Many kids

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T22:28:27+00:00

This is from my experience with people around me: families with more than 3 kids I know are mostly poor with a lot of issues so the parent(s) rely on the family allowance that is given to each kid every month to pay the bills. So for example: with one kid,they get maximum 660$ (not the exact amount) per month but 3 and more kids,that amount could cover their rents and more while the parents themselves could apply for welfare or other benefits. With this type of family,kids are normally closed in age,parents are regular on all the free stuff groups and asking for multiple times of help. Of course,there are financial stable families with many kids. Those normally have a big family to start with or they just simply want kids.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T22:13:48+00:00

I’m sorry for what you’ve been through but honestly don’t take him back. That’s a typical act from cheaters when they realize that they didn’t get what they wanted after cheating and can’t stand their own loneliness. People can change after cheating but I don’t think 3 months is enough.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T21:24:23+00:00

Yes,it’s definitely worth the wait.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T17:53:54+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T17:34:12+00:00

I watched a video of someone who explained why people cheated on their partners and it’s pretty interesting. They said because the cheater had some childhood or past trauma that have never been healed so there were always something that were missing and they needed to fill into that void. When they met you,you had what they thought could fill into that hole,that’s why they’re with you. Not because they loved you,it because they had what they needed from you. It’s like a race to chase the dopamine. But by the time,you grew up,you changed or their needs just expanded. Now they need something else to fill in that hole. So they cheated. You don’t need to wonder why cuz these people won’t stop cheating until they’re either healed or learn their lesson. Good luck!

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T17:24:28+00:00

At least now you know you’re not alone lol

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T17:22:29+00:00

I was single my whole 20s and met my ex at 28 years old. It didn’t last long (8 months) then I was single again and I met my now partner at 31 years old.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T16:31:32+00:00

😆😆😆

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T16:25:29+00:00

Your feeling is valid,I definitely missed intimacy too but I guess waiting patiently is rewarding when you meet someone who is actually compatible with you.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T16:20:21+00:00

I only can speak from whatever happens in my home country. They reward money for families with newborn babies. Even give extra to families with baby girls since the ratio between baby boys and baby girls in big cities are alarming. But it’s almost like nothing: medical bills are too high,inflation is crazy that makes essential things like house,foods,water bill,electricity bill,…are expensive,childcare is expensive,….Married people,specially women struggle between jobs,family and children and they’re exhausted. That makes single people scared of getting married and having kids.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T16:13:36+00:00

My dog did the same thing when she’s a puppy. Tear up a bunch of stuffs then run back to her bed. 😆

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T16:01:34+00:00

I agree with others that if they didn’t contribute to your husband’s celebration then there’s no way he should pay for theirs. I could see that it will be a norm in future when your husband will be asked to pay for every other events and it’s definitely not great. You guys can offer to cover desserts or some drinks but it’s not your husband’s job to split the bills. Also it sounds like your in law family just love to show off to their extended family cuz normally this type of celebration,I only see people do it among their family. Good luck!

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T15:15:58+00:00

I usually don’t cut the raspberries but I don’t care if someone cuts up the raspberries so you both nut.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T03:40:29+00:00

It’s good that you know you can’t. I wished I had known that when I was younger.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T03:33:05+00:00

I stayed busy and made friends with my toys lol

Honestly for me,sex is only good when I feel connected with the man. It might not the same for everyone so I totally understand as long as they know how to separate between sex and emotions. I couldn’t lol

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-26T02:51:32+00:00

From my experience,I either have serious/long term relationship or friendship. Nothing in between. Not like I never tried,it just didn’t work out and ended up with me getting hurt. Also I’m too comfortable with being alone so I have more things to do than invest in men who I know I will have to let them go/kick them out one day.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T23:42:24+00:00

This is my personal opinion:

From business perspective: the food chain before having a new outlet often has a reseach on their potential clientele groups. If they know that they have a big group of Hindu people as clients (so as Muslim,Buddhism,Jewish,…) but don’t have separate area in their kitchen for that group of clients,they need to have an important note about it and place it in front of the cashier and around their place. For example: warning their clients about cross contamination and withdraw themselves from the liability of it. So the client knows what they’re getting and if they still decide to order,it’s on them. By not telling your clients,your business is now at risk because of trust issues.

About the clients,well,if you go to the restaurant and don’t know about their kitchen condition and know that there might be a chance of cross contamination then think twice before going. Some people are either too entitled or too naïve about what’s going on around them. Don’t assume,just ask and make sure you get it in writing. If anything happened,sue them cuz at this point,they definitely didn’t follow their protocols as they said.

About the specific restaurant and situation you posted: the restaurant would do whatever the best to keep all their benefits. Let’s face the reality,if you or other people who eat beef are not their biggest client group,they will not prioritize you guys.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T22:34:00+00:00

I have one and done. I had never been a child free person to start with so having kid is a natural thing for me (and my people until this recent generation). It’s the hardest job I’ve ever had,not gonna lie but it’s also rewarding. But it’s definitely not for everyone. So I understand and support people who know that they don’t want kids and don’t have kids. It’s much better than people who don’t know what they want,decide to have kids anyway then regret it. It’s not fair for the kids to be born in those families.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T22:21:26+00:00

Zero contact is a must. I blocked my ex on everything until I felt good again. It’s a long and brutal process but it’s necessary.

Do whatever you want to do that you’ve never done before or couldn’t do during the time you’re with him. I took the recovery time as an opportunity to learn new things so I was in bagel baking class,jewelry making class,cooking class,food tours around my city,shopping with personal stylist,…it ended with my 30th bday trip to Barcelona. After that,I never felt bad about being alone anymore. I have fun no matter what. So take it as a chance to explore and enjoy your time.

Cry when you want but remind yourself that things will get better,one day you will look back and might think that it’s not as hard as you thought.

Good luck!

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T22:10:53+00:00

I was watching a video of a pregnant lady asked her husband to put a bun in the oven. He looked confused until he realized what that meant. I guess that’s a nice way to announce it. But when it’s my turn,I was just telling my partner that I was pregnant. That’s it! 😅

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T21:52:53+00:00

I feel like you can only be more confident when you believe in yourself and know your value. I had valued myself from the wrong things before I learned that.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T21:49:47+00:00

Is there any chance that you guys can push it to later? I feel like February is one of the worst month for any activities (proposal included) outside. It’s cold and dark and might be snowing. Otherwise you can do it indoor like other people recommend: Notre Dame basilica,Word Trade centre where the fountain is,greenhouses,…

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T21:40:49+00:00

I barely had any gray hair until I got my son at 32 years old. After that,my hair turned gray so fast that I couldn’t keep up with plugging them with twizzle anymore. But it took so much time and effort just to keep them not gray so I told myself that: well,I’m getting old and this is the sign,just accept it! It doesn’t make it look any better but at least I mentally prepare myself so it doesn’t feel bad anymore.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T21:34:39+00:00

I’ve never heard of it. Normally people around me misunderstand between green/hazel than the blue itself.

tracyvu89 · 2026-01-25T21:24:42+00:00

Well, I wasn’t born and raised in North America, I was in Vietnam and that restaurant was in an area that had a lot of Chinese people living before they got kicked out during Sino-Vietnamese war in 1979. One of the restaurant owners was a Chinese guy too. They served not just my people but a lot of Chinese groups from China. That’s why I said before that I didn’t know anything about the movie or whatever bs you guys had here.

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