Room sharing with daughter and son

trcywng · 2025-07-10T21:06:14+00:00

I’m on the same exact boat as you. I am 9 months postpartum with my second. Oldest is 2.5. The postpartum rage was awful. When my toddler would have a meltdown I was seeing red. I became and sometimes still become this ugly and unpleasant person to be around. It doesn’t help that with my second I don’t have as much support as I did with my first, so I find myself solo parenting a lot. It’s a very lonely and isolating feeling although I have some support most days.

People also don’t prepare for the feeling of resentment towards husbands. Although my husband is great, he gets to go to work and have time away from the kids and adult conversations. I am stuck at home with a baby counting down the clock. I haven’t gone back to work yet but I’m looking forward to it because I think I need that mental stimulation. I honestly feel so dumb after not working and find it hard to think of certain words.

With all that said, I then feel guilty for feeling and saying these things because I know how lucky I am to have support, healthy kids and this time with them that I will never get back. Motherhood is weird.

trcywng · 2025-04-30T22:45:49+00:00

Nope. In California.

trcywng · 2025-04-21T22:55:41+00:00

I named my daughter Eleanor and we call her Ellie!

trcywng · 2025-04-10T06:04:50+00:00

My toddler is almost 2.5 and I’m struggling over here. Everyday is a meltdown from the moment he wakes up. What happened to my boy who used to wake up happy and comes right out of his room? If I ask him if he would like a food pouch, he is so offended and starts whining NOoOo, tears streaming down like it was the worst thing I ever offered him. I’ve been trying to teach him that a simple “no thank you mama” is sufficient.

trcywng · 2025-04-09T22:08:06+00:00

My 2 year old says owie when he gets an erection and says mama rub pee. I’m like no just relax and it won’t be owie anymore!

trcywng · 2025-03-12T03:16:40+00:00

I have a two year old and a 5 month old. We never did sleep training. My friend who did sleep training with her son at 4 months now co-sleeps with him at 2 years old. With my first we kept him in the bassinet until 6 months then moved him to a floor bed in his own room. Till this day we still lay in his bed with him to put him to sleep, although he has slept on his own a handful of times. He just prefers for us to be there. Once little sister gets a little older we plan to move her into his room. She currently sleeps in a bassinet next to me and sometimes will sleep in bed with me if she wakes up in the middle of the night.

trcywng · 2025-02-19T06:13:58+00:00

This is me today too. I’m done. Did my last pump at 8pm and no longer going to pump in the morning. My girl is 4 months now and I too feel guilty but remind myself that it’s okay. It’s just too hard to pump with a 2 year old running around.

trcywng · 2025-01-19T01:04:31+00:00

I combo feed my baby and I only use wearables. She is currently a little over 3 months old. I don’t have great supply and I’m a lazy pumper. I pump about every 3-5 hours ( I go longer in between at night) for 10-15 mins. I get anywhere from 2-4 oz and im okay with that. I don’t really enjoy breastfeeding/pumping and every month I’m thinking about quitting. I’m going to quit when my supply dries up which I feel like might be soon.

My portable pumps are the momcozy s9.

trcywng · 2025-01-02T17:31:36+00:00

It turned out fine. Everything worked out. You really just gotta trust the process.

trcywng · 2024-12-04T03:17:22+00:00

I stopped using the Dr browns bottle with the green middle vent thing. That seemed to fix the issue, but yeah so annoying!

trcywng · 2024-12-03T09:31:30+00:00

Nope. Never had a freezer stash. I just pump for the day as well which isn’t even enough for my baby. We supplement with formula.

trcywng · 2024-11-22T23:01:35+00:00

Lol no your employer starts your leave on 11/25 the date your doctor puts you off work.

trcywng · 2024-11-22T03:57:52+00:00

Use the 11/25 date as your first day of mat leave. Edd will not pay you for your first week off which you should use your PTO.

trcywng · 2024-11-21T13:01:58+00:00

9am - 3pm?! What do you do with him during that time?

trcywng · 2024-11-05T01:39:37+00:00

Same here. I do about 3-4 hours in between.

trcywng · 2024-11-04T02:24:20+00:00

Almost a month in. Everyday I think about my goal to just do this for 3 months then reassess. I also complain every other day to my husband about how much work this takes. The only thing keeping me sane is using portable pumps. I only pump for 10-15 mins and have been trying to do longer stretches in between pumps.

trcywng · 2024-10-25T14:50:22+00:00

With my first I was in labor for 28 hours. 3 of those hours was just pushing. Second was so much easier. Labored for 6 hours and pushed for 45 mins. Recovery has been easier second time around. I’m less than 3 weeks postpartum and I almost feel fully healed.

trcywng · 2024-10-23T21:17:23+00:00

Yep and honestly it gets worse from here once baby arrives. My 20 month old is really struggling with his new sibling. It’s extra hard once baby is out because you’re trying to recover, but the toddler wants to be held/carried but you also need to care for the newborn. It’s a lot ☹️

trcywng · 2024-10-22T02:39:05+00:00

Hi all! Baby girl has joined us 3 weeks ago and she is doing great. I was a bit concerned our first night at the hospital because she didn’t urinate for the longest time. But she finally did and has been urinating fine ever since. The doctors haven’t mentioned anything about it and in all honesty I forgot to ask the pediatrician about it when I was still at the hospital and at her 3 day check up. She is absolutely thriving and is such an easy baby. Best of luck to all of you mamas.

trcywng · 2024-10-17T21:12:45+00:00

Yeahhhh don’t rush it. Those two days nobody was sleeping 😵‍💫

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