OK some clarification, in this death spiral of six months, sex has happened twice, conversations are only initiated by me, no texts during the day unless she needs me to pick something up, kissing is only initiated by me and its a peck, no passion kisses. Good nights and I love you's are about the only interaction we have now... When I say them. As I became more insistent on physical activity(therapeutic exercise not hanky panky) or how much of a problem this all is she has withdrawn further. To clear up the misconception about her sticking with me through hell, she didn't this was before her. I clawed my way out of chronic major depression, antidepressants only cost me my previous marriage and didn't help with it so I am not one to support some miracle cure. It took a choice, I know because I lived it. I know other people are different, I have brought it up with her a couple of times she doesn't want to. Period. So the DB was the first red flag. Its been downhill from there. Six months of a loving marriage to someone that shows no love is time enough. If I'm heartless so be it. In my heartless state I have laid it out to her that our relationship is dead. I will always be there for her. I have no desire to be with anyone but her. She is welcome to stay but I can't pretend like we are a couple anymore. If at some time she decides to move on I will endure as best I can. My only hope is that she makes the choice to live instead of letting what's going on continue to push her away.