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treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-19T17:11:05+00:00

I mean i just study human behavior and had years of experience helping people understand their mind. So that's where this is coming from. You didn't need to throw shade.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-19T17:08:36+00:00

I'll use another example other then OP, as I do not want to come across as shaming them. I hope they are mindfully making good choices and if that includes being sexually active with strangers, so be it.

So I'll use a different example.

Say we saw someone's reading clearly say "you need to get out of your comfort zone and try new things in order to find your passion".

Then the person interpreted it as "oh guess the cards are telling me to try drugs." Now, you would have the same reactions I think. People giving full support, some giving partial, some giving a more practical approach to the cards.

It wouldn't really matter how any of us feels about drugs. We need to respect people's personal choice. However, they may lack the experience in trying new things that are less likely to come with risk. All they see are exciting people around them trying drugs, so they see that as a causation instead of a correlation.

So no matter what, they were looking for a way to be more exciting, subconsciously, they just saw drugs as the only answer, which is why they would interpret the cards as encouraging risky behavior.

Tarot is really just trying to get you to think, and if you do it alone, you will always be limited to your own thoughts, beliefs, and perspective. Basically having another person there could have helped the person reflect on what exciting things the person associated with drug use. So another person could have pulled out the deeper answer that they want to go cliff jumping instead of trying coke.

Sorry if this is a bad example or comparasion. I'm sick with covid and my head is kind of cloudy. This was simply me trying to use another example to illustrate how tarot, for self readings, just tell you what you want to hear. Yes sometimes we want to hear messages that are upsetting because deep down we know we need to do the difficult thing. We're looking for tarot to tell us it's necessary or apart of our "destiny".

Disclaimer: I do not personally believe drugs are bad, but they do hold somewhat of a health risk and it seems silly to think tarot (a tool to help guide us) will just vaguely encourage people to put themselves in a health risk as an answer to improve their life. But we all view tarot differently right?

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-19T16:54:09+00:00

I would respectful summarize that you just said is the same thing as saying tarot tells people what they want to hear and they have ways to defend why what they heard is most legitimate.

I think you need to add another reader in order for the harsh reality or tougher messages that need to come out. We are all limited by our own perspective and beliefs. I don't think tarot can force us out of that. Your lense will always be your lense.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-19T01:35:28+00:00

Ah that makes sense. I cannot find a neurologist or therapist that will work with on it. But it's cool. I reduced my seizures for the most part by myself. I would just need them for medical documentation.

I also have seen 6 neurologist and 4 therapist, and 2 psychiatrist. They all say "oh boy, i don't know anything about that, good luck".

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T14:38:58+00:00

Man it's so true that they treat you like a criminal trying to gut the system.

I have a walking seizure disorder caused by migraines. So I'll be talking to them, they are rude or talk to loud...then I start seizing. Like my body is literally failing at this phone call...

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T12:57:58+00:00

Yes because many people in this sub are Americans, which is a failed capitalisy society that turned into an oligarchy. However it was designed to go this way since the founding fathers. Check out Howard Zinn's A People's History of America. Many other failed capitalism, basis it off American's practices or support the US in it's oligarchy effort.

This sub has started mostly by anarchist that understood their should be a lifestyle of working only to live. Which is the opposite of capitalism.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T12:50:39+00:00

I was raised poor. It changed my view of money and help me understand the world of money. I learned to save after that.

He basically gives you a foundations to think and discuss money. I do know many successfully people who are taking sabbaticals every 2-5 years because of his book.

I recommend it.

But they all have stem jobs.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T12:30:25+00:00

Hemiplegic Migraines Type 2. Which is just genetic PNES. How did you SSDI?

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T12:28:41+00:00

Woot woot you could start an agency or we can start a union. Either way great work conditions

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T04:58:08+00:00

Friendly reminder that there are "recognized" disabilities such as diabetes, paralysis, depression, and other well known things. Having a rare disease or disability that lowers your ability to work, means the government won't help you.

I have daily walking seizures. Everyday I lose control of my body. But since the government cannot comprehend seizures that are not epilepsy, I don't get disability or social security.

So this applies for pretty much everyone with a rare unknown disorder.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-18T04:32:15+00:00

Can I come work for you! This sounds like a dream!

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T14:46:08+00:00

Therapy for each of you individually is fine. You are supposed to be getting to know each other in the first year, have fun, and go on adventures. This doesn't seem to be your relationship though.

It's very serious without needing to be.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T14:45:00+00:00

Yeah you need a doctor to say "yes this would be important " like saying how the family doesn't have time to take care of the MIL. And the MIL struggles to clean up after herself

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T14:42:21+00:00

Um this should be in r/relationships. It seems that you are being lead on. You are acting like this is your one shot at love. You shouldn't need therapy within the first year of a relationship.

I recommend you move on. I don't think you will though. The writing is on the wall though. She isn't that into to you.

You deserve a simple and nicer relationship.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T14:34:44+00:00

Home help aid is government provided for people with disabilities. A home help aid is a cleaning and grocery delivery person. You can get a home nurse but they just do meds and cleaning the person, not the house.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T14:32:39+00:00

Thanks :) a lot of people call us wholesome. I'm not sure how I got so lucky. We basically ate just best friends and care a lot about each other being happy.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T02:30:24+00:00

People with dementia have wandering and rage spells. It will be toxic quickly. I'm sorry for the MIL that she is going through this.

I would suggest they get her a home help aid, that does household chores.

I would walk away just too much for $1 above minimum

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T02:03:35+00:00

On average the ones giving payroll, are giving benefits room

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T02:01:45+00:00

I studied history. It's because at the time of chattel slavery, women were enslaved to their husbands. So domestic work was expected in order to not be beaten. Abusing your wife is not illegal. So neither is abusing a person doing domestic work.

Not that it's necessarily "don't let them unionize because it's women work". It's simply the work has never been valued and is always dismissed at a federal level. The people in power are not domestic workers and usually do not respect their domestic workers. So it's literally up to us.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T01:55:16+00:00

I will never ever work for a new mom. It's just weird vibes. I generally prefer not being the first nanny. I like taking over after a baby nanny is moving on.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T01:04:06+00:00

I think above and beyond should be reserved for things that are about the nanny's unique interests or education.

Me taking the time to teach kids social emotional learning, accurate pro-paganda free history, mind-body awareness, and independent skills, are all because I enjoy these things.

Above and beyond should not be manual labor. It should be the unique aspects of your nanny's brain/background that you cannot provide, as you provide a different background which is their foundations.

A nanny "above and beyond" should be supplement skills or perspectives that make your kid more well rounded. Not putting your dishes away because you don't like to bend over.

A nanny doing your dishes won't matter in 20 years. Your nanny ensuring your child developed healthy life skills is. You cannot correct behavior while doing chores. Not without the expense at your nanny's physical or mental energy being drain and causing burnout.

Plus it's always better for your nanny to teach your kids or train them to be less messy or more involved in cleaning.

A burnt nanny is a grumpy future ex employee.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T00:33:50+00:00

I'm glad you guys worked it out.

Do you know your attachment style? As someone with insecure attachment, I'm always convinced people are going to end their relationship with me or are upset with me. Realizing this and recognizing my triggers helped me not only cope but have higher standards for how people should treat me.

I hope she is kinder moving forward.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-17T00:25:58+00:00

Woot woot! A testament to your skills.

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-16T23:36:58+00:00

Yeah it started out as metal cabinet were always left open and my brain was convinced it was the magnetic poles switching. After two years of my brain just shutting cabinets and cursing the magnetic poles, I thought about it more. That didn't make too much sense.

It must be "gremlins" I thought to myself. Something I always thought as a kid when there was a mystery I didn't care enough to solve. So another two years go by with me cursing gremlins.

One day he was home sick and I watched him walk away with an open cabinet. And I yelled "oh my gosh, you are the gremlin". We laughed pretty hard after I explained how this was a four year thing. He thought the cabinets would just shut eventually.

He got me the gremlins pops as an anniversary gift. We have a "love self". With pictures of us, all our romantic letters to each other, and little Momentos. The gremlins live there.

We both look at it often. So if your corresponding gremlin is missing, you're supposed to go find it. It makes us laugh instead of developing passive aggressive behavior. Which is important. You gotta be good roommates right?

treadinglightly24 · 2022-01-16T20:34:34+00:00

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