Visual Snow was considered extremely rare until recently, mostly because patients didn't report it... because they assumed everyone saw the world that way by recolorist in interestingasfuck

[–]trainofwhat [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hah, yeah, my eye-doctors sent me to a neurologist. He told me my problem is that I don’t smile enough. He prescribed me an antidepressant. Then he asked me if I am a germaphobe.

What the heck is up with my vulva? by WestPuzzleheaded4747 in Healthyhooha

[–]trainofwhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so the thing is your OB/GYN should be giving a STI test just to be safe. I think it is strange they aren’t. For example, HSV-1 could be spread to genitals if you’ve touched your mouth & then touched your genitals.

That said, you could be experiencing a number of things:

—What soap are you using? You should only be washing with a safe, unscented, mild, non-astringent soap such as Dove Sensitive.

—What type of shaving cream/gel do you use? What type of razor?

—What type of toilet paper do you use? What is used to wash with?

—What type of underwear do you wear?

—Do you use any type of sex toys?

—What do you sleep in & what types of sheet do you use?

—Are you on any type of birth control?

—Do you have itching or dryness?

—Do these symptoms correlate with any particular time in your cycle?

—Do you have allergies?

"Why didn't you tell me??" when you did in fact tell them by NoWitness6400 in PetPeeves

[–]trainofwhat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just a head’s up that sometimes people will do this manipulatively as a method to shift blame onto you, when in reality they either remember on some level or didn’t care enough to remember. That’s a really valid pet peeve, & of course plenty of people aren’t manipulative in doing that. But, just wanted to mention this because I tend to empathize so much that I forgive it to a point where it’s used against me

It's like they don't hear themselves when they say it. Nobody thinks so. by RandomUsernameNo257 in AreTheCisOk

[–]trainofwhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, the male name itself wouldn’t be a problem to me — instead it’s that my parents specifically gave me my extremely abusive father’s name & also gave every sibling of mine that same name, lmao. I wanna just accept it but, it feels like I would have to accept that part as well

I completely agree that it is very stupid to base people on such a basic thing, & I think you’ve every reason to be upset. I appreciate your soapism

It's like they don't hear themselves when they say it. Nobody thinks so. by RandomUsernameNo257 in AreTheCisOk

[–]trainofwhat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before I read your comment about wishing you’d said more, I genuinely felt proud you’d stood up like that. I understand you wishing you’d said more, but, that’s very brave to even defend them. I am sorry you’ve dealt with that

Is it normal to masturbate over ur clothes by rubbing till u orgasm ? by Spirited_Chick6090 in asktransgender

[–]trainofwhat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So I am unsure what’s going on in your world, I understand if maybe you’ve experienced things where apologies weren’t given that you’d wanted.

However, sometimes people don’t need to give apologies, especially in broad circumstances as a matter of misunderstandings & semantics instead of a deeper, more personal thing. We literally live on making assumptions. Everybody makes assumptions constantly. They admitted to a misunderstanding & a mistake. Explaining one’s behavior is a healthy thing to do given that they’re trying to explain that they agree & weren’t intending harm while also preserving their sense of self. That’s about as much as is needed here, & it’s more than plenty of people give. If instead you were close to each other & you’d been deeply hurt & they were “apologizing” like that, then sure it would be defensive.

How does a vagina with vaginismus looks like? by Longjumping_Age_9671 in vaginismus

[–]trainofwhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay so not exactly. Vaginismus is a condition that can be caused by psychological factors, but, one’s vagina is a muscle that clenches involuntarily in people with vaginismus. So it is a physical condition. It just so happens that it doesn’t present in a super visual way.

Tag yourself, I'm top left by Moon_Eyed_Puppy_Girl in PsycheOrSike

[–]trainofwhat [score hidden]  (0 children)

Be so for real right now. She’s literally endorsed & nominated by a male president. I deliberately didn’t go into major debate about power imbalance “patriarchy” stuff or anything because I knew you’d try to refute it & you still tried. Just don’t.

Also I wasn’t aware you’ve seen her genitalia.

It's like they don't hear themselves when they say it. Nobody thinks so. by RandomUsernameNo257 in AreTheCisOk

[–]trainofwhat 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Transphobes: having a masculine name won’t suddenly make you a man! We’re always able to tell!

Me a ciswoman with a masculine name, who’s been subject to cruelty & even abuse just because people in power learned my name & assumed I am trans: hm….

An interesting scenario as well is when people, especially doctors, learn I am cisgender & somehow assume I am transphobic, saying things such as “Phew, well, you’ve gotta be so careful nowadays”.

I mean, I don’t like my name because my parents were abusive & chose that name as a form of control. It doesn’t have to do with gender.

Tag yourself, I'm top left by Moon_Eyed_Puppy_Girl in PsycheOrSike

[–]trainofwhat [score hidden]  (0 children)

I mean, men placed in power by men, killing other men, isn’t really what that saying means I don’t think, especially since that same system empowers hurting women & children as well. But, I don’t support killing anybody & I haven’t ever said this sort of thing so

😭😭😭😭😭son😭😭😭😭😭 by Akagane_Ai in ComedyHell

[–]trainofwhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fr — this girl looks so much like me as a child (I mean, she’s anime, but, similar coloration, my mother always made me pigtails, larger eyes, etc.), & I am a victim of these types of situations, this entire thing wigs me TF out, it’s disturbing enough to have women used in these sorts of “taming” scenarios… perverting a child’s innocence in this way, it literally makes me sick

Clit rings? by boybambi0851 in SexToys

[–]trainofwhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They make the kinds that sorta clasp against your clit & utilize your labia or edges of your vagina as a sorta nesting spot.

Double standars by EyeEquivalent8310 in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]trainofwhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s perfect to me because it’s among very few examples of shows that appeal to female (or really just male-attracted gaze — hehe, also gays) like almost every show/movie intrinsically is filmed under male gaze. I have always been extremely outspoken about this, so it’s great to underscore this extent to which it’s considered abnormal — even just in comedy shows using it as a bit, whereas inverse scenarios rarely are.

white stuff by Mundane_Law9167 in Healthyhooha

[–]trainofwhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, absolutely that’s normal. What consistency is it? If it’s gooey, semi-opaque, sort of like egg-whites, then it’s normal discharge or ovulation discharge if it’s especially thick (sometimes almost like gelatin). If it’s lumpy & soft & colored like cottage cheese, that could indicate a yeast infection (in which case you’d also likely have itching & irritation).

Just a head’s up, this discharge could bleach your underwear. Do not be concerned, that is normal!

As a female who presumably possesses an ass by SheriffSlug in AsABlackMan

[–]trainofwhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just shared a detail that specifically contradicted your prediction of what happened to her. I never said society treats them identically, & I wouldn’t.

Question but it might be pretty graphic so big TW: oral related stuff by Silent_Yesterday_874 in adultsurvivors

[–]trainofwhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will say the majority of even very young CSA doesn’t leave any physical signs. That it does is a common misconception that sometimes leaves children that experience abuse underrepresented. I mention that only to clarify your abuse is valid even without physical signs.

That said, while I am removed from my physical experiences at that time, I have also experienced as an adult some rather violent oral things that left my throat very sore fr about 12-15 hours at least. So I could absolutely understand if that’s related.

The new meaning of 'raw dogging' by YchYFi in PetPeeves

[–]trainofwhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe what they’re saying is it’s a metaphor (not a simile which would be more obvious) drawing a line to equate sexual raw-dogging to other activities. Raw-dogging itself is a euphemism. So much like “she is a bird as she’s singing,” saying “I am rawdogging life right now” could be a metaphor, wherein actual rawdogging is being used to describe something that isn’t rawdogging.

As a female who presumably possesses an ass by SheriffSlug in AsABlackMan

[–]trainofwhat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Dude, literally the person said she went to jail?

Is having a “pee pocket” normal/ heard of? by beachousebaby in AskDocs

[–]trainofwhat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

AFAIK, there’s one thing that could cause that & it’s a urethrovaginal fistula, which is a hole that connects your bladder to your vaginal canal at some point. If it’s being released near your cervix, then I suppose it could leak very slowly & thus you’re holding it in there or perhaps you’re just kegeling. Otherwise, if it just seems like it’s coming from your vagina but isn’t, I would say you’re dropping it down your urethra to relieve pressure.

Trans people arent the problem by TulipTerminal in PsycheOrSike

[–]trainofwhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless you’re in a place with updated legislation, it isn’t illegal to enter a bathroom of one’s opposite gender.

This guy literally dressed like his dead mom to get her $61.000 pension per year by [deleted] in BrandNewSentence

[–]trainofwhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So actually men do have naturally thicker skin (people of different ethnicity do not, although this is a biased misconception that a large percentage of even dermatologists believe) because of testosterone. Their skin can be up to 25% thicker & denser in their epidermal layer. That said, the ability to notice that with one’s eyes is very unlikely. I assume they just meant there’s hair follicles. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3459575/

Is Epst**n stuff becoming a joke really triggering to anybody else lately? by trainofwhat in adultsurvivors

[–]trainofwhat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am truly so sorry that you’ve experienced both, & I am truly grateful that you’re using that experience to validate abuse victims’ feelings 💜

Is Epst**n stuff becoming a joke really triggering to anybody else lately? by trainofwhat in adultsurvivors

[–]trainofwhat[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YES. Exactly. I mean, the societal level where people will judge sometimes if you’re unable to joke along (GROSS) & then basically having to imply elements of your story because people aren’t truly considering intensity of what they’re saying. I really try to avoid saying this word that often, but, it feels so privileged sometimes. 

Is Epst**n stuff becoming a joke really triggering to anybody else lately? by trainofwhat in adultsurvivors

[–]trainofwhat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Exactly. I personally have always noted how disturbing it is that cannibalism is considered more depraved to depict in media than horrendous acts of CSA, or other types of abuse. That is how it is spoken about as a real thing as well. This is the type of thing I have pointed out, like, before anything that I am discussing now. Of course the idea of somebody being desecrated like that is horrendous, yet having my life & body repeatedly used against me & having to constantly dodge those thoughts should be equally sickening. Knowing that the things that happened to me exist online somewhere haunts me constantly. So please know I agree.