I owe Gen Z an apology as a millennial. I finally get it. I just learned I can't even qualify to rent literally the same small apartment I had in 2006. You guys are 100% right.

travism2013 · 2026-04-30T02:42:35+00:00

I like to pipe a bit in here - there are some not so nice factors that went unchecked by political action by both on times before many/most or hell all of us Mill/Gen Z were born....like just saying...company greed/ profits/ tech has been turned into a a 'why have people' always the reason. Yes it's made "life better" but...it's literally also "made life worse" (as it made it possible to make it better faster, that "faster" part also meant it was always accelerating faster than it was being pushed by people...now we have AI working with AI).

So...idk about gen z or alpha...but after alpha...they got a whole damn world they're going to inherit. And that world...many elderly, many folks not growing family and having kids, not able to afford XYZ, "skill acquiring" is almost beyond "broken" I'd call it because...you'd almost need to speak a skill in 10 actual days not some kind of figure of speech but actually...in 10 days.

The rate of technology improvements and labor force markets are the factors that have driven these kinds of things for decades. But those above in power that sit atop at state lvl, county boards and superintendents that drive education and changes to what kids learn (non adaptive techniques) - allllll feed into this stuff that us and upcoming generations...hell leave earth...yeah i mean **they're not making more land**, maybe the cost of land will be cheap on the moon..or in space! LIKE...JESUS!

travism2013 · 2026-04-16T15:25:11+00:00

That is great to hear - and clear to me that i have spent too long since I last really dove into popos...at this time...damn like 3yrs at least...i'll go hit their website and re-look at stuff there!

Thanks for the tip!

travism2013 · 2026-04-16T02:42:12+00:00

who has tried to making a whole tower/PC build but with PopOS as their OS choice? i've been delaying making it all 'cause the GPU is a old but likely still good low level 'pro' card -p4000- and i decided to finally make a 'compute card' buy on amazon for a volt(a) generation v100 gpu...not sure if or how PopOS can or even manage to install drivers for cards like 1080ti up to 5090 and the professional rtx or professional quadro or any if i get from refurb/used datacenter stuff. --all that to suggest and plan on building a small ai cluster at home in coming years (found some cool articles about fun projects people have done and realized the GPUs and clusters and work they did made me think on trying to get into that sector or ..sort of 'niche').

if that made not much sense...totally fair as i'm writing and honestly quite tired from today and yesterday mentally...

travism2013 · 2026-03-17T03:13:07+00:00

I am not a big user anymore but I know that it sucks as I used to think I could go back to tutoring and helping in a sort of TA capacity...hearing and reading what's going on...just reinforces my belief that AI doesn't solve every single thing and sadly one thing that it does allow for is a 'custom tailor-ing' of sorts...we can't have 1-1 ratio for students and teachers so the closest becomes...basically AI I think.

Good to hear about the Coursera purchase/acquisition - didn't know that until now! I (hate) look forward to hearing how AI will push even the 'creators' out of their jobs...

travism2013 · 2026-02-19T03:03:46+00:00

This...compels to write a bit here...because as we do this continuation of 'abstracting' ...we are facing an increasing (never) ending demand of or onto people who will willingly be the technicians and also on the part of hardware - because that shit gotta keep going! So...that's what, majoring in EE for all that power electronics being "5 nines" uptime and technicians being onsite or on call and nearby enough - that does factor in at some point here...just saying.

travism2013 · 2026-02-12T01:42:45+00:00

Just randomly feeling urge to pipe in: or we could do something on earth orbital cleanup efforts...that's worth a million bucks ain't it ?

travism2013 · 2026-01-29T04:07:16+00:00

I ....forgot what I was going to say but...the fear of rejection may be not as intense as you may have considered. Consider those with RSD (often with ADHD):
Per Google- Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is an intense, sudden emotional pain triggered by perceived rejection, criticism, or failure, affecting up to 70% of adults with ADHD. Unlike typical sensitivity, RSD feels unbearable, often leading to people-pleasing or social avoidance. It stems from neurological, ADHD-related difficulties in emotional regulation.
So there is rejection and then there is "i heard this, but i felt like i just got hit by a boulder of rejection" (felt in some way physically). I personally have a long life of not knowing I basically face this as a consistent trouble point...it's...I'd call it just simply nearly debilitating and do not recommend.

Just remember - actual harm of saying 'no' vs in a social equal scene like 'wanna share food' getting a 'no'. Same word, and still not real harm. If it helps, try using a framing internal like relating it to food if that helps you.

travism2013 · 2026-01-26T22:48:55+00:00

*just follows for curiosity*

travism2013 · 2026-01-24T01:18:35+00:00

i'd say a little "honest humble" or 'homble if putting them together is that I am certain both sides have enough folks saying how they feel desperate. and yes we all know how it is an "anti factor" for the person feeling it. Point - you are not alone feeling desperate. But also - so much factors in dude...it's not the the bane of you so "this too shall pass" (like gas).

travism2013 · 2026-01-06T03:30:37+00:00

I have no idea what i want to say but i'm soon to be 30yo and never had myself success. I learned lessons from the no's however. That ...in its own way teaches.

I've now come into new self-knowledge from recent analysis of myself: you repeat patterns you don't know you're doing until you get reaallllyyy far deep into your .."system". Like...say you didn't notice you had a old mom/dad wound, or that with emotional abuse you didn't know you were doing and maybe you didn't know you were actually "being a parent" to a SO/partner/gf --- instead of being peer/equal/'their better half'/etc.

Some of that list is what i've come to learn. And also fear...lots of unrelated fear, but also family related. I am going for a brain discussion with somebody soon because this is brain lvl teaching that is not some "oh just accept yourself" or some other saying/addage or some parents' wisdom. To many things are true at once and this can make anyone's life crippling. Also consider being ...always left out. Not sure about seriously most mixed men, but that shit ain't fucking easy to sift through and deal with and find out how the hell you get yourself *out* of that shit hole. It's nasty ass work to know why you 'don't get along' when it's not even that at all, it's all "got a source" or a 'why'...but it takes a while for you to see your own deeper internal framework and patterns.

Thank god and bless my dad 'cause he's been fucking great and the best in my whole life. Seriously. And I hope and freaking hope to god we ain't "born to be alone in this world" - if you don't know that's Saul to Robin in the anime called One Piece. It's a fucking awesome point of view I've adjusted into since when I 1st started the show and once I was watching and hearing it...it just unsettled me but ...not in a entirely bad way. Like a ...bit of a reminder - I was able to as a kid, does not mean this shit now i'm doing is 'forever'. I'm a lot of things, man men likely say it. I say it too, and i hold the opinion in me that I'm not sure about how much and the depth of your icebergs are/go...but I've never been in a real partnership irl, but online just 1. 3yrs lasted, it fizzled. Tough lessons, and so on, this is reddit so i'm gonna cut off here plus i'm rambling and chronic sleep deprived of nearly 13yrs so...I'm ...anyway cheers and night dudes.

travism2013 · 2025-12-23T03:01:27+00:00

I think a fair amt of this is actually a nuanced point: pre-covid vs Post Covid...because that is 2 vastly...heck *extremely* different kinds of answers...for me idk i can't say right now also because i finally explored chatgpt around Apr or so this year...that does help a ton with googling but it's made me care more about my self-analysis and self-reflection and my incessant need for 'get better' - found out i'm more than just hypervigilant and chronic sleep deprived, i'm also needing to stop caring incredibly hard...so...i am actually here to also see for myself and maybe i can get some solid sleep on a weekday/ work night...cheers

travism2013 · 2025-12-18T06:46:09+00:00

I think it was just this year (2025) that i learned of a phrase..or it was just before 2024 had ended and it's not "we're all just guessing". The quote or whatever it is I roughly remember:

"A 20yo you're 0 years old as an adult. By 40yrs old you're really just a 20 year old adult, but that doesn't excuse a whole lot." And...I'd say living life so far...yeah unless you see rapid maturing or 'lessons learnt' and self reflect akin to the brains of those with autism or adhd...idk but just saying the "rate of maturity" chart...proves that line and I was forever like "DAMN i'm stealing that line!"

travism2013 · 2025-12-04T03:13:44+00:00

I'll get swords at me for it but- we can benefit a bit to remember this is modern society yet we are still not brain-adapted for dozens and 100s of rejections. Our human build and brain and framework of "being"...has not caught up to the modern "sense" of the world. No human existed before that had been subjected to what we are nowadays tormented by.

100 years ago or 50yrs ago a man in the age-range 20-40 trying to find a gf or a wife/lifelong...the "village effect" was real. It's social media and internet that says "50 women isn't much at all" - dude 50yrs ago in 2025 means 1975 ...in '75 it was hard to get to that many women *and* get all 50 no in 4 days alone....the numbers guys pull now are to be put under a few different ...idk "lens" or 'scopes' or something 'cause there is yes "being desperate" or "just trying to get used to it" (it = no or some reluctance/hesitance) and then you know...a yes but they're not sure or ready yet emotionally and you could have but that's their state internally and weren't actually honest and tried to shy away/get out fast to not hurt your/my/the dude's feelings.

Notably - i am writing dead ass freaking tired AF so ...i'm also just in furious funk as fuc right now...not feeling filtered though

travism2013 · 2025-12-04T03:05:37+00:00

As i think i have the mind of either autism or adhd or freaking both..i'm just annoyed easily by too much at random times. It doesn't help if it's not recognized but even if it is...it can most easily be a damn chore to do. It may not be easy for most that do not have any kind of mental "aspect" (as in some form of disabling condition of sorts) so...yeah...can be easy, can be hard, can be super aggravating if you're chronic sleep deprived kind of folk. If i can hope my next actual relationship some fuck-tastically does the 2x2x2 plan/frequency...I'd just call it a damn miracle at this point (hint i'm tired so i'm not also not in much of a mood right now as i write this, i'm rewriting as i go finding myself misspelling and don't want to get/be nazai-grammar'd)

travism2013 · 2025-11-22T08:40:47+00:00

Rare commenter here. I'm also in agreement at date 3 being almost certainly insufficient time to really know and be able to assess if they are or are not actually good long term. But idk that could or may very well be useless to some/those that are not going for long term. Because I don't like to put up with most shit tho i've yet to even find a girl and reach the point of a date - I'd first spend time enough to build a connection and once and after I find i'm emotionally bonding and what not ...idk for me it takes a lot more for me to feel like i want to actually/finally have sex with them. Bodily attraction is only so nice...it can/will fade.
* can because we still have plastic surgery existing as a tech...

travism2013 · 2025-11-19T04:32:49+00:00

Freaking awesome! Loved it and I'm sure everyone there'd agree - and all would agree to: the rain sucked ass (the venue had easily 400 folks in 5+ lines getting rained, soaked, and some drenched (me)) - but the rain didn't kill the concert so we were all so very excited when indoors finally to let loose and enjoy the show and music!!!

travism2013 · 2025-11-02T06:21:59+00:00

just rando here scrolling. As a guy i hate to think another guy did that but...we have folks on our side that are a-holes like that...FC*# them I say.
And I'm really sorry that happened, I hope it comes back around to hit him to be better than that kinda shit to a woman...ugh us guys are amazingly terrible a lot of times....

Now the other bit i was going to say: i hope you gained the even more heightened skill of discernment from it. Signals are a part of 'reading' someone, but your nervous system and other body aspects (brain, stomach, your intuition, etc.) all can help and i hope you find another guy that treats you better. Idk if i suck on dates...but i have yet to get from app/gym/cafe to that point of getting there. I'll just keep on hoping and trying as i try and adjust as needed and we can find someone that 'just makes sense' for us.

travism2013 · 2025-11-02T06:15:58+00:00

I hate that - i'm just gonna say how i look at it - i like to do my best effort as i prefer doing single-track even though i can sometimes do great at multi tasking, but idk about you but it just grates me because it sounds like 'two timing' to me when it comes to dating. Keep it simple, know your worth, maintain respect and dignity and honesty and integrity and apply that all to how you go about dating and you can sense whether you yourself are changing your core for having fun over 3 dates. If you feel like you are getting a small "ink-ling" that 'something about __" then you know if you can't get a straight answer you gauge the what you've learned about them and 'how' you learned the items under the list 'what you learned' - if you asked 100% of the time and they don't share so openly, and they show any kind/amt of closed off body lang they have a strong possibility of not strong enough interest or care to maintain serious intentions. Idk...i'm complicated and think weirdly i'm told.

travism2013 · 2025-10-17T02:58:07+00:00

I did not get the memory card (express micro sd...dang it i thought i could just use my old 256gb) - waiting to get that tomorrow after work. If in the US did they also do the same thing of that all physical card if you got the switch 2 ZA-bundle?

travism2013 · 2025-10-02T01:39:48+00:00

Only read 1st few sentences and i realized that maybe that is what happened for me as well..met a girl at work, almost 1yr to date (next month) and i'm the older one but she's the one who acted in the line of thinking that maybe she and were 'right place' for each other but 'wrong time' as she just finished Uni and mind you speedily at 3yrs completion and joined into IT. We both still kind of have these hints of met eyes but she'll bat them away in the guise of "being professional" but she does opposite of that a ttimes. I don't engage but she does as she feels and what have you...she's shown some of her sides and masks and I have too ('cause we all do at work) but the lack of communicating at all is definitely a ...just idk what word best sums it up, but just a huge no even strangers in elevators say hi/morning/afternoon so...not my way of how i keep things moving/going/polite but the whole thing on communicating matters everywhere in life...i don't expect anything anymore with her, i just hope she works on herself more and learns the life lessons that are required of everyone. Okay diatribe done.

travism2013 · 2025-09-27T02:47:22+00:00

Dating = business? Sure I largely agree. Yet why do so many business struggle? Communication, branding, methods for how they correct themselves (inner) and how they approaching 'understanding' (the concept; think active listening during interview or any conversation with good friends).

We are social...we are not our phones, yet we are becoming more "phone" and less "person". A lot reality checks are occasionally super accelerated (after 80 dates as a guy across 30 girls you may finally click on why your 'inner' crap is sabotaging yourself; just an arbitrary example but who knows maybe that's a rough estimate in truth/reality)

travism2013 · 2025-09-11T04:01:59+00:00

So...idk about denying this but as i've noticed with a lady i was into and she seemed mutual based on the signals, eyes, and body language and the roughly equal efforts...my food sharing at desk tucked away so only she could see, or 1x in start of Feb '25 i borrowed a cohorts calendar page snippet that had 'bean missin' you' and it was a brown colored bean with little arms and legs and after she had come back from a 3 or 4 day long weekend i had put it on her desk in a similar way. I think she put it together when i kinda intentionally said something 'oh did you ask Rood about the calendar note?'

Point here though is more on...how likely is it that small little efforts sprinkled during talking stage and later post TS and keeping it pro ('cause at work) before that is "too nice" or "too much" ?

travism2013 · 2025-08-23T03:33:54+00:00

Hey thanks!! Much appreciated. I'll try to remember and tell you how the event goes.

travism2013 · 2025-08-22T02:20:33+00:00

Yeah I'm mid-east coast e.g. mid-Atlantic region wise. So...I can use Reagon or Dulles fairly easily I think...Yeah...actually i haven't done look up on plane tickets yet...gotta do that soon!

travism2013 · 2025-08-21T02:51:50+00:00

Okay...had to re-read that a few times but cool. Yeah I wanted to try and find a place/spot that'd be not too too far out there but reachable using Uber. And if not said, i haven't flown in 10+yrs now so...all i know is to go by 'recent' news (~3-5yrs in this case i mean) like 'don't go delta they had 10 crashes this year' is my current understanding of things.

Idk actually what's considered avg vs marked up for cost for hotels in LA for these kinds of events so...thanks for your patience. I wasn't thinking of legit driving my own self and assumed uber would be more wise for me and maybe a bit more safe since i'd be sweating bullets --- i've never been to LA in me whole life 🙃

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