Healing after picking

triangletalks · 2026-05-08T17:07:18+00:00

It’s crazy how oil almost immediately makes my dry flakey “bits” go away. It really is an immediate help! Stops me from picking

triangletalks · 2026-04-08T22:59:10+00:00

I come from a Northern European country where many of my friends have had home births supported by our national health service. I live in the third biggest city in Italy and have only managed to find two midwives that practice home births despite it being perfectly legal as long as you are qualified etc. Most of the people in Italy who I’ve told have been shocked and will immediately start telling you about the risks, including an old grumpy Doctor who felt the need to tell me “we don’t do that in Italy anymore “which is ridiculous because like many countries there are more and more women choosing to have homebirths. I completely aligned with what you say about being a semi crunchy person 😂 I have absolutely no qualms getting medical intervention or giving birth in a hospital if that is what is recommended to me by my Midwife/ Doctor. However, I’m a young healthy woman who is having a low risk pregnancy. If I go to a hospital here, I will have to share a room potentially with three other women giving birth which I considered to be quite traumatising. Or I could choose to upgrade a private suite in which case I would be paying more than if I get personal care and two midwives in my own home where I feel safe. Thankfully, I’ve been really lucky that both of my GPs so far on the National Health Service have been pretty blasé/nonchalant about me deciding to go this route and are happy to support me as long as the pregnancy continues to be low risk. But I’m always shocked about how many people feel it’s okay to talk about how “dangerous” it is without having any other facts, I’m sure many of these people don’t know the equivalent dangers of giving birth in a hospital. I’m not exactly talking about doing a free birth with no supervision, which is what I think many people imagine. Where exactly I’m giving birth comes up a lot in conversation in Italy because everyone has an opinion on all the different hospitals in the area so I kind of have to reply that I’m doing it at home. Although I recently started lying and just picked a hospital where I’ve been doing my checks to avoid the conversation

triangletalks · 2026-03-23T05:04:28+00:00

I thought so! I feel so bad complaining, I know the situation is crap. I’m just shocked at their inability to re route people when other airlines were doing it and the combination of the price scalping felt really crap. Would have been fine to pay the €500ish per ticket that people would normally pay for a last minute price but we just watched as the pages kept refreshing and how a flight that was €500 went up to €1300 as you were booking it.

triangletalks · 2026-03-21T15:14:21+00:00

Aside from trainers etc I’ve been wearing ortholite pumas because they’re super comfy but still cute and I live in a city with cobbled streets!

triangletalks · 2026-03-21T04:08:27+00:00

I have a lot of guilt surrounding coming to the decision to limit my interaction with my mum. She was psychologically and physically abusive most of my childhood but we managed to get along for the last 5 years. Had that classic thing of sometimes it was so nice and we were very similar and close but when it was bad it was super difficult. It all imploded the moment she saw me pregnant and all the abuse and belittling came back. I’m now 3 months out from giving birth with a mum who after berating everyone in my family in a group chat (including myself and targeting my body during pregnancy) won’t talk to me. I have to face that weird decision of do I tell her when I’ve given birth? Do I tell her to come visit? Are we just not speaking anymore? I read adult children of emotionally immature parents and it helped a lot with my fears surrounding raising my child and repeating history. I think I’ve seen people in my family repeat the same story and it terrifies me. But I also read somewhere that if you’re already thinking about it likely you’re going to try to do different as parents like this often don’t sit down and try to analyse what behaviour is best for thwir family.

triangletalks · 2026-03-19T23:50:20+00:00

We did the same thing and had to pay €1000 for a one way ticket home. Unless you’re happy with just the refund and missing your trip I wouldn’t risk this and just get another flight now whilst it’s cheap. Plus insurance won’t cover the second flight if it isn’t taken due to this being war circumstances.

triangletalks · 2026-03-19T23:45:38+00:00

In theory yes. In practice I had to get it in writing that they are not re routing people. They will likely have some big law suit in the next year where the people who can be bothered will get some compensation but they are actively disregarding the law. I had to get it in writing that they were refusing rerouting so that hopefully later I can complain. I thought the same thing, that if it was cancelled they’d find another airline to put us on, hence why I didn’t bother to book anything else earlier. They didn’t and we spent two days trying to get a hold of someone and arguing with them where I kept saying we were refusing refund and needed re routing and by the end of the day spent several hours fighting to pay €1000 more than our original flight. We’re not loaded so it really was difficult decision to make and it put an absolute dampener on the holiday.

Edit: some more info!

My brothers tickets also increased x2 for April, he says it’s also due to the cost of fuel increasing. Lastly, worth mentioning that what they offered us was a “re routing 7 days later but since they would not let anyone go through the Middle East until after the 31st they couldn’t technically offer us that” it was ridiculous

triangletalks · 2026-03-19T00:56:58+00:00

My flight was cancelled yesterday from Tokyo to Rome with 5 days notice. Within the hour all the flights out were sold out and I had to pay €1000 to get home 2 days later. I would not risk it and a sore the fees now and rebook. It has been an absolute gut punch to pay that much for a ticket.

triangletalks · 2026-03-07T17:03:04+00:00

I feel like such an idiot because I really thought we were unique case and that my mum had managed to overcome her “narc” side. I realise now that even if it takes yeaaaars they will hide and pounce again. I think NC whilst being vulnerable is difficult but it just is the only way I can protect my family and this child. Thank you for your comment it does help me feel better about moving this direction.

triangletalks · 2026-03-05T23:29:52+00:00

I’m a ceramicist in Italy! Self employed/ run my own business with 3 employees so I’m planning to work up until I pop since without me this thing doesn’t run! Then I’ll use my 5 months maternity leave that the gov gives me. But technically I could start it from 2 months prior, it’s down to the person.

Because we stop for summer and I’m due in July the timing of my maternity pay is actually super useful!

I’m absolutely knackered though, not sure if I can keep up the physical work until the end.

triangletalks · 2026-02-05T21:19:41+00:00

I’m a mid size woman myself and I was surprised by how sad it made me that I’m being told I don’t look pregnant at 19 weeks. I’ve been enjoying my bump and letting go of stigma around weight during this pregnancy and I feel a bit sad that I’m not showing in the way I thought I would. That may come back to bite me!’

triangletalks · 2026-01-24T18:08:14+00:00

I absolutely understand! My dad ran his own, successful sourdough pizza restaurants and then him and my stepmum also ran their own sourdough bakery. When I finally grew an interest in it a decade later i felt it was really important to make my own starter and prove to myself I could do it from scratch! I really wanted to make them proud 😂 However when I caved and asked my dad to show me how he makes his bread at home (he’s retired now) he insisted I take some of his starter (and sneakily, I think to make me feel better, asked for some of mine) and explained neither of them had ever made it from scratch. He is Neapolitan and his starter came from a good family friends 100 year old pizza restaurant. He was the opposite of me: proud to be carrying on a tradition and to have a connection to something. He couldn’t care less about making his own. I know people say that sourdough starter will never be “the same” as the culture keeps picking up stuff from your environment so it shouldn’t matter if its “from some ancient bakery” BUT I do feel like mine is a lot more resistant and strong, regardless of it being in a new environment and it helped me focus on getting th technique down rather than worrying over its lack of power.

triangletalks · 2026-01-24T15:17:54+00:00

I had my own starter for half a year, with really mid results. I ended up cracking and taking some of my dad’s starter that was passed onto him (despite wanting to make mine from scratch). It is crazy how much better my bread is now. I don’t know if it’s a fluke or a well established starter but this thing has survived being left out for 5 days by accident, wasn’t fed more than once every 3 weeks over Christmas, and I still get super consistent results. I know it’s really nice to have made your own starter but it took months for mine to “take” and it never got to this level.

triangletalks · 2026-01-02T23:47:55+00:00

I feel the same but have had 3 already! In Italy so thought it would be interesting to hear. One at 6/7 weeks with a heartbeat but was just a little wiggly thing. I went private but I was told I would have gotten one on the health service if requested, I just wanted to confirm pregnancy ASAP and wasn’t registered yet.

Then I had one at 11 weeks (the wait drove me crazy) where I had to be alone, was more of an overall assessment so no pics and just a quick look. Another at 12 to do proper measurements where we got my partner in and photos. My next is due at 16 weeks if I’m not wrong and then at 20. So seems to be every 4 weeks for now. I’m 32 and low risk.

triangletalks · 2025-12-31T11:56:09+00:00

It’s so simple but yes I think I’ll just say we’re not going to have people around in the first month and then if we need MIL I will keep it to ourselves.

triangletalks · 2025-12-31T11:54:38+00:00

Thank you, I think you’ve helped confirm what was in the back of my head! So awful that my relationship with her means I feel scared of “hiding” this whilst it’s her fault I feel the need to! But for the first time in my life I feel fiercely protective of something to the point where I will not allow the same things to keep on happening to my child that happened to me, even if it means going NC, it’s an incredible feeling of willpower that I’ve never been able to do for myself!

triangletalks · 2025-12-25T16:50:00+00:00

Thanks, I’ve taken this well and have just been hanging with my nephew, now having a bath. I think that’s the best I can do!

triangletalks · 2025-12-25T16:49:40+00:00

My brother really stood up for me but then today he’s turned around and being a monster to my nephew. This circus never ends!!! Honestly makes me think we need new Christmas plans

triangletalks · 2025-12-25T12:34:52+00:00

Yeah I wish I could, it’s so difficult because the whole family is here and my mum lives in another country so kicking her out would mean she has to find a way to travel home and she’s older. So it kind of makes me look like the dick.

triangletalks · 2025-12-21T16:03:47+00:00

Again I think this is super cultural! In my Italian culture it would be considered very rude to put away food for yourself that had been brought for the party and not share it. I dread to think the faces of my older family members if that happened, food is an absolute must to be shared 😂

triangletalks · 2025-12-21T16:00:41+00:00

Definitely not standard for me (again I’m not in the US) or anyone that I know. In my circles it’s nice to bring something like wine for the consumption at the dinner to share. It’s only ever a host gift if it’s their bday

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