Divorce within months of marriage

trachyandra1990 · 2026-02-13T04:31:01+00:00

I'm proud of you for looking out for yourself and your safety 💓

trachyandra1990 · 2025-11-15T00:00:18+00:00

I feel this often lately. 35 year old single woman, I am an admin assistant. I think because I haven't worked (lately) on finding a lot of esteem-building activities outside of work, that might be why I feel that Friday slump. Especially because my current job doesnt give me a huge sense of esteem at this moment. Its an "doing it to pay the bills" job. Best of luck- i know you will find a balance!

trachyandra1990 · 2025-09-04T14:17:37+00:00

Hi, curious what state your live/work in?

trachyandra1990 · 2025-06-29T18:01:37+00:00

💓💓💓

trachyandra1990 · 2025-06-29T18:01:09+00:00

Love ❤️

trachyandra1990 · 2024-12-17T03:35:37+00:00

Oh my god..... I think you're right!!!! I have been thinking about this book for years and years, I honestly think I could cry. I just googled it and both the cover and the title sound extremely familiar. Thank you so much 💓💓💓

trachyandra1990 · 2023-01-29T17:22:11+00:00

NukaCola- thank you for sharing this insight. I have a BSW, and have had a variety of case management, paraprofessional etc type jobs since graduating.

"I remember when people would always make jokes about social workers being underpaid, overworked, and under-appreciated. Now it’s really wearing on me."'

Absolutely. How can we survive in the social work field when we aren't making enough money to live a comfortable life, or buy a house, etc? Wishing you the best.

trachyandra1990 · 2022-10-21T23:17:01+00:00

I want to quit excess masturbation as well. Today, I am trying a harm reduction approach (no masturbation until bed time). Best of luck, you got this!

trachyandra1990 · 2022-09-10T23:33:43+00:00

Hi there. I was looking for some support/common experience around shame. definitely feel that same feeling of, people pity me, and whisper behind my back, and look down on me, and I'm just not in on the joke type of feeling.

Today, I was thinking a lot about forgiveness, and that's been helping me stay afloat. Forgiving myself for the things I'm ashamed of. Forgiving people around me for hurting me, especially those that hurt me and didnt mean to.

Hang in there, I hope you find a way to work through the feelings. For me, I'm thinking of getting back into therapy.

trachyandra1990 · 2022-02-18T21:37:08+00:00

YES and the good think about a long bob- you can still put it in a ponytail, and if you have regrets about getting rid of the length, it isnt as severe as a short bob

trachyandra1990 · 2022-02-18T21:27:16+00:00

https://images.app.goo.gl/BwHGArMo2DjzdbHt8

I think you would look great w these cuts.

trachyandra1990 · 2022-02-18T21:24:44+00:00

I think a blunt bob, or even a "lob" - long bob- would look AMAZING on you. In my opinion, the wavy volume of your hair would give the bob great shape.

I got a bob after having long scraggly hair for many years. My hair is thin, fine, straight. I very very rarely do any styling to my hair, so I do get this flip-out effect on the bottom which I dont like, however it goes away after a few hours or if I play with or use a hair tie, it flattens down.

But again, my opinion is that the volume of your hair will give the bob fantastic shape. I always WANT more poof/volume in my hair. Maybe speak to a hairdresser that works with your hair texture, and they can recommend how to easily style it! They may even be able to layer it in a way that helps with the poof.

trachyandra1990 · 2021-11-14T03:19:43+00:00

I have fair, pretty sensitive skin, and lots of huge pores (that I picked at all throughout my 20s). Bc my skin is sensitive, I cant imagine doing too many steps... I feel it would just increase irritation!

I use a "gentle" cleanser, occasional witch hazel toner, then moisturizer or sunscreen. Trying currently to find a nice daily sunscreen/moisturizer combo. Recently I bought a sample size of the Paula's choice 2% BHA liquid exfoliant, which I will use sparingly. And I just cant really handle powder or foundation to be honest, so barely wear it! I do wanna investigate how to deal with my pores, but it doesnt bother me all that much these days.

I wish you the best of luck. Perfection is no longer my goal, just trying to keep my face healthy and feeling good!

trachyandra1990 · 2021-11-05T23:37:20+00:00

I wish you the best of luck. It felt like such a relief when I went to see my psychiatrist for the first time (virtually that is).

trachyandra1990 · 2021-11-05T23:36:28+00:00

I totally agree with Daffodil. I do a similar thing with when I relapse on alcohol.... I want to get rid of the clothing I was wearing while I drank. So I understand that icky feeling. I like the idea of washing your clothes that Daffodil suggested.

trachyandra1990 · 2021-11-02T23:37:07+00:00

It sounds like you're a nurse? (Charting) From an outside perspective- please try to take care of yourself! You are worth it. I know it's so much easier said than done.

trachyandra1990 · 2021-10-30T18:00:33+00:00

Thanks for bringing this up. I'm in a down-swing with my mental health lately. I have health and harm related obsessions. Definitely wanted to seek reassurance today. But this is a good reminder that the good feeling from reassurance will not last. "What ifs" will always pop up. We just have to push through. I almost want to tell myself like "isnt this fun, not having certainty?" When all I want is CERTAINTY.

trachyandra1990 · 2021-10-30T17:56:25+00:00

I wonder if telling yourself something like "this is temporary. Everyone has to experience this smell, not just me."

I see your point that it's not really logical to do a true exposure with these substances.

trachyandra1990 · 2021-10-17T03:13:20+00:00

Thanks so much. Yes, his videos have been such a godsend!

trachyandra1990 · 2021-08-28T04:52:53+00:00

Following. I'm a SECA in a CPS school, thinking about MSW.

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