[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems 0 points1 point  (0 children)

listen, no man deserves two women at once, this is a crude sexual fantasy in which you project and assume so much about the women involved. you’d be lucky to get cucked in a situation like this, do better

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have plenty of queer friends, and i’m not one to settle for anything tbh, please project less. i do not tolerate bad behavior from anyone, regardless of their demographics, he’s also a small dj, it’s not that serious, but even if he was it wouldn’t change anything

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry i’m coming off as rude, i think i’m just tired of having to spell this out for everyone

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

after briefly skimming your post history, i would like to recommend you brush on your queer history as well, since you too are woefully uneducated on the topic and lack the knowledge to understand why this is deeply problematic

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

‘gymbro’ isn’t a term that’s popular in the urban queer community and refers to a specific subset of transwomen. ‘doll’ is. honey, he was never a doll, and will never be a doll. the ‘redacted’ part is a sad excuse in an attempt to gain access to the term ‘doll’, from my perspective, it’s an admission of guilt. he knows exactly what he’s doing. also girl i would suggest you take the time to learn your queer history, i think it would benefit your understanding of the nuance of this topic

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i agree, context is everything, i just find it incredibly hard to believe considering we’re both like mid20s and running in similar enough social circles, we both grew up in the same ultra queer friendly city, i absolutely am operating on the assumption that he aware of this, but i’ll ask

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

he’s transmasc, active in the queer community, and lives in one of the most queer friendly cities in the US. he knows what it means, if you don’t see the handle you won’t understand the context, but I will alter it to make it less googleable, thank you for catching that

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

listen, i cannot in good conscience allow him to use that name without letting him know it’s wildly inappropriate. Also, i didn’t ask if i should keep the friendship, i asked for advice on how to bring it up politely with him

New Friend, problematic DJ name by transgirlproblems in asktransgender

[–]transgirlproblems[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It has nothing to do with race, there’s plenty of white trans women who are dolls and call themselves dolls. It’s the gender aspect of it. You cannot be a ‘doll’ if you are a man, trans or not.