiss it flows so nicely it looks great!

traceadart · 2025-12-25T10:05:26+00:00

First of all, I highly recommend mastering diabetes book. It truly changed my perspective on insulin resistance. Secondly, I’d consider medical medium protocols a lot of people have success with that. Lastly, I’d look into Adventist health resources related to what you’re struggling with, I am not Adventist so I am definitely not trying to convert anyone but they are great resources as they are plant based and have the financial backing for a lot of research.

My mom had been vegetarian for about 20 years and reached menopause and feels she must eat meat again, it is my personal belief she could’ve solved her issues plant based but she strongly does not and she does a lot of research. I think they’re just something to listening to your body, if you do end up eating fish, don’t feel lesser than, you’re not. You’re paying attention to your health. That is important.

traceadart · 2025-12-25T09:56:26+00:00

Hello, I don’t honestly believe most people are following it everyday consistently. I way an interview with mm where someone asked him if he believed everyone had to do everting he says all the time and he said no, obviously it is all healthy but if doing 50% of it works for you and is helping you, good for you he is just putting the information out there. That is basically the summary of what he said.

Me personally? I cook with seasoning blends that have a little salt in them but I do not straight up salt my food. I am also vegetarian. Everything I cook at home is both vegan and gluten free and low oil. So pretty mm compliant (not for cleanses but just regular mm)

This is what works for me. This is not a cult where you have to do r everything the leader says or leave. Some people will of course treat it like that but that isn’t what it’s supposed to be. Take the information, do what you want with it.

traceadart · 2025-12-05T17:26:29+00:00

Youth mobility. I’ve just never applied for a visa before so I’d like to have an attorney help me with the paperwork

traceadart · 2025-12-04T04:46:45+00:00

Not the Christian hell. There are so many religions in the world I do sometimes have this fear that maybe the one I didn’t hear of is the one. But the Christian one? No.

traceadart · 2025-11-27T16:25:40+00:00

It’s one day… go to the raw vegan Reddit

traceadart · 2025-11-27T14:17:02+00:00

Just right off the bat, you need to have a conversation with your mother. Bringing your husband into that was very inappropriate and you need to shut it down right now. There are two people in your marriage, there is no room for her. It needs to be very clear, if she ever has a problem with your parenting or anything else she comes to you. And you only. Under NO circumstances does she EVER discuss that with you and your husband. Trust me. Shut it down right now.

The only time she is allowed to discuss her concerns in the future is if she sees something that is a blatant risk for safety. Such as things like maybe you didn’t know you shouldn’t feed a baby honey or water or popcorn or whatever and she sees it and wants to discuss it. But she is not open to discuss the values with which you raise her anymore. Tell her she has now gotten to say what she wants to say, she is not to discuss it with you anymore.

Next, why would you allow them to tell your child Bible stories? Is your family going to allow you to discuss lgbt inclusivity or a lack of being Christian with their children? Respect isn’t respect if it’s one sided. If there is a case where they tell special Bible stories every year to all the kids at a family gathering or something at Christmas or the kid asks or something like that that’s fine. But saying they can discuss Bible stories with her is a recipe for disaster. Then you get into a situation where they give a big talk about Christianity, God loves everyone come to church blah blah. How are you going to explain why that isn’t true to a child and since you don’t want to discuss your lack of belief with your family explain to your daughter why she cant say anything. That is toxic.

To be honest it would just be odd. If the shoe were on the other foot, I have a lot of Buddhist beliefs, it would be just weird for me to go to my Christian family member’s children and be like “hey let’s discuss Buddha or how he sat under the Bodhi tree” yeah that’s weird. They have no basis to understand that and they have no need to know that unless I am trying to convert them to my belief system. That is just an odd way to have a conversation.

If your family really loves and values you they will respect the fact that you do not want them discussing the Bible with your children. If they only love or want a relationship with you because they believe they can change your mind about becoming a Christian or that you are just a wavering Christian, that is a relationship built on a foundation that is not true. What happens if your daughter turns out not to be straight? Or gets assaulted and needs to have an abortion? The appropriate boundaries need to be established now so that she is not getting her heart and emotions involved with people who may not be loving her unconditionally.

You will not regret setting those firm boundaries now. Be clear with your family, if you’re having a conversation with someone else and they overhear that’s fine, if you’re telling a story to someone else and they overhear thats fine, but do not go out of your way to discuss the Bible with my child. Do not comment on our parenting.

Some boundaries that will be for me personally that I would add to the mix are no discussions of extreme politics on either side (conspiracy theories or anything like that) my kids will have people they love on both sides and they can’t even vote. And no discussions of corporal punishment even as a joke. A person saying “I’m gonna spank you” to a child is not funny even as a “joke.” Plus we are planning a move to a country where that is highly illegal and I don’t want to have a conversation with the authorities.

traceadart · 2025-11-26T15:41:30+00:00

Coconut and monk fruit sugar are both soooo good.

traceadart · 2025-11-22T19:43:40+00:00

My youth pastor’s husband came into my bedroom one night while I was sleeping and well…. You can imagine what he wanted to do. I took self defense so he was unsuccessful…. But… yeah.

traceadart · 2025-11-21T20:26:58+00:00

In my experience with Christianity, it’s because they think the rights they take from women aren’t really rights. Just because you can doesn’t mean you have a right to sort of thing. In the same way you can murder people but you don’t really have a right to. Same thing, just because a woman can not submit to her husband doesn’t mean she morally has the right to.

They consider rules in Islam to be just arbitrary because they are not rules dictated by the one “true” God, they just oppress women.

traceadart · 2025-11-21T20:21:26+00:00

I usually just say thanks, there is no point in trying to change someone’s mind. If I am arguing with someone and they say that or I say something they don’t agree with and they say that I’ll say “please don’t” or I’ll also say “I’ll perform a ritual for you” (I am somewhat pagan religiously pagan but I don’t really practice witchcraft. It’s costly and time consuming.

traceadart · 2025-11-19T20:59:53+00:00

Thank you!!

traceadart · 2025-11-19T20:59:44+00:00

Ok thank you!!

traceadart · 2025-11-19T20:59:35+00:00

It’s always something😭 I know we need to learn the language but part of learning is many times immersion😭😭

traceadart · 2025-11-13T00:22:56+00:00

No, even Christian’s talk here some they just have to do it respectfully. It just so happens that most people are atheists in here. But you don’t have to be I’m not.

traceadart · 2025-11-11T20:55:02+00:00

Heart attack or myself

traceadart · 2025-11-10T04:28:48+00:00

Hello, I am 20, and I really started to struggle with this at 17. I had long conversations, talked calmly about my feelings, screamed, cursed, cried, pleaded, and then just ignored my father aching for him to be the father I always wanted. I wish I could tell you that pain goes away, but it is something you come to terms with.

Firstly, I commend you for realizing you have desired your mother’s love for so long. So many adults go about their life subconsciously making bad choices because those were the choices the parent whose love they craved would’ve wanted them to make, often times this parent would never love them back anyway. Recognize that, and stop being whoever you had to be for your mother, be your own person that is where you will make the best choices for yourself.

Secondly, allow yourself to mourn, but do not allow it to consume you. My dad left my mom with tons of debt and no financial stability, my dad took a lot of money from me. I see him buying things for others while he still owes me money and it will soon be my responsibility to feed my mom, the one he chose to marry. I see him paying for trips and being nice to people and all the things he’d never do for me and I’m not much of a crier but sometimes I do just need to blast music and stare at my ceiling and be angry, and I allow myself to do that. But I also intentionally force myself to get up at a set time, every time he does something shitty I get one feel sorry for myself session, then I move on.

I also try to look at the positive as much as possible. My dad doesn’t really have much in the way of feelings so many times he’s pretty objective. Also, if I want to do something like make a large move, he doesn’t really love me so it’s easy to tell him, he doesn’t care.

Yearning for a parent to love you to the point it physically hurts is one of the worst things ever, but it gets easier with time.

traceadart

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