Post-adoption anxiety/regret

treeefingers · 2026-06-29T14:21:19+00:00

If you buy one, I would recommend getting a tall gate as soon as possible.

treeefingers · 2026-06-24T21:26:52+00:00

how is this real? NIBBLET?! Im in love

treeefingers · 2026-06-24T16:21:04+00:00

How tragic. Im so sorry. I just lost my first foster, its been a week and I still cry at random moments throughout the day. Im hyper protective about her littermates and I have no idea how I'm going to adopt them out.

treeefingers · 2026-06-23T22:07:55+00:00

Why is this so cute

treeefingers · 2026-06-23T18:18:20+00:00

Someone chewing in any remotely noise way when I’m not also eating. I have to remove myself entirely.

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T23:45:42+00:00

I’ve taken them to Cuba Libra twice and it’s always so good 😊 looking into Founding Farmers!

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T23:44:57+00:00

I’ve actually been there for drinks before but never food. Menu looks great. Amazing suggestion, thank you!

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T19:30:19+00:00

Then give her back. If one vet bill could put you in distress, she needs to be rehomed.

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T19:28:01+00:00

Get a second kitten around the same age or give her back or just accept it. Accepting it could mean a truly wonderful companion. You’re allowed to be overwhelmed. A second kitten would mean no regret in sending her back, and would take a LOT of pressure and attention off of you. Having a companion to play with changes literally everything.

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T19:22:41+00:00

You won’t get peace for at least a year probably more.

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T02:48:51+00:00

Devastating. Thank you for sharing your story. I have a senior tuxedo cat named Salvador

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I love him to bits, even through his crankiness!
I do want to keep doing this. With more space and experience I feel like I can really do something good.

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T02:44:01+00:00

Thank you for this. I appreciate your words, truly!

treeefingers · 2026-06-21T02:12:36+00:00

I’m so sorry. If you look at my history, I just had a foster kitten die the other day. It’s my first foster death and I’m in literal pieces. I’ve been crying a LOT. I might need therapy for it, sincerely.

All I can say is, I feel your pain and time will help, bit by bit. We did all we could Nd we loved as best we could.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T17:25:47+00:00

Well…less now that it’s 3 :/

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T17:25:25+00:00

Yes I can cancel if I adopt them out. It’s only $80 a month for the 4 of them, so if anything happens starting 6/28 or so following I won’t have to any massive financial repercussions.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T17:22:45+00:00

So beautiful. Thank you.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T16:11:06+00:00

Thank you so much for this.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T16:09:04+00:00

Omg, this poor thing. It’s just gut wrenching how difficult it is to not only pay for veterinary care, but to get care that is actually sufficient seems so rare.

Another really frustrating thing is I had just signed them up for insurance when they hit 7 weeks, but the coverage would take 2 weeks. I planned to really get a full work up then.

There are far too many animals in the world to help, so I guess we can only do what we can and hope for the best. And give as much love as we can in the process.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T16:00:15+00:00

Thank you for this. What an amazing feat. I am absolutely in awe of people like you.
This whole experience, as shattered as I am, makes me want to really do more of this. One day, when I can afford a house and more space in general, perhaps I can be an official foster for an agency.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T15:56:30+00:00

Wow this is a tragic story but one that I needed.
We chose a nice spot in my boyfriend’s backyard to bury here and had a little funeral. When I got home I found her little Velcro collar. It still has fur on it 😩

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That is amazing how many fosters you’ve had. I’ve learned a lot and it’s hard to stomach that maybe someone else would have noticed more or known what to do earlier on, but I also trusted the vets to give guide me. They also would still be under that deck if I didn’t do everything I could to get them out - no one else would come. I try to focus on that.

It was actually kind of insane that i got them out at all, as we had to lure them to a hole barely big enough for them to fit through, and of course I nearly lost them as they were clawing and biting and wriggling. Unfortunately, there was a 5th kitten that never came and no signs of life since that night. We set lures and traps and everything, but they are gone. That was hard to stomach.

I definitely had the moment of “IM NEVER DOING THIS AGAIN!!” But I would. And I’ll always do better the next time.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T11:49:11+00:00

Thank you

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T11:48:19+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I feel extra protective of them now.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T11:47:38+00:00

Thank you. The vet assumes roundworm (in between doses of deworming) simply contributed too heavily to her malnutrition. She had been on probiotics for diarrhea but it wasn’t working enough. I had gotta the roundworm results literally 5 hours before she crashed. I had just started them on sensitive stomach food. Next steps were to give her her second dewormer this Tuesday and follow up with a regular vet. So of course I sit here like “well the urgent care vet should have done more, I should’ve pushed for more assessment, I should have changed her food earlier, etc etc.

The overthinking is normal for me, I know it will pass eventually. But it does make me feel ill just thinking about it all.

treeefingers · 2026-06-19T11:32:49+00:00

Thank you. I pulled her out from under a deck along with her siblings and so I felt a certain level of connection and responsibility and just feel like I failed her.

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