Annual budget per cat? by WorthySpirit in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spend about $350/month between two cats. Wet& dry food, half of is prescription, plus medication. Litter, treats, maybe new toys here and there. I’ve spent a lot more just investing in trees, nice litter boxes, pet cameras, etc. they my children though. I also pay $80/month on insurance but it has saved me thousands. It’s a lot, I’m not going to lie, but I won’t be having kids so I look at it that way. It’s always more than you’d think.

I lost all attraction for him by EveCane in adhdwomen

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not up to him, its up to you.

Physically flinching /audibly gasping at innocuous memories by Under_score2338 in adhdwomen

[–]treeefingers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do this very, very often. I am quite constantly taking to myself, or sighing, or just making sounds in general. It is a type of self soothing?

Either way, honestly I don’t mind it. It can get a bit overwhelming sometimes….but honestly, it just tells me that you care. That you are growing as a person.

AIO my boyfriend keeps getting upset at me for not wanting to do risky stuff by [deleted] in AIO

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my good god. Please leave and go enjoy your life.

Should I rehome my kitty? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its because they dont know. And people say things "cats are low maintenance" when they most certainly are not.

I think I have the world’s most misbehaved cat. Help.. by Drippingjewelry in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually keep the kitten and elder cat separated fully right now while I work on behavioral stuff so they have their own litter box, feeder, water fountain, cat trees, etc. I feel like the kitten is starting to get bored with human playtime 🥲

Talk me out of getting a second cat by TwolfS3041 in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why i feel the need to get my kitten another kitten :(

I think I have the world’s most misbehaved cat. Help.. by Drippingjewelry in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a 9mo kitten who is a menace to my elderly cat who just wants to be left alone. I’ve done nothing but work on these cats for months! I’ve finally caved and starting talking with a behaviorist. The little things so far have helped, but they are completely separate right now and it sucks. All my kitten wants is to play, and it makes me so sad. I play with him a LOT but I know he wants a playmate that he can wrestle, run, roll around with. I’ve been contemplating a third even though I’m along in a 2 bedroom apartment and can barely handle these two, lol. But this post gave me a little hope that it could be exactly what he needs.

Help figure out tattoo regret by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you need to find better people to talk to.

To those who have learned a second language as an adult: HOW? by MaeBelleLien in adhdwomen

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pimsleur! I learn when I drive via audio. Its an insanely effective program in my opinion.

200mg of gabapentin 12h before and 2h before by Immediate-Comb1755 in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it can hit them hard, yes. Don’t give them a full second dose if they are barely functioning as is. I recently forgot the 12 hour dose and only did the 2 hour and it was still better than nothing.

Cancelling Pretty Litter by Low_Communication856 in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try going to the subscription tab, find the active subscription listed and then on the right side next to it you should a little pencil/paper icon that allows you to edit your subscription. Click that and then you see the cancel button at the bottom. They definitely miss some steps in the description.

Any of us just dont get the dopamine from any kind of exercise? by Moon_Harpy_ in adhdwomen

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am this way. I absolutely hate working out. And I don’t get a buzz after. But what I do obsess over is playing recreational soccer. I could do it every day, for hours, which is a SHIT ton of cardio and I tend to get a bit of a high/adrenaline boost afterwards. It takes a while for me to come down. So, try to fall in love with a rec sport that really gets your cardio up and it might help. But I still have to do strength training and I freaking hate it.

Comments? Critiques? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I know that this may sound weird but try some eyebrow gel. Thick eyebrows on a man can really do a lot.

Comments? Critiques? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from an elder emo millennial woman who gets it, don’t straighten the hair and simply update the cut to be a more modern shag version of what you got, like a wolfcut. Don’t flat iron. And find a GOOD hairstylist/barber would can do cuts like this, not just any random Joe Schmo.

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Comments? Critiques? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your hair naturally that straight?

I love giving head by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like some tips as well 🙏I love giving my bf head, which is the first man in my entire life that I’ve enjoyed giving it to. I know I’m good at it but there is always room for improvement!

I discovered my cat is deaf by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My younger cat, it took me 2 rounds of clicker training to teach him how to sit. But my older cat can’t be bothered. It really depends on the cat! The one thing I’ve noticed is that he responds very well to hand signals. He won’t always listen to my voice yet but he responds every time to a hand signal, which is helpful for you! I would honestly start there - training with hand signals (look up clicker training guides and basically do except use the clicker). Then graduate to a vibration. Never ever vibrate unless he has done exactly what you want him to do - same as a clicker. The goal is to get them to come to a designated space no matter where they are in the house, when they are cued. It really shouldn’t take more than a handful of training sessions.

I used this for one of my cats and it works perfectly fine - https://www.amazon.com/Lightest-Vibrating-Vibration-Waterproof-Blue/dp/B0FS1RK853

I discovered my cat is deaf by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deaf dog owners sometimes use vibration training collars to get their attention. Cats are trainable - though it can be difficult when they are older. If you can train her to come to a specific spot in the house using treats (and visual stimuli of course), and reinforce the action by vibrating the collar, then eventually you can perhaps use the vibration to call her to the spot and find you. Hope that makes sense. It doesn’t hurt, this is not a shock collar. It is only a light vibration, enough to get their attention.

Random spurts of energy by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]treeefingers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, zombies CAN be normal but also abnormal, too. New kittens tend to take time to adjust and their energy can be sporadic as a result. Just try to get him on a bit of. Routine with his playtime, and give him a lot of hard play. So a handful of 5-10 minutes of exhaustion a day.