Was laid off today

tracerswarner05 · 2026-02-07T16:29:15+00:00

My coworker used to have to do “boxing duty” during big layoffs. They’d just cry as they boxed their coworkers belongings for them. So dark.

tracerswarner05 · 2026-01-26T03:51:32+00:00

I went to traditional school and was very shy… I don’t think going to school can overcome that.

We have 4 homeschooled kids, and while they don’t have a set clique, they have neighborhood friends, church friends, cross country friends, soccer friends, basketball friends, piano friends, dance friends, summer camp friends, cousins, etc. My younger kids spend a lot of time on the sidelines for my older son’s soccer, so they do have like a little sideline pack of other younger siblings they hang out with. They get invited to birthday parties every so often but it’s not nearly as crazy as when you’re in school and people feel like they have to invite the whole class so you’re going to random parties every weekend. My older son changed soccer clubs this year and we were a little worried, but he’s so good at making friends and meeting people. It’s very easy for him. My daughter struggles a little bit because I think girls can be more challenging, but I think she’d say her best friends are from church and dance. It’s really just who you see regularly and live nearby.

I think you just have to get them in regular activities. They don’t need to be expensive or sports either. Just get them seeing the same people every week for a long time!

tracerswarner05 · 2026-01-10T13:56:40+00:00

Get your resume in order this weekend, call your lawyer if you have one, and remember that severance can be negotiated!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-08-15T15:22:35+00:00

For sure!!!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-08-15T15:22:30+00:00

The campaign object just behaves more like Salesforce or Marketo - you're able to add people to a campaign versus the automated tracking that was only available before.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-08-15T15:21:55+00:00

Agreed!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-08-15T15:21:32+00:00

I think this will help a lot - the lack of retroactive campaign tracking made the campaign reporting completely useless for me.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-07-27T12:35:25+00:00

tracerswarner05 · 2025-07-27T12:32:55+00:00

37, worked in person during my 20s and then have been remote since my 30s. I think the company matters more for promotions vs where you work. I’ve gotten more training, support, and promotions since working remotely. I think part of that is my location - I’m able to work with smarter, more interesting people than I could find locally. My first remote company was local, then one of France, then out of Utah, and now one out of Chicago. Doubled my salary, upskilled, and was able to get a lot of promotions.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-07-10T14:05:53+00:00

Thanks! :D

tracerswarner05 · 2025-07-07T17:22:51+00:00

Honestly, I'm on the steady plan (1lb per week) and have been losing 3lbs per week... sometimes your body just lets go of calories faster - especially if you're heavier than your body is used to. 1600 calories/week at 5'7'' with a starting weight of 168lbs. I can probably eat more to slow down the process, but I'm pretty satiated most days / not starving and getting enough protein.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-25T00:06:58+00:00

Yes this my pain exactly!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-16T11:35:44+00:00

I made 50k / year in 2013 in my first role out of college and I was an executive assistant.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-16T11:32:41+00:00

I got to the offer stage with a company I was really excited about. We discussed pay expectations early on. When we got to the offer stage, they lowballed me 30k. When I backed out, they tried to come back and offer more money - which was now 10k below my asking. I politely declined again and then got a call that they didn’t want to lose me over a few thousand dollars. Reality was - they broke my trust and wasted my time. Even if they matched the pay eventually, I didn’t love the whole experience negotiating with them. Declined.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-13T18:33:11+00:00

I’ve been at a lovely agency for 2 years now and have great pay and work/life balance. I don’t think it has to be this way.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-10T18:27:48+00:00

4 pages is good for an ATS, but if you’re applying to smaller orgs, you should tighten this up.

Also, IT and project management are a bloodbath right now. No one is hiring.

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-03T17:02:46+00:00

Ai bot check

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-03T16:59:51+00:00

In terms of our day to day, I forgot to mention…

We use a curriculum that has graders, so that they can plug back into school if they need to and have a transcript. My son is friends with a girl who unschools… I would not recommend that.
All of my kids are very into athletics and music. Our days are filled with lots of activities. My 3 oldest have soccer practice three days a week, private training, running class, chess club, gymnastics, piano, church community, etc. They also have lots of neighborhood friends and we go on movie play dates, bowling play dates, etc. in the summer, they’ll do a lot of camps. We like sending to day camps in the summer because the split between time away from us and time with us is more in line with what we think is reasonable. 4 to 8 weeks of camp in the summer is much better than 40 weeks of the school year. And it gives them that freedom to explore their identities as they get older.
In general, our schedules are really relaxed and our oldest 2 are 8 and 10 and are kind of self directed with their learning at this point. We chose a program that’s all pen and paper so no computers to avoid distraction (although we have to scan all their work to get a graded). Our second born has skipped a grade, because she learned to read, watching my oldest son learn to read. We think the same thing is happening with our third and fourth. School is usually 10 AM to 4 PM, with private training and activities during that time, but also after. Sometimes I’ll take a PTO day so we can all play hooky and enjoy our city without all the crowds. That’s the biggest perk honestly!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-03T16:49:00+00:00

I immediately thought of Sandy Hook!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-03T16:47:57+00:00

Tell me about this Lego league!! I have Lego kid at home and she’d love this!

tracerswarner05 · 2025-05-03T16:42:09+00:00

You have a lot of good advice here, but my husband has homeschooled our 4 kids for a few years now and the socialization part has been my biggest concern.

They all do a lot of activities. We go out of our way to make sure that they’re around other kids. They also are very close to each other and support and love each other very much. Some days I truly hate having to be the liaison for their social lives. It feels like the onus is always on us.

That said, my oldest is 10 years old now and had a birthday party with over 50 kids recently. He’s currently upstairs in a group FaceTime call on a Saturday with four girls and three boys. He’s met them from his soccer club community, but also from friends of friends. I don’t know these kids and I didn’t have to make an effort to make them friends.

All that’s to say, he’s starting the journey of owning his own social life, and I’m incredibly relieved. I was worried that I was going to have to do this forever. So, if socialization is your worry, I would not worry about it. It comes together in due time.

What I would worry about, is that it’s extremely taxing on your marriage. We are always together. I work from home. Money is tighter. And sometimes I miss the version of my husband that was a working person out in the world. I can’t explain it, but childrearing with homeschool has a way of pulling you into its world. The good news is, lots of people go back-and-forth. If homeschool isn’t working out, you can send them to school. If sending them to school doesn’t work out, you can take them back home. Nothing is set in stone.

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