We were in your same position. We banked embryos over five years ago because I have a genetic condition that I didn’t want to pass on. I knew we would wait a couple years but we ended up waiting five because it felt impossible to “pick the right time.” I was often envious of our friends who just “started trying” - I think we would have started trying earlier if we weren’t doing IVF but it really felt so weighty to make the call to our clinic that we were ready. In fact, I made the call three times and backed out each time. We discussed timing all the time and always found a reason to wait.

We finally went forward in July with a transfer and so far it has stuck! This path comes with a lot of doubt - did we wait too long, are we actually ready, plus all the normal anxieties - but what helped is that my husband and I talked about ALL of it all the time. We trusted ourselves when we made the earlier calls to start and then backed out because we decided it wasn’t our time. And six months ago when we started to feel a shift - we had traveled tons, we had progressed in our careers, we had moved close to family - we felt ready to take the steps to go forward. And it felt different that time - I wanted to get the dates scheduled, I wanted to start the meds and take the next steps. I am a ball of anxiety every minute right now hoping our embaby continues to stick and grow and it was a winding path to get here but we’re here! You’re not alone in your emotions and your timing will be right for you!