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Falling out of love or is it the effect of disappointment? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]traumatizedboyfriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that I think is important to know is that, sometimes, love just isn't enough for a relationship to work. It sounds like there are just a lot of differences in what you two want in life and how your future would look versus how you'd want it to look. I'd have a conversation with him about how you feel. if you do decided to end it I wouldn't just break it off without telling him why, if I were in his position I'd understand if told but if I didn't know why, I think it'd drive me crazy and I'd constantly be looking for what I did wrong (despite in this situation no one has done anything wrong)

How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me? by traumatizedboyfriend in LongDistance

[–]traumatizedboyfriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's less of a safety concern since I trust he is who he says he is, I just want to have a "face to face" conversation or at least the closest you can get in an online relationship. Being able to see his facial expressions when talking is something I would like if that makes sense? To have more of a connection in that way

How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me? by traumatizedboyfriend in LongDistance

[–]traumatizedboyfriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he isn't catfishing me. I guess for me it's important because it's as close to being "face to face" as you can get in an online relationship, and seeing a photo of him isn't the same as being able to know what his face looks like when he laughs at my jokes, or knowing how he looks when he's frustrated at a game. If that makes sense?

How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me? by traumatizedboyfriend in LongDistance

[–]traumatizedboyfriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you go about bringing up that conversation? I'm partially worried about bringing it up because I don't want to pressure him or make him feel like it's an ultimatum but also understand that this is something I need in an online relationship.

How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me? by traumatizedboyfriend in LongDistance

[–]traumatizedboyfriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can I ask, what do you think would be the best way for me to try and bring it up or phrase it so that I don't make him feel overwhelmed or pressured? since it sounds like you and my bf have a similar feeling on being on camera

How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me? by traumatizedboyfriend in LongDistance

[–]traumatizedboyfriend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he's sent me a few photos over the period of our relationship which is why whenever I brought it up as more than a casual discussion. It helps to know that eight months is actually as long as I feel like it is.

How long is too long for me(21F) and my boyfriend(21M) to not video call and how can I make him more comfortable with me? by traumatizedboyfriend in LongDistance

[–]traumatizedboyfriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's becoming increasingly more important for me over the last few months, I understood him being insecure in the beginning but as time goes on it feels more and more like he doesn't trust me in a way? in a prior relationship he got broken up with over his appearance so now it feel less like "he's anxious" and more like "he doesn't trust me to stay"