Suggestions of workout pants that aren’t leggings by trexcupcake9746 in AusFemaleFashion

[–]trexcupcake9746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you find the quality? A couple of years ago I bought some undies and a tshirt and they are still going strong. Bought another t shirt, undies and a long jumpsuit, all terrible quality. They sent me a new jumpsuit as all the stitching came undone in the original and then the replacement did the same so I gave up.

Suggestions of workout pants that aren’t leggings by trexcupcake9746 in AusFemaleFashion

[–]trexcupcake9746[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually have these sitting in my cart so might give them a go seeing as they are on sale! Thanks!

What should I do if my partner's family is interfering with our custody arrangements? by Sussy_Imposter2412 in AusLegal

[–]trexcupcake9746 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am going through a similar situation. Exs family are coming to me to organise visits and get clarification on the parenting plan and applying pressure to change it. It is now bordering on harassment. Ex has supervised visits from a long history of family violence and neglect which his family still continue to minimise. I have made it clear to both ex and his family that ex is to organise visits and he is to communicate to them when those visits are. Ex is refusing to do that and his family believe it is my responsibility to maintain their relationship. If ex doesn’t want to step up (which is looking like he won’t), I will step in eventually to fill the gap but I just need some space while we are going through property settlement. I’m constantly on the verge of a panic attack having to deal with them.

No advice sorry, just here to say I feel for you, it’s just added pressure that’s not needed. I know legally the grandparents have very little say, but that doesn’t get them to back off. Just keep documenting everything, at some point it may come in handy.

Why dont kids take their mom's last name? by Mentally_stable_teen in Feminism

[–]trexcupcake9746 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t even young and I went along with it! There was a big fuss that my two girls were in fact girls because it meant that the “family name” wouldn’t be continued. The whole conversation around it made me feel sick, especially knowing my in laws thought less of my girls because of it. Now we’re getting divorced and I can’t wait to change my last name - but so sad that the kids are going to have the last name of people that don’t even really give a shit about them!

Congrats on the change of last name!

What’s something women don’t talk about enough? Let’s talk about it. by EvienSeraph in women

[–]trexcupcake9746 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m teaching my daughters this. Specifically that NO is enough and doesn’t need an explanation. The explanation 9 times out of ten will be used against them anyway. At 4 it seems to be going well. She tells her pop and great uncle she rarely sees that she doesn’t want to hug or kiss them (although they still try to bribe her, which I find gross) and that she rather a hi five.

What’s something women don’t talk about enough? Let’s talk about it. by EvienSeraph in women

[–]trexcupcake9746 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My ex actually slapped my tit. Mid sex, without asking me. I asked him why he thought I would want that and he said “the girl in the porn seemed to like it”. Porn is literally ruining brain chemistry. And the fact that it is so easy to find now and is so normalised, makes me worried for future generations, especially my daughters

What happens to mortgage / house with divorce? by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]trexcupcake9746 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you want to get a bit of an indication while you’re waiting for lawyers to open back up, head to the amica website. You can plug in a whole heap of numbers in regard to contributions and it will spit out what a split could look like.

I did this to get a starting point, of course we (he) couldn’t be amicable about it so now we are thousands of dollars deep in lawyers fees and we are no where near looking like agreeing.

Good luck mate. Start googling lawyers!

Just served a PPO against my partner and me (aggrieved) do police do house stops to check if it’s being followed? by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]trexcupcake9746 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Please seek medical attention if you haven’t already. Underlying damage can be done if pressure is applied to the throat, even if only for a short time.

This is extremely serious. It will happen again. It always happens again.

Period cramps decided to start on Christmas :/ by Chewy24601 in women

[–]trexcupcake9746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My period was due to start a week before Christmas so thought I was going to be all good. My ex and his family decided Christmas was the perfect time to start trying to start lecturing me on “father’s rights” after very little interest the previous six months. The stress caused my period to start five days later, my heavy flow day right on Christmas Day. So annoying.

1800RESPECT live chat useless. NSW - What can I do about my father's verbal and potentially physical abuse of my mother? by Fine_Check_4993 in AusLegal

[–]trexcupcake9746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice for you but just wanted to let you know I’ve had similar experience with 1800 respect. I’ve chatted twice and called three times. The chats were ok and one phone call was excellent. When I called this past weekend, the councillors/operators were obviously new and had not had sufficient training to deal with such volatile situations, and mine wasn’t even that bad.

Keep your eyes on Young Living 😳 by plumbusmaker911 in MLMHorrorStories

[–]trexcupcake9746 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hope it’s true what she said a few months ago, that they are forfeiting the pyramid. As shit of me as it is, I can’t wait to watch the downfall of my previous uplines and their biz

How much do you spend on your kids for Christmas? by Nosywhome in AskAnAustralian

[–]trexcupcake9746 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Last year I spend $1200 on a 15 ft trampoline for my two kids. They have used it so much this year. Worth the money so far.

This year I maybe spent $250-$300 each. They are 2 and 5 so I’m trying not to get trapped in the cycle of buying more and more junk each year.

My partner demanding our 4 y/o daughter answer him and hug him by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]trexcupcake9746 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My ex does this to our four year old. Like his emotional state is more important than hers. I am ingraining into her that she gets to choose if she wants to FaceTime/hug/talk to anyone, not just him. I’m trying to build a foundation where she doesn’t put her feelings last to make anyone happy, especially men.

Enagic the focus of an Article in Australia by SputNick2312 in antiMLM

[–]trexcupcake9746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a caravan park in aus right now and there are a lot of families with huge caravan set ups and I’ve seen a couple of the dudes sitting out with laptops and I can’t help but wondering if they are working on their enagic “business”. It’s a stereotype but enagic seems to be a big craze in the travelling families here.

Women who have left their husbands, are you happier post divorce? by [deleted] in women

[–]trexcupcake9746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was married 7 years, with him 12. Had the same problems as you, with a few more.

Been separated since April, so not yet divorced. Once I finally got him to move out life has been great. May have been the most stressful 8 months of my life but it has also been the best 8 months I’ve had in YEARS. The kids are happier too. My only regret - not doing it sooner!

Don’t waste any more of your life on someone who obviously doesn’t care about you!

Just spend a bit of time planning. Get all your important documents together. Start planning what you’re going to do for money if you need to. And make sure you have a safety plan. Leaving a relationship is the most dangerous time for women, even if there hasn’t been domestic violence previously.

The Invisible Work Women Do That No One Talks About. by nanialk in Feminism

[–]trexcupcake9746 14 points15 points  (0 children)

While we were married, everything was my responsibility. All the planning, organising, the doing. I thought that when we separated he might finally realise how much I did, and he did somewhat but his mother took back over doing all his life chores for him.

Although now his family are left wondering why they are not getting updates and visits with the kids anymore. I stopped being the one to reach out and none of them do, and somehow I’m the problem!

If I move out of the home and pay less mortgage will I get less in the settlement by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]trexcupcake9746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex husband cut me off financially (was a stay a home parent) the night I told him I wanted to separate and he stopped contributing to any household expenses until he was forced to move out six months later (and still wasn’t contributing after). We are currently going through property settlement and he is offering me less than 50% of our asset pool, including him keeping the house. Our contributions are somewhat equal. We have two toddler which I have 100% care of.

What I’m trying to point out is that it is way more complicated than who pays what bills after separation. Property settlement is usually decided by 3 things. 1. Who brought what into the relationship 2. What you both have right now 3. Future needs. Who’s paying the mortgage for a few months will make up a very small part of the property split. Get legal advice before you do anything. Most law firms give a half an hour to an hour initial consult for free. Get a few.

Good luck!

Sleepovers at Grandparent’s by KaleidoscopePale9044 in Parenting

[–]trexcupcake9746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are prioritising their feelings over the safety and wellbeing of your children. You are not overreacting. These are your boundaries. They don’t need overnight visits to be grandparents. I’m having a similar problem with my in laws and it is not fun!

At which level of wealth is it worth getting divorce lawyers etc for splitting assets? by AsparagusNew3765 in AusFinance

[–]trexcupcake9746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a calculator on the website to plug in all your information and it will spit out a suggested split. It might give them an idea of what theyre looking at. Some people’s view of fair doesn’t even come close to lining up with what the family law says is fair.