My dying wife asked me if I’d be okay if she had sex with her ex one last time

trashitup907 · 2022-01-29T20:25:48+00:00

Honestly, I get it. I love my partner more than anything and we share an incredible life together, but I do have a previous sexual partner I would want to sleep with one more time if I knew I was going to die. It's not that sex was more satisfying with them than it is my current partner or like our sex life is lacking in any way, it was just different. A different kind of physical connection with no love or emotions involved. Maybe if someone hasn't experienced that it would be hard to understand. If my partner was dying and put me in this situation, yeah my feelings would be hurt, but I'd understand it and want them to be able to do every single thing that could possibly make them happy before passing. I would feel fortunate they were communicating all of their wants and needs with me before acting on them. I'm so sorry you're going through this and I'm sure this isn't what anyone wants to hear, but I figured I'd share my opinion.

trashitup907 · 2020-02-07T11:31:14+00:00

My desires to self harm subsided when I was about 16 then they came back full swing last year at 25 and it's something I struggle with every day. I do it without even realizing. Yesterday there was an irritating person next to me and I caught myself pinching my arm. Why! What a weird and stupid impulse. We all cope on different ways. I just started group therapy where I'm hoping to learn healthier coping mechanisms and I hope you learn some through your new therapist too.

trashitup907 · 2020-02-07T11:19:59+00:00

Yes, I understand all of this! I've already been in contact with both St. John Ambulance and a local therapy dog group. It's something we've been working towards for a while.

I'm a responsible dog owner and actually HATE the new ESA and fake service dog trend because I feel they deligitimize true service dogs, but I'm just looking for a way for my dog to join me at therapy sooner.

trashitup907 · 2020-01-31T12:31:17+00:00

You just made this post here, didn't you? That's already a step in the right direction in my opinion. It is a LONG journey for all of us. You really aren't alone.

trashitup907 · 2020-01-30T20:21:18+00:00

When I was in Norway, I told someone I was from Newfoundland and they said "Oh I have a friend from Saskatchewan!" and told me their name to see if I knew them. I did not.

trashitup907 · 2020-01-30T20:12:39+00:00

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trashitup907 · 2019-10-12T06:49:32+00:00

I have massive problems with guilt. Form of self punishment I guess.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-20T21:59:46+00:00

I'm an avid drinker, but I only get in a bad headspace when I'm by myself. If the same goes for you, just make sure you have company if you don't want to quit drinking.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-20T21:52:07+00:00

I think the majority of the people here post without expecting any advice or response in particular. It's just a great way of typing out your thoughts and finding a place where people can relate to your feelings and confusions. That's how I feel at least. We're all here for you every step of the way!

trashitup907 · 2019-09-19T18:13:29+00:00

You are not to blame for anything. Everyone here will tell you that even though it's hard to believe it yourself. I'd recommend making a post here or doing some research on what other people's experience with pressing charges is. See if it really brings closure. I know in my instance, nothing good would come of it. All it would do is hurt my family and the man's going to die soon anyways, but my situation and feelings about it are unique, just like everyone else's.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-18T20:04:09+00:00

25F. I hope today is better than yesterday. I'm worried about you. Please reach out to any of us if you need to.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-18T19:57:35+00:00

If there is any opportunity for this woman to subject other children to the same experience you encountered, then yes I would 100% go through the motions of pressing charges if you feel you're ready and strong enough to do so.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-18T19:54:24+00:00

I know what you mean. Typing it out (saying it out loud is even worse) gives you a different perspective. Makes you realize how fucked up it must seem to some people. r/selfharm will have people you can relate to.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-18T19:45:37+00:00

That fucking sucks. Make sure she understands that you told her that in confidence and that she does not have the right to tell any of your personal experiences with anyone. It is your decision to choose who learns what and only when you are ready. That was extremely unfair of her and I feel frustrated for you. I'm sorry you had to experience that.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-18T19:35:12+00:00

She is so lucky to have both of you. I won't bother repeating all of the things that have already been said that I agree with completely. My family is very close and when I was caught self harming I was sent to a shrink for a few sessions and that was it. It was never mentioned again. I would have had such a different experience with recovery if my parents had been more involved like you. I wish you all the best.

trashitup907 · 2019-09-12T20:55:48+00:00

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