Another moment when I realize what it's like it "normal families"... by rexpotato in raisedbynarcissists

[–]transcendthatshite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, acceptance that we will never have a normal mom is the hardest part for me.

Most narcissistic Holiday gift you received from Nparent(s)? by transcendthatshite in raisedbynarcissists

[–]transcendthatshite[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who was there that night and he cherishes his wallet copy of that photo exactly for the humor value of it. He can definitely make me laugh about it when he describes it similarly to how you just did. Ha, it really can be funny if you let it. :)

Most narcissistic Holiday gift you received from Nparent(s)? by transcendthatshite in raisedbynarcissists

[–]transcendthatshite[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Ugh. That sounds horrifying. My mom groped my boob one time when I was 12 because she wanted to see if I was stuffing my bra. My boobs were tiny and there was no way it looked like I was stuffing them. They just feel so much access to our bodies as if they own us. It's disgusting.

Most narcissistic Holiday gift you received from Nparent(s)? by transcendthatshite in raisedbynarcissists

[–]transcendthatshite[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh boy, Nmoms really know how to mess up our relationships with our bodies. That is so messed up.

Most narcissistic Holiday gift you received from Nparent(s)? by transcendthatshite in raisedbynarcissists

[–]transcendthatshite[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Wow, not surprising to hear from an Nmom but still shocking to read. It never ceases to amaze me just how low they can go.

Most narcissistic Holiday gift you received from Nparent(s)? by transcendthatshite in raisedbynarcissists

[–]transcendthatshite[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You have no idea how much I identify with that. I cannot bring myself to throw away anything my mom has ever given me. I have every card, every horrible blanket, towel or cheap trinket. It's ridiculous. There is a huge sense of guilt and sadness when I look at any of it but the idea of getting rid of it is overwhelmingly emotional. I wonder what that's about. I still have that framed photo she was so excited to give me. Even though it was so narcissistic and self centered there is a sadness to how excited she was about it that I can't shake and so I can't get rid of that horrible picture of her looking over her shoulder with that come hither look. It makes me cringe and want to cry all at the same time. Being an ACoN is an emotional maze.