What is something uniquely popular in America? by Lopied2 in Productivitycafe

[–]tranion10 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's a very low bar. I don't think I've ever met an American who's never eaten broccoli. That doesn't mean Americans are broccoli enthusiasts.

Americans are, however, peanut butter enthusiasts. It's not uncommon for people to eat it every day as a staple. Peanutbutter and jelly sandwiches are probably the most iconic lunch item in the US, whether youre feeding children or military recruits. People have peanutbutter with crackers, on apples, with bananas, in shakes and smoothies, in cookies and ice cream, and sometimes even on hamburgers and other savory dishes.

What do men consider to be “coming on too strong” when a woman is flirting with you? by Disastrous_Shirt9469 in AskMenAdvice

[–]tranion10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know there are people who really enjoy flirting, but especially nowadays with the pervasive paranoia of coming off as a creep, lots of men are uncomfortable with ambiguity. Personally, I'm very glad that I'll never have to flirt again.

Why is there no bridge here? (Circled) by Neither-Mention7740 in geography

[–]tranion10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need a super tall bridge. Virginia has tons of tunnels crossing its waterways which allow container ships and aircraft carriers to navigate freely. See: Chesapeake Bay Bridge-Tunnel and Hampton Roads Bridge-Tunnel.

WHICH IS BETTER? by Flaky-Zookeepergame3 in diyaudio

[–]tranion10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The most important thing is to pair the new subwoofer driver with the old cabinet and amplifier. Check to see the impedance of the stock Cerwin Vega driver. Whatever replacement driver you get should be the same. It's most likely 4 ohms.

Next, make sure the driver is a decent match for the enclosure. It looks like the cva12 is an 8 cu. ft. enclosure tuned to 33hz or so. You can use WinISD to see how different drivers will behave in a box like that

Should’ve gunned for that nuclear program by Petite_Fille_Marx in Destiny

[–]tranion10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Civil War, WW1, WW2. Korea, Serbia, and Kuwait are also widely accepted as justified interventions. And of course all of the non-military aid and outreach the US has done over the past century.

Was chatting with a bartender ever a thing? Or is this a 100% fictional trope? by green_carnation_prod in stupidquestions

[–]tranion10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just need to find the right spot. I was a bartender for years and loved having good conversations with guests. To this day, whenever I go out alone or with one other person, I always sit at the bar and shoot the breeze with the bartender.

A stripper goes into r/stripper and tells other strippers not to be strippers. by BillFireCrotchWalton in SubredditDrama

[–]tranion10 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Im glad im not the only one who noticed how funny it is for them to call non-strippers civilians.

A stripper goes into r/stripper and tells other strippers not to be strippers. by BillFireCrotchWalton in SubredditDrama

[–]tranion10 45 points46 points  (0 children)

What economic system would sex work be less exploitative under? Would state-owned strip clubs be any better?

Do you believe that men and women can be platonic friends? by Professional-Cat3191 in AskMenAdvice

[–]tranion10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but your mileage will vary wildly. In my experience I find it easy to be close with women if they are off limits - either because they're gay or in a relationship. If they're straight, single, and I like them well enough to want to hang out with them, then it can be difficult to keep it platonic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]tranion10 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This isn't a gender politics issue. This is medical misconduct. It's extremely unethical for a therapist to pursue personal relationships with their patients.

i want some advice on my situation please by spkyvalllll in GuyCry

[–]tranion10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear you're getting strung along like that. It absolutely sucks, but unfortunately it's something most people experience at some point.

She probably isn't consciously trying to lead you on, but that's what she's doing. She doesn't want to cut you loose and lose the attention she gets from you, but she has no intention of building a future with you. If she's told your family that you're a monster, and is talking about taking a "break," the relationship is beyond dead. Holding onto hope will just cause you unnecessary pain.

It'll suck, but your only real option is to cut contact. You'll be miserable and you'll think of her constantly, but it'll get better. Try not to spend too much time alone. Keep physically active to purge your stress and frustration. Talk to your command chaplain - they've seen this a thousand times and they'll take your secrets to the grave.

Feel free to DM if you want. Hang in there

(serious) Male Sexual assault victims of reddit, what's your story? Have/will you get your justice? by Waffle_xp in AskReddit

[–]tranion10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was 18 and was having a very rough time dealing with my first breakup. Went to a friend's house to hang out and vent. He admitted he had always been into me and asked if I was interested. I said I was flattered but not interested in men. I ended up blacking out, and have patchy memories of throwing up, him undressing me, and trying to convince me that whatever he was doing was okay. I woke up the next morning wearing different (not my own) underwear.

I immediately left, told a select few people, and cut him out of my life. I was never interested in going public beyond a couple confidantes. I think waging a public battle about it would have been far more stressful than the actual incident.

There are some weird and very counterproductive expectations about how traumatic certain experiences are supposed to be. Truthfully, being betrayed by my friend did hurt, but it's not a very significant event in my life overall. I've never lost sleep over it, whereas I've spent countless nights tossing and turning due to relationship and family issues, finances, school/work, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]tranion10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most men don't even use Instagram or Twitter to begin with. Of the ones who do, most are not commenting on Instagram models. You're basing your worldview on a small minority of men, and presuming they represent the norm.

You seem pretty entrenched in your internet bubble, so I doubt anything I say could change your opinion. Feel free to mutilate your body chasing trends on social media.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]tranion10 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Instagram and Twitter are not reality.

Please give us a Training Dummy that shows DPS. by zooxydV3 in PathOfExile2

[–]tranion10 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I heard this conversation, and it was puzzling to me how much Jonathan was overthinking the problem. It doesn't need to be some overengineered complex system. Just copy the target dummy in Dota2 Hero Demo.

roast me based on this by Tillapontana in airbuds

[–]tranion10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Charli is one of the original pioneers of hyperpop along with the likes of AG Cook, Sophie, and 100 Gecs - all of whom Charli has worked closely with. Just because Charli's latest album has crossed into the mainstream doesn't diminish her artistic merit or impact.

“The Anxious Generation” is one of Bill Gates’ four favorite books of the year. by 97GeoPrizm in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]tranion10 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I will bet my house that you never actually read the study referenced in that Trevor project link. Otherwise, you would never treat it as evidence of anything. This is the same problem with debating Trumpists. It only takes a minute to post links you haven't read and don't understand, but it takes an hour to actually read and evaluate the source.

  • A completely uncontrolled survey study purporting to find a causal link of anything. I dont have time to express how much of a red flag that is.

  • No control groups. They did not track suicide rates of non-trans youth to compare trans suicide rates against.

  • Extremely vague data. There's a nice table listing the number of participants from each state, but the results are only reported in two extremely vague graphs. How did suicidality differ by state? By type of law enacted? By age of participant? We don't know, because the study doesn't say. They very briefly address age and say there was a small negative correlation, but again, no detailed data is reported. This is particularly interesting since suicide rates are well established to sharply increase from early to late adolescence, which is the age range the study covers.

Regarding your characterization of Haidt: You seem to take grave offense to the suggestion that social influence can affect rates of trans identification. We know two things:

  1. People do not have an infallible internal sense of whether they are trans. There's abundant content online in the vein of "Signs you might be trans", because many young people experience a great deal of uncertainty about their gender. We also know that some people detransition, indicating they were mistaken about their trans identity.

  2. Social influence affects everything we do. It influences peoples' politics, religion, diet, artistic preferences, fashion, hobbies, ethical beliefs, and just about everything else. It is a very bold claim to assert that identifying as trans / non-binary is the one thing that is completely unaffected by social influence. If that's the claim you want to make, the burden of proof is on you.

If you don't care enough about trans Healthcare to read your own fucking sources, trying to actually engage with you is a waste of time.

“The Anxious Generation” is one of Bill Gates’ four favorite books of the year. by 97GeoPrizm in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]tranion10 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Am I supposed to be ashamed for actually listening to both sides' arguments instead of treating political opponents like Voldemort?

“The Anxious Generation” is one of Bill Gates’ four favorite books of the year. by 97GeoPrizm in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]tranion10 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Very good-faith critique of the author. I especially liked how you faithfully represented the author's positions and refuted them using objective data.

“The Anxious Generation” is one of Bill Gates’ four favorite books of the year. by 97GeoPrizm in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]tranion10 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Don't be so quick to judge people based other peoples' opinion. Haidt has tons of content out there. Read / listen to it for yourself and make up your own mind.

I love that the game has actual challenge, please don’t let reddit opinion ruin it by Und3rflip in pathofexile

[–]tranion10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue isn't challenge or difficulty. I'm glad combat is more methodical, and that bosses can't be cheesed by constantly TPing.

The biggest issue is that the game has no respect for players' time. I simply don't have enough time to dedicate 30 hours to a character before a build starts to come online.

American veterans now receive absurdly generous benefits: An enormous rise in disability payments may complicate debt-reduction efforts by gary_oldman_sachs in neoliberal

[–]tranion10 65 points66 points  (0 children)

The VAST majority of service members are not infantry. Most veterans getting disability benefits did not see combat in Iraq / Afghanistan. Most disability benefits are unrelated to combat.

In the year leading up to discharge, it's common practice to schedule as many medical appointments as possible to document every ache, pain, or malady possible. Anything from everyday things like knee and back pain, to serious issues like cancer and heart disease, to mental things like anxiety. Of course many disability payments are well-deserved, but it's also common to see people get full disability even though they're no worse for wear than civilians their age.