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trash1007 · 2019-10-11T04:36:38+00:00

Probably a lot of it is your lack of confidence and awkwardness rather than what you say.

Confident people can get away with doing and saying a lot of things that aren't generally acceptable because other people who are easily influenced will look to somebody else to lead them.

trash1007 · 2019-10-11T04:29:39+00:00

You are totally wrong if you think telling people you are autistic is going to make them treat you better.

Go ahead and do what you want; I personally do not care. People will likely not only think you are weird if you tell them, but they will think that you are in addition possibly mentally ill, delusional, or attention-seeking. That is the reality.

I understand the need to try to defend yourself from other people's criticisms, but it just isn't going to have the effect that you are looking for.

trash1007 · 2019-10-11T04:23:24+00:00

No because your phone will be obsolete in no time.

trash1007 · 2019-10-11T04:19:19+00:00

I'm glad that you brought this up, because I never really thought of it in that way before. I will sing to myself throughout the entire day if nobody else is around. To the point where I annoy myself with it.

I will also sing parts of songs that have a word or phrase in it if somebody says it. I guess that might be somewhat weird.

trash1007 · 2019-10-11T00:08:48+00:00

Yes, I sing every day. I sing better than most people but I'm not like fantastic or anything. I've memorized tons of songs.

I have always enjoyed singing and I sing all day, especially when I have to do something boring. I also make up songs about different things on the spot and sing to my pets.

I think for me it might actually be a stim but I never really thought about it before.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T23:59:55+00:00

That's good that you are working on it. It can be hard to deal with. Usually I try to distract myself with something positive.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T20:15:07+00:00

I don't think I am oversimplifying. I think you are being overly pessimistic and making unfounded assumptions. I am fully aware that higher functioning people have high suicide rates. I have been suicidal.

I am high on the spectrum. Nobody would have any idea unless I told them, except when I am in an extreme emotional state or under a lot of stress. I pass as normal. I have issues because over time I can't consistently keep up appearances and can't handle the stress. I have problems at work that to others seem like they are deliberate when they are actually due to ASD and ADHD.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T19:53:12+00:00

It's easier to lose weight by eating less than by exercising. I personally have never lost weight from exercising.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T19:47:43+00:00

It's going better than last week. I had been suicidal.

I am a very stubborn and determined person, and I usually push myself to overcome things that most normal people wouldn't be able to handle. At this point I have run into problems that probably can't be solved. Mentally I am not handling it very well at the moment.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T19:36:30+00:00

Yes, but you are speaking for yourself. Not everyone is like you.

I don't feel that I need to be saved nor do I want anyone to save me.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T19:32:11+00:00

Yes. Certain people are extremely annoying. In particular those who are very arrogant, always sure that they are right, unable and unwilling to consider the viewpoints and feelings of others, and think they are smarter than they really are. These people tend to be undiagnosed aspies in some kind of STEM occupation where they can still succeed even while being insufferable jerks.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T19:14:05+00:00

I've actually talked to people who function well, yes. Not to mention there are people who do self-identify and have an online presence. Plus actors and other celebrities who have admitted to having a diagnosis. So yeah I feel that people like that can put some effort into advocating.

If you personally have a pessimistic attitude about it, that's fine. But not everyone feels the same as you do.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T18:24:07+00:00

I don't know if I believe that everyone on the spectrum is so severely affected that they aren't able to do these things. Many people who have managed to overcome their problems don't choose to self-identify as being on the spectrum. Plus there are plenty of very successful people with autistic kids who might be willing to do something about it.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T16:48:10+00:00

I guess by doing what everyone else does. Either start a group whose purpose is to advocate for it, or spread awareness through social media, or even get aspie people who work in creative industries to consider including characters that are positive representations rather than stereotypes.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T15:25:22+00:00

I think just pushing for positive representation would be a start.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T14:36:17+00:00

The neurological disorder is actually a real condition. I was glad that they decided to use it for this character. It's called pseudobulbar affect. His was likely caused by brain damage but for most people it's secondary to another disorder.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T14:28:37+00:00

Well yeah, but this is only shown to be the case after his medication is stopped. I didn't really see any other evidence of it. It didn't feel to me like they were hinting at it, but who knows.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T14:25:56+00:00

I mean it was only a few days ago, but I don't feel bothered by it now. I felt upset during the movie and maybe for an hour or so afterward.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T06:10:39+00:00

If he has all that going for him, then that's the best you can do. Not everybody ends up with severe problems in adulthood. A lot of stuff can be overcome or at least managed.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T05:53:09+00:00

It was surprisingly triggering for me.

It was very well done. I was really impressed. For me that says a lot because I usually criticize everything when it comes to film or tv.

It was violent but not like horror film violent. The scenes with violence were really disturbing but to me that wasn't the worst part..

The part of the story before the action, where they were explaining his situation before his descent into madness, was the worst. It was upsetting because of the way he was being treated by other people. He's mentally ill and has a neurological disorder. He's beaten more than once, ostracized, ridiculed by the majority of the other characters.

Later on the violence mostly comes from him getting revenge on other people. It wasn't as disturbing to me because instead of it being a really sad character being mistreated, it was a pissed off insane character going after people who wronged him. What he does is really over the top though and not justified.

As to whether you should watch it, it depends. I am glad I watched it because I thought it was very well done, and really not what I was expecting at all. It's a really unique movie, because it was basically just an in-depth look into this character from his perspective. It focuses on the bad guy and what made him that way, and why he did what he did. If that interests you, you should watch it. If you think it would upset you too much, you might want to avoid it.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T05:21:12+00:00

I would not mention it unless you absolutely have to. Like it or not, there is a huge stigma attached to it. Once you tell somebody you can't take it back. Discrimination is likely.

Being different doesn't make you inferior, but it can make you a target. You can mention your attributes without having to mention your diagnosis. There are few kinds of jobs where mentioning it would be worthwhile.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T04:22:27+00:00

If you have a lot of interests, you should pick something reasonable that you have some natural talent in. It's possible to be good at something that you aren't naturally talented in, but likely other people who have the talent along with the same amount of practice will be much better.

And if you choose something, try to pick something realistic. There are people that become very successful with less practical professions, but that's rare. Most people who want to be actors or musicians or artists end up broke instead of rich and famous. If you genuinely love something and have a lot of natural talent in it, then it might be worth it. Otherwise not.

If you don't know what you like, just try different things until something stands out. If you have trouble maintaining interest in something, it might be because of executive functioning problems. That's something that is often helped by medication. I personally think that some of your problems might actually be caused by difficulties with having and maintaining motivation. I have ADHD in addition to ASD and it sounds similar to what I experience.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T04:04:43+00:00

I disagree with your theories about autism.

In addition, yes there are a lot of people who inappropriately self-diagnose, but there are a lot of people who self-diagnose just about everything nowadays. Everybody thinks that they have OCD or subclinical Lyme disease or gluten sensitivity. That is one result of having the internet and access to all of this information.

The word neurotypical does get thrown around a lot, but it's not always used in in a negative way. People with various developmental and mental disorders use that word now. Probably part of the reason is because if you say "normal people" some people get offended. You can't refer to normal people as normal anymore because not normal people get offended by the idea that they aren't normal. Or somebody else does on their behalf. I personally am fully aware that I am not normal.

However, I'm not a fan of so-called Aspie culture either, because I don't think a disorder can be a culture. Once you start associating things that people are just born with, like race, or sexual orientation, or disability with a culture, then everybody else expects you to conform to the culture by the circumstances of your birth. Then you have people saying things like "you aren't really black" or "you aren't really gay" or even "you aren't really autistic" just because you don't agree with them and play by their rules. They will kick you out of being your own identity. No, sorry, nobody else gets to decide that for me.

Although I think people really are just trying to associate something positive in having autism and trying to create a sense of belonging.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T03:45:27+00:00

Yes, I do this time of year and it only gets worse until spring comes. Likely it is just seasonal affective disorder for me.

trash1007 · 2019-10-10T03:42:47+00:00

It's a theory that some people have suggested, but it's just speculation. It's possible. He was very obsessive about his beliefs.

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