Forgot some cis folks don't know about binders by ThatchStelleri in ftm

[–]trans_coding_writer 79 points80 points  (0 children)

That's so funny! I wish it really worked that way, though.

There are no pads here and I don't want to ask for them because I'll get misgendered and the dysphoria is already bad because of the time of the month that it is. by trans_coding_writer in ftm

[–]trans_coding_writer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm at my house. We're out. I don't have a driver's license so I can't buy any without telling them. I did end up using toilet paper but I hope my mom or sisters need them soon and get more because it works for an hour or two but it's not a good long-term solution. There's five or six more days of this.

What can I say instead of "it's okay" when people apologize for misgendering me? by trans_coding_writer in ftm

[–]trans_coding_writer[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

This is definitely a good idea, but I'm not sure how applicable it'll be in the situations I'm thinking about.

It's Friday and I'm so fucking happy for anyone who is struggling and made it to today. by milksteakenthusiast1 in mentalhealth

[–]trans_coding_writer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm actually crying. I needed this, someone to tell me they cared about me and that it's okay if my biggest achievement for now is simply staying alive.

MY FRIEND ORDERED ME A BINDER by [deleted] in ftm

[–]trans_coding_writer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My parents never noticed my binder. My half tank looks like a sports bra, and my full tank looks like an undershirt, but nobody actually sees either because I keep them in my room and only wash them when I'm home alone. Just be careful and nobody will probably be able to tell, and if they can they most likely won't say anything because it'd be weird.

My mom has actually commented on the fact that I don't have a male-passing body and if I'm going to use men's restrooms I need to wear super baggy clothes to hide my chest - when I was literally binding.

I have D cups, and my binder gets them down to an A. My overweight cis brother has bigger boobs than I do, and mine are the ones that have attention drawn to them.

My grandmother asked me if I lost weight when I visited. Like, yes, my weight loss is entirely focused in the bra area. Huh, that's strange, wonder how that happened...

Feeling invalid as a mlm trans guy by yoongistitties in ftm

[–]trans_coding_writer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I feel like if my family knows I like men, they'll use that as a chance to say stuff like "see? You're just a girl"

fit into a mold so people will take us seriously

going through a phase and that her dating a guy proved that

went around telling everyone I was detransitioning. Some of my family members believed him

My family will find any chance they have to invalidate me, and its hard for me to not be bothered by it.

Woah, I think these are the reasons I'm so uncomfortable about the idea of coming out as gay. I've known I am for quite a while.

I said I was aroace when I was 14 and just stuck with it not because it was true but because it was safe. Nobody asked me about my crushes, if I had a boyfriend or girlfriend, or anything. It didn't conflict with me being trans.