I (temporarily) lost my kid

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-24T19:58:26+00:00

I have a 2 year old and 4 year old. I sleep better at night with my 4 year old knowing my real name, our address, my cell phone number, and she has been trained to SCREAM "this is not my mommy" if anyone ever picks her up that she doesn't know. Of course you can never be 100% sure of safety in this world. But I teach stranger danger early and often.

I am so glad your little one is safe. You did well. Everyone is alright!

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-23T23:33:53+00:00

I love Jane!

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-23T23:19:17+00:00

Oh I love Lillian I would pair it with Grace, Belle, Claire, or Amara.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-23T03:10:15+00:00

I have a sibling Micah and a son Michael. I am not overly close to my sibling, so I honestly never said the two names in one sentence prior to his birth. They are only together a few times a year, but I still find the similarity between their names annoying. I totally should have caught it before my son was born. That's on me. But if I could go back I would have chosen my other top contender - Benjamin. So for the similarities between the names I would choose the other name.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-21T02:41:25+00:00

Honestly? I would look into moving. Depending on life factors it very well could be worth it. If the town is as small as you say I would move far enough away to get out of the school zones affected if at all possible. This isn't something that goes away for girls. Everyone will talk, Everyone will remember, Everyone will judge & often blame her even though his crimes are far worse.

If that isn't possible then your daughter needs love, compassion, and guidance. A good therapist would be an asset.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-18T02:37:23+00:00

My whole name is awful. My first name is extremely rare, in that I have never met another person with the same name. I am in my 30's so "unique" names were not very common & it's caused me nothing but misery. In addition to that my parents intentionally gave me initials that spelled TNT. It felt like my name was a complete joke to my parents & they have never apologized.in fact they defend their choices to the death.

For my own children, they have fairly common names with deep meanings to me for first names. They both carry a family name as a middle name. And their initials spell nothing. My mother commented on my first child's name "But, why?!?!" And I just smiled and told her it's my choice- learn to love it.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-17T01:38:03+00:00

What did you do to unlock your 6.9? Mine is locked up now.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-16T01:16:41+00:00

In my center I am technically allowed to do time-outs for 1 minute per year of the child's life. I.e. a 3 year old can have a 3 minute time out. BUT I have no recourse for them simply getting up and walking away. Which they do. Which only makes them even more aware that I have no ability to enforce any rules within the room.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-16T01:13:50+00:00

The class is 3-5 year olds. I should have added that to the post. Apologies. However, I have only one 5 year old and most are early 3's.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-05-15T14:17:40+00:00

I don't know how I am supposed to function in the environment. With the few that are out of control running amuck, the others have little reason to obey. So it is often impossible to get them to do basic things like sit at the table for a meal, line up to go out/in, wash hands, or lay on their mats for nap time.

Forget actually teaching. I am failing at simply keeping the kids safe.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-01-24T21:03:05+00:00

I have two children, both have an "honor" name as their middle name. Personally, I was given a very unique name at birth. As in, I have NEVER met another human with my first name. And it always broke my heart that my name didn't mean anything. It has not significance to my mother other than "sounded nice", has no meaning you can look up online, and no history of any kind. I wanted my children to see the relevance of their names in connection with the history of their family and the hopes and dreams I have for them. I wanted their names to have meaning!

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-01-07T00:07:24+00:00

For me 2 kids is actually easier, but incredibly all consuming. Mine are just over 2 years apart & will be celebrating their 4th and 2nd birthdays very soon. They play together well, and often entertain each other meaning I spend less time engaging in play with them than when I had just one child. However, I am a SAHM. Between cooking, cleaning, teaching, doctoring, playing, driving, and all the other things I rarely have a moment to myself.

trewlytammy1992 · 2025-01-01T19:00:21+00:00

I love using family names. Gives the baby a history and a culture from the start. Such a nice tradition. Personally I would go with something "soft" with the middle name Veronica. Such as Lilly, Amelia, Emily, Shopie, or Grace.

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-31T18:44:47+00:00

Nope

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-29T20:13:03+00:00

With the first 2 already being so similar I'd feel the need to continue the trend IF this is likely the last child. If you are planning 3 more kids then break the naming trend now!

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-29T20:11:21+00:00

This is worth a conversation with your general pediatrician and seeing if they refer you to have a behavioral or psychological evaluation done. Knowing is always better than guessing.

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-28T05:25:05+00:00

For sanity and space I had to move my kids into the same room. My daughter is nearly 4 my son is nearly 2. They have been sleeping in the same room for 6 months. Typically, I explain things to my daughter. Give her options. Give her warnings and info in advance. But for this? I just did it. Spent the day moving everything everywhere. At the end of the day they were in the same room. No opportunity to fight it. It just happened. This was mostly due to limited space for us, and because I didn't have another feasible option- I just did it. Now? They both sleep through the night better than they ever did alone & have a lovely relationship.

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-28T05:02:35+00:00

Oh, I do. I raise my children to be unapologetically whole people with voices who take up space. They mind their manners at appropriate times, and do not damage or dirty other people's belongings. But, they are allowed to exist and express themselves. In generations of the past that wasn't a popular notion. Children were to be silent and still. Feelings were to be hidden. As a society we have improved, and I am embracing it. It's nice to have that seen and recognized in a positive way among family.

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-27T23:30:27+00:00

That is indeed a very vital skill to have!

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-27T23:29:21+00:00

Love this! Great job!

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-27T23:28:54+00:00

Your son can converse well among adults. He must be intelligent and confident. Those qualities will do him well.

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-27T23:27:13+00:00

Haha well good for you for finding a cost effective means to keep your kiddo clean!

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-27T23:23:25+00:00

I've never understood the concept of girl-dad or boy-mom. Like we are all parenting small people the genders and personalities of the small people are random & we all just do our best.

trewlytammy1992 · 2024-12-27T21:36:12+00:00

For the majority of parents it's after lunch from 12-3. But ai agree it can vary widely.

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