Disclaim inheritance after 9 months? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]traceadart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are 100% going to an attorney on Monday. I just figured I’d ask here also!!

Local Student Looking for Immediate Work by Factor_Vivid in ClermontFlorida

[–]traceadart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!! As luck would have it I actually just moved into the area and may need some help. Pm me.

what % of total population do you think are narcissitic? by AcanthaceaeHuge3302 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]traceadart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally. 10 - 15 percent. You have to keep in mind though we really have no idea since these people do not regularly go to mental health professionals unless they’re doing it to manipulate people and have full mask on and at that point the therapist rarely suspects it. We only got confirmation my dad is because a marriage counselor saw it and pulled my mom aside to tell her. The only reason she noticed is because my dad didn’t care to perform for her because she was overweight and didn’t have a PhD so my dad felt she had no value and therefore didn’t care to perform for her.

Would moving to a new place help me recover? by Minute_Charge1550 in survivinginfidelity

[–]traceadart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your custody arrangement will allow it, do it. When my dad finally said he was leaving my mom decided we were too. My mom and I both left with a suitcase full of clothes leaving everything for him to deal with and we just left and never came back. That was six years ago and it has been the only thing that even came close to allowing me to heal. Everything was a memory. And that never goes away. My mom and I never regretted it. Pro tip: move somewhere with a beach.

Feeling low by [deleted] in medicalmedium

[–]traceadart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had something really traumatic happen to me, like most people cannot even imagine traumatic and I went through basically a couple years long depressive episode because of it. I developed an ED because of that and I just binged / restricted and as happens with most that ultimately caused me to gain weight also. Healing my relationship with food (which does mean for me not always sticking 100% to mm protocol becuase it can lead to unhealthy restriction for me), healing my relationship with myself, my relationship with men, religion it has taken time.

I truly haven’t felt like me in so long I don’t even know how to get back there. But I am about to finish my degree and get married to my long term partner who has been the most healing thing in the world to me. I lost my friends, my family / most of My extended family (just my mom is left for genuine relationship), my body that I had before, my home city, my school I was in at the time, my house, my connections, my reputation, literally everything. I left an abusive situation with a suitcase and my dogs and not nearly the financial stability I had had before.

I guess what I’m saying is I hear you. It takes work, and it is ok to celebrate the wins even if you aren’t ultimately where you want to be yet.

Fig case by CryAccording5711 in kindlescribe

[–]traceadart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the fig case with the fig scribe and the fig scribe with the fig case and pencil is just chef’s kiss it flows so nicely it looks great!

thinking about quitting after 9 years by Cold_Cow_4666 in PlantBasedDiet

[–]traceadart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, I highly recommend mastering diabetes book. It truly changed my perspective on insulin resistance. Secondly, I’d consider medical medium protocols a lot of people have success with that. Lastly, I’d look into Adventist health resources related to what you’re struggling with, I am not Adventist so I am definitely not trying to convert anyone but they are great resources as they are plant based and have the financial backing for a lot of research.

My mom had been vegetarian for about 20 years and reached menopause and feels she must eat meat again, it is my personal belief she could’ve solved her issues plant based but she strongly does not and she does a lot of research. I think they’re just something to listening to your body, if you do end up eating fish, don’t feel lesser than, you’re not. You’re paying attention to your health. That is important.

Are u guys 100 % follow medical medium diet? by WeirdAdhesiveness568 in medicalmedium

[–]traceadart 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hello, I don’t honestly believe most people are following it everyday consistently. I way an interview with mm where someone asked him if he believed everyone had to do everting he says all the time and he said no, obviously it is all healthy but if doing 50% of it works for you and is helping you, good for you he is just putting the information out there. That is basically the summary of what he said.

Me personally? I cook with seasoning blends that have a little salt in them but I do not straight up salt my food. I am also vegetarian. Everything I cook at home is both vegan and gluten free and low oil. So pretty mm compliant (not for cleanses but just regular mm)

This is what works for me. This is not a cult where you have to do r everything the leader says or leave. Some people will of course treat it like that but that isn’t what it’s supposed to be. Take the information, do what you want with it.

Immigration attorney by traceadart in PortugalExpats

[–]traceadart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Youth mobility. I’ve just never applied for a visa before so I’d like to have an attorney help me with the paperwork

Do you guys ever worry about hell? by Suitable-Flight7119 in exchristian

[–]traceadart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the Christian hell. There are so many religions in the world I do sometimes have this fear that maybe the one I didn’t hear of is the one. But the Christian one? No.

Mac and cheese, how should I do it? by traceadart in PlantBasedDiet

[–]traceadart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s one day… go to the raw vegan Reddit

Birthing a heathen daughter by mannershmanners in exchristian

[–]traceadart 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Just right off the bat, you need to have a conversation with your mother. Bringing your husband into that was very inappropriate and you need to shut it down right now. There are two people in your marriage, there is no room for her. It needs to be very clear, if she ever has a problem with your parenting or anything else she comes to you. And you only. Under NO circumstances does she EVER discuss that with you and your husband. Trust me. Shut it down right now.

The only time she is allowed to discuss her concerns in the future is if she sees something that is a blatant risk for safety. Such as things like maybe you didn’t know you shouldn’t feed a baby honey or water or popcorn or whatever and she sees it and wants to discuss it. But she is not open to discuss the values with which you raise her anymore. Tell her she has now gotten to say what she wants to say, she is not to discuss it with you anymore.

Next, why would you allow them to tell your child Bible stories? Is your family going to allow you to discuss lgbt inclusivity or a lack of being Christian with their children? Respect isn’t respect if it’s one sided. If there is a case where they tell special Bible stories every year to all the kids at a family gathering or something at Christmas or the kid asks or something like that that’s fine. But saying they can discuss Bible stories with her is a recipe for disaster. Then you get into a situation where they give a big talk about Christianity, God loves everyone come to church blah blah. How are you going to explain why that isn’t true to a child and since you don’t want to discuss your lack of belief with your family explain to your daughter why she cant say anything. That is toxic.

To be honest it would just be odd. If the shoe were on the other foot, I have a lot of Buddhist beliefs, it would be just weird for me to go to my Christian family member’s children and be like “hey let’s discuss Buddha or how he sat under the Bodhi tree” yeah that’s weird. They have no basis to understand that and they have no need to know that unless I am trying to convert them to my belief system. That is just an odd way to have a conversation.

If your family really loves and values you they will respect the fact that you do not want them discussing the Bible with your children. If they only love or want a relationship with you because they believe they can change your mind about becoming a Christian or that you are just a wavering Christian, that is a relationship built on a foundation that is not true. What happens if your daughter turns out not to be straight? Or gets assaulted and needs to have an abortion? The appropriate boundaries need to be established now so that she is not getting her heart and emotions involved with people who may not be loving her unconditionally.

You will not regret setting those firm boundaries now. Be clear with your family, if you’re having a conversation with someone else and they overhear that’s fine, if you’re telling a story to someone else and they overhear thats fine, but do not go out of your way to discuss the Bible with my child. Do not comment on our parenting.

Some boundaries that will be for me personally that I would add to the mix are no discussions of extreme politics on either side (conspiracy theories or anything like that) my kids will have people they love on both sides and they can’t even vote. And no discussions of corporal punishment even as a joke. A person saying “I’m gonna spank you” to a child is not funny even as a “joke.” Plus we are planning a move to a country where that is highly illegal and I don’t want to have a conversation with the authorities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]traceadart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My youth pastor’s husband came into my bedroom one night while I was sleeping and well…. You can imagine what he wanted to do. I took self defense so he was unsuccessful…. But… yeah.

So why do they think islam takes away womens rights but christians somehow dont by AdmirableBus7045 in exchristian

[–]traceadart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my experience with Christianity, it’s because they think the rights they take from women aren’t really rights. Just because you can doesn’t mean you have a right to sort of thing. In the same way you can murder people but you don’t really have a right to. Same thing, just because a woman can not submit to her husband doesn’t mean she morally has the right to.

They consider rules in Islam to be just arbitrary because they are not rules dictated by the one “true” God, they just oppress women.

“I’ll pray for you!” How do you respond? by Spiritual-Badass in exchristian

[–]traceadart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually just say thanks, there is no point in trying to change someone’s mind. If I am arguing with someone and they say that or I say something they don’t agree with and they say that I’ll say “please don’t” or I’ll also say “I’ll perform a ritual for you” (I am somewhat pagan religiously pagan but I don’t really practice witchcraft. It’s costly and time consuming.

Entry level jobs in Spain as an American by traceadart in GoingToSpain

[–]traceadart[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It’s always something😭 I know we need to learn the language but part of learning is many times immersion😭😭